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Sex

randomuser
edited July 2009 in General
So, I'm just wondering some things.

Whats your experiences with casual sex? I've never hooked up with complete strangers, but I mean I've done it with people I haven't known well, who were just friends. I always found afterwards I had this sudden urge to flee the scene. Such excuses as I have to go up early tomorrow, or I would convince the guy to leave if it was at my place.

Then I'm wondering, what do you think is the difference, when you have casual sex with someone and feelings start to develop as opposed to just casual one time sex.

Can you have long term sex and not develop emotions at all?

Anyone else have any odd things they found about sex?
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  • Hope_2016Hope_2016
    edited March 2009
    randomuser;51139 said:
    So, I'm just wondering some things.

    Whats your experiences with casual sex? I've never hooked up with complete strangers, but I mean I've done it with people I haven't known well, who were just friends. I always found afterwards I had this sudden urge to flee the scene. Such excuses as I have to go up early tomorrow, or I would convince the guy to leave if it was at my place.

    Then I'm wondering, what do you think is the difference, when you have casual sex with someone and feelings start to develop as opposed to just casual one time sex.

    Can you have long term sex and not develop emotions at all?

    Anyone else have any odd things they found about sex?
    To be honest, I have never had sex. Serious, I am not kidding.
  • buflibufli
    edited March 2009
    randomuser;51139 said:
    So, I'm just wondering some things.

    Whats your experiences with casual sex? I've never hooked up with complete strangers, but I mean I've done it with people I haven't known well, who were just friends. I always found afterwards I had this sudden urge to flee the scene. Such excuses as I have to go up early tomorrow, or I would convince the guy to leave if it was at my place.

    Then I'm wondering, what do you think is the difference, when you have casual sex with someone and feelings start to develop as opposed to just casual one time sex.

    Can you have long term sex and not develop emotions at all?

    Anyone else have any odd things they found about sex?
    omg the world needs more women like u lol
    seriously so many times chicks don't clue in that they need to go home and instead make themselves @ home :S i mean how much more awkward could some people get lol
  • randomuser
    edited March 2009
    It depends on the guy and how well I know him, but some people need to get the point, if its like 10PM thats plenty of time for you to go home. I just don't have time in the morning to be sharing a bathroom, and diverting myself out of my way.

    Some people I want to stay the night and I wouldn't let them leave.
  • buflibufli
    edited March 2009
    ^ well ya if I'm dating the person and/or i wanna be in a relationship with them @ some point then ya i would want them to stay
    otherwise, crack of dawn, i expect them to grab their stilettos and head for the door
  • vonnie
    edited March 2009
    I guess bufli is the reason the teenage pregnancy rate is going up.
  • online predatoronline predator
    edited March 2009
    MAN! I experienced a clingy :girl_hug: once, she wasn't a stranger as I've known her for a couple of months, and boy was it the best time of my life!!

    I mean sure it's :thumbs_up: for my ego to know that I blew her mind to :star::star: outer space :star::star: that night (he he he... ladies? :wink: ), but she just couldn't stop calling/texting asking me what I'm up to, where I am, when can she call again, etc! For about a week my :mobile_phone: kept :note::note::note:. She just didn't get it even if I'm not picking up anymore. So I told her to go to a party and try to :beer::beer::beer:. But turns out that wasn't probably the best advice because once again my :mobile_phone2: :note::note: that night. I answered and she was hella drunk and prolly high like a :bat: and told me I :unlove: her heart and that she's currently at some random :boy:'s place hinting that she's :angry: and trying to get back at me. She hung up. I took a deep breath and thought to myself "I'm glad that's over!"

    The End.
  • buflibufli
    edited March 2009
    vonnie;51167 said:
    I guess bufli is the reason the teenage pregnancy rate is going up.
    haha oh ya what am i ever gonna do with all these kids?
  • hikin
    edited March 2009
    online predator;51170 said:
    MAN! I experienced a clingy :girl_hug: once, she wasn't a stranger as I've known her for a couple of months, and boy was it the best time of my life!!

    I mean sure it's :thumbs_up: for my ego to know that I blew her mind to :star::star: outer space :star::star: that night (he he he... ladies? :wink: ), but she just couldn't stop calling/texting asking me what I'm up to, where I am, when can she call again, etc! For about a week my :mobile_phone: kept :note::note::note:. She just didn't get it even if I'm not picking up anymore. So I told her to go to a party and try to :beer::beer::beer:. But turns out that wasn't probably the best advice because once again my :mobile_phone2: :note::note: that night. I answered and she was hella drunk and prolly high like a :bat: and told me I :unlove: her heart and that she's currently at some random :boy:'s place hinting that she's :angry: and trying to get back at me. She hung up. I took a deep breath and thought to myself "I'm glad that's over!"

    The End.
    that was an awesomely emoticon filled msg. more people should post like this lol
  • vonnie
    edited March 2009
    hikin;51187 said:
    that was an awesomely emoticon filled msg. more people should post like this lol
    Must have taken days! lol.

    If we had better emots I would use them more :cry:
  • schmoey
    edited March 2009
    online predator;51170 said:
    she's currently at some random :boy:'s place hinting that she's :angry: and trying to get back at me
    In context, I see that as an emoticon for screwin'.
  • xxk1nky
    edited March 2009
    I think casual sex is great, as long as feelings don't start to develop. I've done it with a semi-complete stranger (we knew eachother for a few hours) and we've had this "relationship" for over a year. It's great! We usually go for sushi after or he plays me a song on his guitar or go ride on his motorcycle or whatever. It's really casual and the sex is amazing.

    I used to work with my other fuckbuddy and used to have a huge crush on him but it was on and off. After we fucked, I dunno, I felt pretty much the same but the crush had faded by then. I thought at times that maybe it could go somewhere but after thinking about it, I realized that it wouldn't work out. Trying to start off a relationship after fucking is kinda hard to do, in my opinion.

    Luckily, all my men have their own place and have always driven me home after. I never really want to hang around unless I'm falling asleep or gonna pass out or whatever. Fucking is business. Once we finish, it's time to leave and move on with my day (or pass out).
  • online predatoronline predator
    edited March 2009
    ^Now, that's hella kinky.

    I wish I had a fb (facebook). Either way at least I'm sure as hell to have a story to tell my grandkids about how my college years were quite adventurous.
  • online predatoronline predator
    edited March 2009
    schmoey;51191 said:
    In context, I see that as an emoticon for screwin'.
    Too bad we don't have any screwdriver emoticon to express "screwing" or similarly a hammer for "getting hammered", a drill for "getting drilled" or a nail for "getting nailed" Man construction workers probably get the best lunch break conversations.
  • buflibufli
    edited March 2009
    ^ hahah i got a card back in the day for valentines day that was pretty funny imo

    the cover was white with an image like so:
    screw-standard.jpg


    and inside it just said:
    well?


    i was gonna give it to the girl i was seeing at the time but i thought it would be a waste since i would neways :P
  • Agentbob
    edited March 2009
    Feels a little violated when the other person leaves the next day. I guess it's different if you're more comfortable with yourself like kinky.
  • siuying
    edited March 2009
    hahaha.. that post was so colorful that i had to stop and read the whole story.. XD

    the usage of :bat: was hilarious!!

    and i agree with vonnie, we need better emoticons.. i LOVE onion head!!!
  • hikin
    edited March 2009
    Agentbob;51242 said:
    Feels a little violated when the other person leaves the next day. I guess it's different if you're more comfortable with yourself like kinky.
    so you are a girl?
  • imelting
    edited March 2009
    hes a dude!
  • randomuser
    edited March 2009
    Agentbob;51242 said:
    Feels a little violated when the other person leaves the next day. I guess it's different if you're more comfortable with yourself like kinky.
    Why violated if they leave the next day? They've gotta go at some point.
  • buflibufli
    edited March 2009
    Ya they gotta go u ain't married :p enjoy life
  • schmoey
    edited March 2009
    hikin;51244 said:
    so you are a girl?
    Hmm.. I think the statement still works for both genders.
  • lazyGUY
    edited March 2009
    schmoey;51250 said:
    Hmm.. I think the statement still works for both genders.
    theres guys that feel violated after they get laid?
    thats new to me
  • buflibufli
    edited March 2009
    lazyGUY;51262 said:
    theres guys that feel violated after they get laid?
    thats new to me
    well if they get ass raped lmao
  • schmoey
    edited March 2009
    bufli;51263 said:
    well if they get ass raped lmao
    Yeah which is definitely a possibility, considering it's AgentBob.

    ... jkz.
  • ChaozXIII
    edited March 2009
    not to be homophobic but the correct term is forcefully sodomized for guys.
  • Agentbob
    edited March 2009
    hikin;51244 said:
    so you are a girl?
    Has it occurred to anyone that I could be a gay guy?
    randomuser;51247 said:
    Why violated if they leave the next day? They've gotta go at some point.
    Some people don't make their intention of having casual sex known. Emotional attachment (for me at least) happens when I have sex, and expect to get the same in return. It's what makes sex all that better. If I don't, I feel shallow and used. Of course, there's absolutely nothing wrong with casual sex, and it's certainly a great way to experiment. However, some of us look for different things, and probably won't see the appeal of casual sex.

    Then again, I'm not entirely comfortable with taking it up the ass from someone I only know for a couple of hours. Different strokes for different folks.
  • hikin
    edited March 2009
    Agentbob;51305 said:
    Has it occurred to anyone that I could be a gay guy?
    yes it has,

    was just confused cause you had a picture of what appeared to be a girl on your display pic before.

    sorry, if you were offended by my guess.
  • Agentbob
    edited March 2009
    hikin;51308 said:
    yes it has,

    was just confused cause you had a picture of what appeared to be a girl on your display pic before.

    sorry, if you were offended by my guess.
    Haha, nah, I'm not at all offended. Not too keen on revealing my sexual orientation sometimes. My talksfu is account is confusing though.
  • randomuser
    edited March 2009
    Agentbob;51305 said:
    Has it occurred to anyone that I could be a gay guy?



    Some people don't make their intention of having casual sex known. Emotional attachment (for me at least) happens when I have sex, and expect to get the same in return. It's what makes sex all that better. If I don't, I feel shallow and used. Of course, there's absolutely nothing wrong with casual sex, and it's certainly a great way to experiment. However, some of us look for different things, and probably won't see the appeal of casual sex.

    Then again, I'm not entirely comfortable with taking it up the ass from someone I only know for a couple of hours. Different strokes for different folks.
    Well I mean, even if you're dating someone, someone generally goes home the next day. I can see if someone goes home that night it can be a bit odd, but even people in relationships do that sometimes.
  • ralph2087
    edited March 2009
    randomuser;51139 said:
    So, I'm just wondering some things.

    Whats your experiences with casual sex? I've never hooked up with complete strangers, but I mean I've done it with people I haven't known well, who were just friends. I always found afterwards I had this sudden urge to flee the scene. Such excuses as I have to go up early tomorrow, or I would convince the guy to leave if it was at my place.

    Then I'm wondering, what do you think is the difference, when you have casual sex with someone and feelings start to develop as opposed to just casual one time sex.

    Can you have long term sex and not develop emotions at all?

    Anyone else have any odd things they found about sex?
    Yes... I think you can have long term sex relationships... with friends too... I think. Well, I've been friends with this girl for about 4 years now, but she's always had a BF... what I didn't realize was that it was an open relationship... and she wanted me bad. Anyway, I don't think it changes anything... or doesn't have to.

    Of course.. my other experience wasn't so great. *I* thought it was just sex, but apparently I was misleading her. She confronted me and asked me if our relationship was going anywhere... she was pretty upset with me when I told her no. I *thought* I wasn't getting laid that night.

    Anyway..those are my stories. I'm an emotionless bastard.

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