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Was I A Dick On Valentines Day?

edited February 2008 in General
So here's what happened =)

I like this girl that lives in UK, AND she has a bf...

The problem is that we flirt all the time when we talk on msn or whenever we call each other. Oh, and on top of that, I don't think that her bf knows about me. I don't really care that she's seeing someone else either cos I know it's just kinda flirting and I'm pretty sure we'll hook up next time go to there.

so I knew that her bf is kinda a busy person, just from the fact that she has so much time for me, and I knew that he'd either forget about V-day or not plan anything really big, and she kept telling me how he's not very romantic and stuff, so I decided that if he's not something and she's not happy with it, I should do it.

I decided to fly out to England... No, just kididng =)

I decided to send her flowers... Now, for those who don't know me, I'm a very tactical person and I'm very very thorough with things when I put my mind to it. The flowers that I sent her, I made sure that there were a lot of them, and the reason I decided to send her 3 dozen roses was for the following reason; I knew the guy would either not get her flowers, or if he did it would just be a single rose. and I didn't get that many roses so that she would see that I'm the "better" guy, but I got it more for the reason to piss him off. I personally think that the plan was really good, but I was just being a bit of a jerk =/

Oh, the best part is that she knew that only 3 people would send her flowers, her dad, her bf or me... Obviously I had forgotten to put my name on the card, so she didn't know whom they were from and she called her bf first to see if he had sent her flowers... you can only imagine how pissed he was when he found out that someone else got her flowers =)
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  • edited February 2008
    Mengs;22929 said:
    The problem is that we flirt all the time when we talk on msn or whenever we call each other. Oh, and on top of that, I don't think that her bf knows about me. I don't really care that she's seeing someone else either cos I know it's just kinda flirting and I'm pretty sure we'll hook up next time go to there.
    You're a homewrecker, end of story. Doesn't "off-limits" mean anything to you?
    Stop going for a girl who has a boyfriend; it's in every way wrong.
    You know you're doing something wrong and you're still doing it, according to your quote. That's even worse.
    And it seemed like they were in an alright relationship too, at least what I felt was implied in your story.

    Yes, you were.

    Sorry if I sounded harsh, but what you're doing is wrong.
  • edited February 2008
    vonnie;22930 said:
    Stop going for a girl who has a boyfriend; it's in every way wrong.
    You know you're doing something wrong and you're still doing it, according to your quote. That's even worse.
    I agree with the lady above. You should not go for a girl who already has a boyfriend.
  • edited February 2008
    The flowers that I sent her, I made sure that there were a lot of them, and the reason I decided to send her 3 dozen roses was for the following reason; I knew the guy would either not get her flowers, or if he did it would just be a single rose. and I didn't get that many roses so that she would see that I'm the "better" guy, but I got it more for the reason to piss him off.
    That is, quite possibly, the stupidest thing I've heard today.
  • edited February 2008
    that's was not even close to being tacticful so to speak.. =\ what's the update on the story? did she said anything?
  • edited February 2008
    The board is obviously divided on this issue. Please, people, we need to reach concensus!
  • edited February 2008
    Morro;22942 said:
    The board is obviously divided on this issue. Please, people, we need to reach concensus!
    Really? I thought everyone sided with me ^...^
  • edited February 2008
    Seems hopeless, but I don't see whats wrong with the situation. The guy isn't romantic and probably forgot about V-day. eff that, sorry for giving a girl you like the attention she deserves

    Sucks you forgot to include your name though
  • edited February 2008
    DaNoobie;22946 said:
    Seems hopeless, but I don't see whats wrong with the situation. The guy isn't romantic and probably forgot about V-day. eff that, sorry for giving a girl you like the attention she deserves

    Sucks you forgot to include your name though
    Would you like a guy, sending a fresh flowers cross borders and seas for YOUR girlfriend? even if you accidentally forgot V-day?
  • edited February 2008
    the thing is the girl was flirting and even called him.. she wasn't making herself off limits.. but making herself seem available when she isn't.. if anyone is at wrong here.. i'm gonna say it's the girl.. *awaits the flaming*

    so the guy might not like someone sending flowers to his gf.. that's a reality check for him that there are plenty of fishes in the sea.. if you take a girl or anyone for granted.. chances are they aren't going to stick around..
  • edited February 2008
    vonnie;22948 said:
    Would you like a guy, sending a fresh flowers cross borders and seas for YOUR girlfriend? even if you accidentally forgot V-day?
    Guess I better not forget V-Day eh?

    Plus, sure V-Day is a bit of a commercialism day, if you don't want to celebrate that, so be it. But don't forget about it? Whats next, anniversary? Birthdays?

    btw fwiw, I wouldn't feel threatened by someone overseas, but thats just me.
  • edited February 2008
    You are not a dick. The girl's boyfriend is the dick.
  • edited February 2008
    Buying more flowers than the girl's boyfriend with the intention of outdoing him or pissing him off is pretty much the definition of being a dick.

    Even if the girl was flirting, it's still a dick move.
  • edited February 2008
    no girl is '' off -limits '' unless she has a ring on her hand.

    but then again this is coming from a guy who homewrecks.
  • edited February 2008
    siuying;22951 said:
    the thing is the girl was flirting and even called him.. she wasn't making herself off limits.. but making herself seem available when she isn't.. if anyone is at wrong here.. i'm gonna say it's the girl.. *awaits the flaming*

    so the guy might not like someone sending flowers to his gf.. that's a reality check for him that there are plenty of fishes in the sea.. if you take a girl or anyone for granted.. chances are they aren't going to stick around..
    i agree with the above.
  • edited February 2008
    Ether;22958 said:
    Buying more flowers than the girl's boyfriend with the intention of outdoing him or pissing him off is pretty much the definition of being a dick.

    Even if the girl was flirting, it's still a dick move.
    But Mengs was just doing this for fun, not seriously trying to steal the girl. It's the girl's boyfriend that left the girl vulnerable and lonely.
  • edited February 2008
    Nothing wrong with trying to get a girl to leave her boyfriend for you. It only becomes wrong if you start a relationship/fooling around while she's still with the other guy. But trying to sell yourself as a better deal, and telling her to dump her SO and hop over to your side of the fence, is not bad.
  • edited February 2008
    Ether;22958 said:
    Buying more flowers than the girl's boyfriend with the intention of outdoing him or pissing him off is pretty much the definition of being a dick.

    Even if the girl was flirting, it's still a dick move.
    Ya!!

    Guess everyone approves of homewrecking...
    Gosh, where are the morals these days!
  • edited February 2008
    This chick isn't married.
  • edited February 2008
    Morro;22982 said:
    This chick isn't married.
    Still home wrecking. It's not up to someone else if he is good for her, it's up to her.
  • edited February 2008
    vonnie;22984 said:
    Still home wrecking. It's not up to someone else if he is good for her, it's up to her.
    exactly, so if he is, she'll stay with him and tell the other guy to back off.
  • edited February 2008
    Triple;22985 said:
    exactly, so if he is, she'll stay with him and tell the other guy to back off.
    Exactly. You're not forcing her to do anything.
  • edited February 2008
    Shes the bad one, not him.

    She obviously doesnt like her current boyfriend much if shes flirting back with this guy.

    On the other hand, planning to hook up with someone inspite of the fact they are with someone is kinda douchey, but you can be no more than 33-50% to blame, theres two other people involved.
  • edited February 2008
    I think it's safe to say that all 3 parties involved in this debacle are guilty of douchebaggery of the highest degree.
  • edited February 2008
    Douchenozzelry! The bag is an innocent party in the douche mechanism. Reference the nozzle, free the bag! Douchenozzle!
  • edited February 2008
    vonnie;22984 said:
    Still home wrecking. It's not up to someone else if he is good for her, it's up to her.
    So, what you're saying is that the guy that you meet first is the guy for you?

    I mean, I know I'm wrecking a home, but who's to say that he's the right one for her anyway?

    I don't believe in first come first serve for relationships... I believe in being with the better person...
  • edited February 2008
    Well, Valentine's day is a commercial holiday where you're supposed to show you care for someone (can be romantically or not) by buying them a present so... if you look at the situation in that perspective then buying the girl 3 dozen roses is an innocent move, but it's a dickish move. She seems lonely, but she is still sticking with her guy for some reason, maybe unknown to you- keep that in mind. And besides, why waste your time and energy to win over girl with a bf in the UK when there's single girls over here?
  • edited February 2008
    Mengs;23000 said:


    I don't believe in first come first serve for relationships... I believe in being with the better person...
    Very interesting concept of relationships. In Japan, we look at the long-term outlook with someone. We accept the person for who they are and we grow old together.

    If she is to be with you rather than her current boyfriend. She will most likely leave you for someone else.
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    edited February 2008
    Mengs;23000 said:

    I mean, I know I'm wrecking a home
    Well then back off.

    YOU believe in being with the right person? What the hell does that have to do with pissing off her bf? Why are you doing something that you know is wrong?
  • edited February 2008
    Shizunda;23010 said:
    If she is to be with you rather than her current boyfriend. She will most likely leave you for someone else.
    There is always someone 'better out there', but it doesn't mean that they should go for it. Shizunda is right, if she ends up being with you because you're the 'better' person, she will most likely leave YOU later on to find someone 'better'.
    IVT;23013 said:
    Well then back off.

    YOU believe in being with the right person? What the hell does that have to do with pissing off her bf? Why are you doing something that you know is wrong?
    It's worse when you know it's wrong and you're still doing it.
  • edited February 2008
    Mengs;23000 said:
    So, what you're saying is that the guy that you meet first is the guy for you?
    I mean, I know I'm wrecking a home, but who's to say that he's the right one for her anyway?
    I don't believe in first come first serve for relationships... I believe in being with the better person...
    No, that's not what I'm saying. She's obviously with that guy for a reason, and it might not be the first guy, nor the last, but the fact is she is with HIM.

    Nobody is to say who is right for her except her self (which I stated earlier).

    So with your theory of the better person: You would be okay if were married to a girl for 40 years and she suddenly finds a 'better person' and divorces you for him? I mean, he is the 'better person' in her eyes.

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