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Guys, how long would you wait for sex...
I'm not ready for sex yet. We've been casually dating for about a month now. Friends for a bit before.
He told me he would wait until I was ready, but if it was up to him, it would've been pants off by now. lol
I *totally* trust him that he's not have sex with girls behind my back. We see each other all the time
I am not ready to have to sex until he feels that he's ready to really date me.
HIs reasons for not being to ready to date me its because he's always been in a relationship and enjoys being single and not tied down. This was a month ago.
I feel that we have gotten closer and doesn't want to regard me as just as casual dater, but doesn't want to get labelled with a girlfriend
But guys how long would you wait before you say "Hasta La Vista blondie!"
Just a poll
He told me he would wait until I was ready, but if it was up to him, it would've been pants off by now. lol
I *totally* trust him that he's not have sex with girls behind my back. We see each other all the time
I am not ready to have to sex until he feels that he's ready to really date me.
HIs reasons for not being to ready to date me its because he's always been in a relationship and enjoys being single and not tied down. This was a month ago.
I feel that we have gotten closer and doesn't want to regard me as just as casual dater, but doesn't want to get labelled with a girlfriend
But guys how long would you wait before you say "Hasta La Vista blondie!"
Just a poll
Comments
Regards to him, keep it going as long as you can, because if he would have had sex with you by now, maybe thats all he wants, so pay it safe and make sure that its not all that he wants. It seems like you guys are going good though, if you feel you've gotten closer then you're just gonna keep on getting closer. Try and see where that takes you.
Anyways, about your topic, he will wait until you're ready if hes a good guy. If he doesnt want to wait, then dont bother with him.
guess4life already knows he wants sex and they're not even in a relationship yet. he probably doesn't wanna be in one because he wants the freedom to do whatever he wants with no consequences. his excuses smells like BS cause if he really likes you then he would want to get into a relationship with you.
to me it seems the only reason why he does seem to be waiting is that he is still single at the moment and right now he has nothing to lose. he could still be sleeping around with other girls behind your back and you don't know it. if you two were in a relationship and he still waits patiently for you, then you got a real keeper there.
hey i might be wrong.. but as a guy myself.. unless you want a fuck buddy you should stay clear. or just fuck with his mind and make him think that he'll be getting some.. and then deciding no.. and keep him waiting
If he doesn't want to date you before you have sex, it's doubtful he'll want to after! And I think it's crap about not wanting to be in a relationship because he's always been in one before. If the right person comes along, you'll want to be with them regardless of your past!
i asked a few of my guy friends, and they pretty much agreed but it kinda bugs me to know all guys just wanna have sex when theres so much more to things
he does give me a lot of attention but how am i supposed to know its not gonna go away after we sleep together...i dunno
ive just seen it happen to so many other girls that i dont want to be in that position and get hurt and regret it
that being said, do what ur heart desires, dont get pressured into it :)
And no, it's not what all guys want. Sure they think about it all the time, but men are a lot less obsessively sexual than society makes us believe. Just like women are a lot less virginal and pure!
Frankly, my friend is her first bf. And I don't think my friend can wait that long. I wouldn't be surprised if he says "bye girlfriend" because of all the fights they've been having.
this is somewhat off-topic but it would be a heart breaker if they've been going out for 11months and suddenly separate. =/
I waited for a while with my boyfriend too, but only because I was well aware how sex can ruin a relationship and I liked him too much for that. WORTH WAITING is all I can say. :wink:
anyhow... if he truly appreciates you, it doesn't matter if sex is involved or not right?
I say around a month
I have my needs and having sex doesn't mean that you like someone...
I'm really pissed off at people saying that things change after you have sex, cos that's not true! just because people have sex, it doesn't mean that anything has changed =/ I don't know how to explain it, but does anyone get what I mean?
I mean, just because I wanna have sex, and I don't wanna wait, doesn't make me a bad person and doesn't mean that I don't like the other person any less... does anyone get me?
AND! if you think sex is gonna change stuff, why not just have sex to start off with and nothing will change :D j/k...
There are loads of guys that are jerks and take people out just to have sex... I'm not one of em.. But the thing is, I can get sex someone else too, so if you're nothing special, I'm going :S
So to answer your question; how special are you to this person? =)
now don't get me wrong about suggesting you finding some with the hoes.. but i'm sure there are girls out there who wouldn't mind some casual sex.. i personally think that all guys want a nice girlfriend.. by nice i mean a good person by nature.. and those don't come around often.. in many cases.. good girls have values and demand respect.. so when it comes down to getting a "quality" girlfriend or just some random nights to spend with.. take your pick.. =)