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Breaking Couples Up
So, any thoughts?
Is it bad to persue someone with a bf / gf? If they switch is that their own decision?
Are humans inevitably bound to cheat if it all falls into place?
Is it bad to persue someone with a bf / gf? If they switch is that their own decision?
Are humans inevitably bound to cheat if it all falls into place?
Comments
If the guy you are interested in IS NOT happy in his present relationship, then you have the right to go after the guy and break this relationship up.
Reasons...
-The guy is not his girlfriend's property (and vice versa)
-This "arrangement" will be beneficial for both the guy and the third person
-Dating and relationship is not a contract. Both party in a relationship has the right to terminate the relationship at any moment and for any reason.
-If the guy would break up with his girlfriend just to be with another girl, then CLEARLY the guy is not compatible with his girlfriend...
Your response?
Thats just me though
I want the nice guy now-- who says nice guys always finish last?
I don't even know this bitch hes dating, and frankly she needs to get out of the picture!
I think that both men and women encounter the same level of difficulty when breaking up couples. What's interesting, I find, is that male and female encounter different social stigmas when they are breaking up couples...
What I often notice is that if you are a female who broke a couple up, people will often blame you for breaking up a happy relationship, regardless of rather the relationship is good or not. However, if you were a guy who broke a couple up, people will usually place the blame on the husband or boyfriend for not being able to do a good enough job.
For example, in Chinese culture, we tend to call women who break up a couple the "Fox Demon." "Fox Demon" is a derogatory term used to describe a women as a men luring seductress. However, I have not heard of a this term applied to men. Instead, we tend to call a man whose wife or girlfriend cheated on him as a "wearer of green hat."
Do you speak Cantonese or Mandarin or both? I've never heard of the green hat thing in Cantonese, but I remember a friend who speaks Mandarin asking me how to translate that and I had no idea what he was talking about.
Alrighty, googled it and found something on wikipedia:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cuckold
"The Chinese term for "cuckold" is literally translated to "wearing a green hat" (戴綠帽, dài lǜ mào).[1] It is because of this that it is extremely rare to see any Chinese man wearing a green hat."
Just wondering, have you heard of the "Fox Demoness" term (狐狸精) before? I usually hear this term in Cantonese dramas when a guy's ex-girlfriend would storm up to one of her ex-boyfriend's close female friends and states, "So, you are the Fox Demoness that stole (the guy's name) from me?"
It's weird, non-Asian people think I can only speak Chinese and Asian people think I can only speak English..............................................................
Anyways, randomuser, don't be a homewreaker.
i dont think u have a right to judge ur exs partner. even if you are right, you're still biased and it really shouldn't be ur business IMO
Edit:
and i'm only sayn this cuz i've thought like u at some point in my past.
my advice is to go chill with ur friends take ur mind off it and forget
move forward not backwards
Breaking a couple up is just desperate, low, and pathetic.
Anyway, when someone is telling you how unhappy they are in a relationship that has just begun I wouldn't consider it much of 'homewrecking', especially when they are flirting with you.
This is what I"m talking about when they make a choice.
Come to think about it, this rule should be applied to both guys and girls. But since this thread is focused on girls, I will save it for later.
Anyway, it's not like I'm going to sleep with him while I'm seeing someone, and he is seeing someone, but hell, if the seeds of discontent are there why cant I water them?
Whether or not the guy or girl says he/she's happy with the relationship, it's not right to get in between them because obviously you're only gonna make it worse for them. You wouldn't want a third person attempting to steal your partner everytime you two argue.
Karma's a bitch, so you be careful.
Some people have changes of heart, relationships are not forever, as long as you're not cheating I don't see anything moral problems.
I would much rather seeing someone quickly deliver the Coup de grâce and terminate the relationship instead of staying in the background and watch your potential partner feel miserable and unhappy with his or her current partner. Notice that I use the term Coup de grâce. This is because this rule should be used only when the relationship is unsalvagable.
I suspect that most people remain with the partner they are unhappy being with because they are worried that they may not be able to find a new one soon. Therefore, you need to show these people that a replace is ready on stand-by.
For example, someone right now should step up to the plate and terminate the abusive relationship between Chris Brown and Rihanna.
edit: but the first goal there is to get Rihanna out of such a relationship - which is different from being a third person who's only doing it get into rihanna's pants.
randomuser's posts before the one where she said the guy was unhappy in the relationship never had much information, so you can't really blame us for thinking that she's a homewreaker. Happy relationship or not, breaking up a couple is in bad taste.
I don't believe that anyone outside a relationship has any "right" to break up a relationship unless under serious circumstances (one is just using the other, one is just in for the money, something like that) I agree with this. In the end, you'll get what you want and your hands will be clean
These are fake, by the way. Some woman made a fake blog starting with how happy her marraige was and then she finds out that his husband is cheating on her with her best friend. She "hired" a PI to video them on a date, and got someone to video her taking her husband's things and giving it away to random strangers. I dont' remember why she went through all that trouble for a fake story though.