then reel your mind back in dear.. don't let him break you like that.. don't let him screw up your semester because you're that much better.. better than someone who's maturity does not match his age.. don't let that mind wander now.. =)
We've had a few good talks the past few days. He's explained that he has just never been great at relationships. Things are going on in his life both personal/career-wise, and relationships have "never been a priority". I think that's what hurts the most...just to know that I've made him a priority in my life and it hasn't been reciprocated.
The realization of something like this being over is a bitch.
We've had a few good talks the past few days. He's explained that he has just never been great at relationships. Things are going on in his life both personal/career-wise, and relationships have "never been a priority". I think that's what hurts the most...just to know that I've made him a priority in my life and it hasn't been reciprocated.
The realization of something like this being over is a bitch.
i might get major flames for saying this but that's why you never make your bf/gf your top priority in life because they can walk out on you anytime they want.. you only make things your priority when it's something you know you can count on and won't bail out on your during critical times.. and in most cases.. that just simply means having complete control.. but given that you can't have complete control over any human being.. most people will have to make do with other "stuffs"..
in my experience.. i think it's safe for me to say that with the exception of self.. other people aren't and shouldn't be something you make a priority of.. and if that does happen.. such priority should never precede your own self priorities.. it saves you from the heartbreak and feeling like a bitch..=)
i might get major flames for saying this but that's why you never make your bf/gf your top priority in life because they can walk out on you anytime they want.. you only make things your priority when it's something you know you can count on and won't bail out on your during critical times.. and in most cases.. that just simply means having complete control.. but given that you can't have complete control over any human being.. most people will have to make do with other "stuffs"..
in my experience.. i think it's safe for me to say that with the exception of self.. other people aren't and shouldn't be something you make a priority of.. and if that does happen.. such priority should never precede your own self priorities.. it saves you from the heartbreak and feeling like a bitch..=)
I don't mean priority as in emotional (I think that's what you're trying to say). I've learned to not depend on him in most situations because I know I would be hurting way more than I am now. I mean priority as in I've made sure that if he's free one night during the week, I'll be free as well. Time priority vs. emotional priority, I don't think he has taken the latter.
Oh nicole, I really feel for you =( Though this has never happened to myself, I can certainly think how you feel right now. All I can say is wait it out, give yourself some time, and don't even think of him. He's not WORTH thinking of...
On the bright side, maybe you'll have some good luck the end of this month! I know I did! After the first semester of my first year, I met my current BF, who is bar far the best one =)
Although I'm not really suppose to recommend finding another boy so soon...
Haha, no worries! Not sure if I'm ready quite yet, if only because I wouldn't want to have a rebound relationship, but give or take a few weeks and I'm sure I'll be interested once again.
LOL @ him saying hes never been great at relationships. I hope you didnt fall for that and then feel sorry for him.
Anyways, I agree a little bit with siuying about not making your gf or bf your top priority, but i never stick to that, lol. My bf is the bestest thing in my life right now, and although i should be smart and not make him a top priority.....well, he is one. Oh well! I dont think theres a point in being in a relationship if you're not gonna give them your all.
I'm giving my relationship my all right now. My friends tell me I'm too young to "settle". They keep saying "Save that for marriage!"
But... I don't care =)
just don't make yourself vulnerable. but you might have stepped into that zone already. i'm sure you can handle yourself though, i'm still a boy at heart, i don't have time for girls and their cooties.
She told me she does the following for her bf: - washes his clothes - folds his clothes - makes his breakfast - makes his lunch - calls him just before he's supposed to arrive at work and remind him to bring his lunch inside with him to put in the fridge - makes his dinner - cleans their apartment - feeds their cats all the time
She turned to me and was like, "Ummmm, am i a housewife??" I just looked at her and nodded and she said, "Dammit!"
I just lol'ed so hard when she told me that she has to call him to bring his lunch into work....or else apparently he gets mad at her later because his lunch wasnt inside. Or if she forgets to make his lunch, he bitches at her later and tells her how he went all day without any food. I mean geez, how bloody hard is it to go buy a sandwich from the store if she forgets to makes his lunch? She shouldnt have to make it at all imo.
Thats good! Im not a housewife either, and dont live with my bf yet either, but even when we do, I will not do most of the stuff that my friend does.
But right now, I make dinner at least once a week for him (when im over at his place on the weekends) and if im feeling nice i might fold his laundry once in a blue moon....only if im feeling nice tho, lol.
But right now, I make dinner at least once a week for him (when im over at his place on the weekends) and if im feeling nice i might fold his laundry once in a blue moon....only if im feeling nice tho, lol.
you're just a weirdo once in a blue moon that likes to smell peoples clothing haha. so what's your favourite piece to smell baby eez.
Psh, what are you talking about? We are NOT the "complication to relationships". If we cook you guys dinner and fold your clothes, that doesn't mean anything to you boys?
Folding clothes, cleaning up around the apartment, and cooking dinner are nice things i think. They should prolly get appreciated more than what they do!
no illicit.. it's when guys throw in the money that is the complication.. =) and when the complication gets out of hand.. they complain they've been dug out by one..
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The realization of something like this being over is a bitch.
and to nicole, so you've known/dated him for up to 9 years, and this is your first year/semester.
so you should be 17, if not then 18.
18-9 = 9 wow. props to you.
in my experience.. i think it's safe for me to say that with the exception of self.. other people aren't and shouldn't be something you make a priority of.. and if that does happen.. such priority should never precede your own self priorities.. it saves you from the heartbreak and feeling like a bitch..=)
I'm 18, he's nine years older. We've been together for seven months.
Am I missing something?
On the bright side, maybe you'll have some good luck the end of this month! I know I did! After the first semester of my first year, I met my current BF, who is bar far the best one =)
Although I'm not really suppose to recommend finding another boy so soon...
Congrats on your success though! That's cute (=
Anyways, I agree a little bit with siuying about not making your gf or bf your top priority, but i never stick to that, lol. My bf is the bestest thing in my life right now, and although i should be smart and not make him a top priority.....well, he is one. Oh well! I dont think theres a point in being in a relationship if you're not gonna give them your all.
My friends tell me I'm too young to "settle".
They keep saying "Save that for marriage!"
But... I don't care =)
*pokes illicit
HAHA NOW YOU HAVE COOTIES !!
that's so cute.. =D
She told me she does the following for her bf:
- washes his clothes
- folds his clothes
- makes his breakfast
- makes his lunch
- calls him just before he's supposed to arrive at work and remind him to bring his lunch inside with him to put in the fridge
- makes his dinner
- cleans their apartment
- feeds their cats all the time
She turned to me and was like, "Ummmm, am i a housewife??" I just looked at her and nodded and she said, "Dammit!"
I just lol'ed so hard when she told me that she has to call him to bring his lunch into work....or else apparently he gets mad at her later because his lunch wasnt inside. Or if she forgets to make his lunch, he bitches at her later and tells her how he went all day without any food. I mean geez, how bloody hard is it to go buy a sandwich from the store if she forgets to makes his lunch? She shouldnt have to make it at all imo.
I haven't done any of that, except maybe make him breakfast or lunch when he comes over HAHA =D
.:. I'm not a housewife
C'mon, we don't even live together ;)
But right now, I make dinner at least once a week for him (when im over at his place on the weekends) and if im feeling nice i might fold his laundry once in a blue moon....only if im feeling nice tho, lol.
so due to this watson -like elementary deduction, seems like girls are the complication to relationships. discuss.
If we cook you guys dinner and fold your clothes, that doesn't mean anything to you boys?
Folding clothes, cleaning up around the apartment, and cooking dinner are nice things i think. They should prolly get appreciated more than what they do!
lol.. we can go on and on with this list.. hehehe.. ^__________^