hahaha.. we don't know if any of the talksfu guys here can cook.. ;P
There should be many TalkSFU guys that can cook. For example, I can cook, and I am not talking about simple stuff like instant ramen or peanut butter sandwich. I am talking about Thai Curry and Mac and Cheese (from scratch).
There should be many TalkSFU guys that can cook. For example, I can cook, and I am not talking about simple stuff like instant ramen or peanut butter sandwich. I am talking about Thai Curry and Mac and Cheese (from scratch).
One of the things that I learned living in SFU Rez is cooking and let me say..perfecting my cooking skills lol
There should be many TalkSFU guys that can cook. For example, I can cook, and I am not talking about simple stuff like instant ramen or peanut butter sandwich. I am talking about Thai Curry and Mac and Cheese (from scratch).
and I'm an astronaut lol
na lots of people can cook, i personally find cooking complex meals a massive waste of time so when i cook i try and keep it simple (and i'm not talking ready made foods...)
to get back on topic, i find relationships so boring now. i'm really starting to agree that the chase is better then the catch
i'm surprised i'm not getting flamed for saying that..o.O" bbbuuuttt.. it's all talks right now so no one really knows how well you guys cook.. =P
i hate to beg the question.. but why do people want relationships? i've heard so many people (friends and acquaintances) being bummed out because they aren't in a relationship.. isn't there anyone who values being single these days? @_@
i'm surprised i'm not getting flamed for saying that..o.O" bbbuuuttt.. it's all talks right now so no one really knows how well you guys cook.. =P
i hate to beg the question.. but why do people want relationships? i've heard so many people (friends and acquaintances) being bummed out because they aren't in a relationship.. isn't there anyone who values being single these days? @_@
What exactly are the benefits of being single? There isn't necessarily detriments to being single, but what are the benefits really?
Its kind of like theres two of you teaming up in the world instead of one. I've heard some of my friends say they wish they had the freedom of being single (is this to mess around with lots of people, or just they don't enjoy being around the other person)?
I don't know, I just don't see any downsides really.
What exactly are the benefits of being single? There isn't necessarily detriments to being single, but what are the benefits really?
Its kind of like theres two of you teaming up in the world instead of one. I've heard some of my friends say they wish they had the freedom of being single (is this to mess around with lots of people, or just they don't enjoy being around the other person)?
I don't know, I just don't see any downsides really.
for me:
1) I don't have much money, so i'd rather spend it on myself 2) ditto with time 3) I don't have to worry about my appearance as much 4) I don't have to think of interesting things to say
1)You don't need money to see someone, some of the best times are sitting around watching tv or a movie in bed together, or going on a walk.
2)Time can be an issue at times, but not all relationships are time eaters.
3)Maybe, if someone really likes you, they shouldnt care. I figure being single there is more of an expectation to look good.
4)See the logic of point 3.
1) I wouldn't feel comfortable in a relationship where I can't take the girl out to dinner/movie etc 2) relationships are all about spending time together:heart: 3) meh 4) such a relationship would get boring
Relationships aren't about spending time together if the people are happy with themselves and don't need someone else to complete them.
Maybe if you don't want to talk to anyone friends included I can see how its a burden, otherwise, if you have time for friends you most likely have time for a relationship.
I pay for my boyfriends things sometimes, its like an equal thing, I get you - you get me.
What exactly are the benefits of being single? There isn't necessarily detriments to being single, but what are the benefits really?
Its kind of like theres two of you teaming up in the world instead of one. I've heard some of my friends say they wish they had the freedom of being single (is this to mess around with lots of people, or just they don't enjoy being around the other person)?
I don't know, I just don't see any downsides really.
i don't see downsides to either being single or in a relationship... u can prob argue pro's of one as cons of the other
in my opinion, having a long term relationship is nice cuz u pretty much know the other person inside out. its cool to have someone who understands u and helps u out without u having to ask. someone u can call at any hour in the night and they will be there for u no matter what. pretty much like u said, the two of you tackling ur challenges together
but those qualities can all be found in friends, and more often than not friendships last longer then relationships
its a choice really, and relationships take commitments and some people ain't willing to give up their freedoms
What exactly are the benefits of being single? There isn't necessarily detriments to being single, but what are the benefits really?
Its kind of like theres two of you teaming up in the world instead of one. I've heard some of my friends say they wish they had the freedom of being single (is this to mess around with lots of people, or just they don't enjoy being around the other person)?
I don't know, I just don't see any downsides really.
well.. in order for 2 people be in a relationship.. there's bound to be compromises made.. for instance you may have to sacrifice certain things.. be it personal time or opportunities to attend a date/get together which is totally fine.. but when you're single you don't have to worry about the other person so much or how they feel.. it's just you and your decisions alone..
then there's the communication.. lack or excessive (meaning you reveal too much) communication can be problematic.. i'm not a explanation kind of person.. i like to do my own things when i feel like it and how i like it.. i don't like letting people know where i am or what i'm doing.. cause i'm not a kid nor do i think it's necessary or required to explain why i do the things i do..
and the exclusivity is kinda quirky to me too.. i'm not implying that i'm promiscuous.. just that when you're in the relationship there are certain things you have to be mindful of that you wouldn't be when you're single.. examples include the proximity you have with guy friends.. how you treat the opposite sex... how you flirt (or not) etc.. basically there's a lot more things you need to watch out for because you're in a relationship.. what you do/say needs to be taken in consideration of your partner's thoughts/feelings.. hence no more impulsiveness.. recklessness or that i-don't-give-a-damn attitude..
ultimately.. i guess it's the feeling that you lose a part of the freedom you get being single.. your life (even though it's your own) isn't just about you anymore.. your lifestyle is no longer self accommodating because you've invited someone in and let them be a part of your life.. and although these might not be the downsides of being in a relationship for everyone.. they are burdens/considerations to people need to pay attention to.. but when you're single.. you don't necessary have to worry about all or even half of these things.. you just need to take care of yourself.. and that's all there is to it..
so yeah.. those are just my thoughts on the issue..
then there's the communication.. lack or excessive (meaning you reveal too much) communication can be problematic.. i'm not a explanation kind of person.. i like to do my own things when i feel like it and how i like it.. i don't like letting people know where i am or what i'm doing.. cause i'm not a kid nor do i think it's necessary or required to explain why i do the things i do..
the whole communication part is true since being single would entitle you to feel like you don't need to tell them where you are or what you are doing but i also think being in a relationship is about spending time and tackling any challenges together so that you can get to know them on a more personal level and that it provides a feeling of belonging sorta.
then there's the communication.. lack or excessive (meaning you reveal too much) communication can be problematic.. i'm not a explanation kind of person.. i like to do my own things when i feel like it and how i like it.. i don't like letting people know where i am or what i'm doing.. cause i'm not a kid nor do i think it's necessary or required to explain why i do the things i do..
lol for me, i hate it when my friends ask me where i go and why i go there or what i did. but when my significant other asks im always quick to tell lol, esp if i was doing something they wouldn't approve of lol just to get their blood boiling
and there are other downsides to being in a relationship which comes from a third party for example, if ur a guy and ur girls like out chilling with 10's of dudes and taking questionable pics that end up on the net then all ur guy friends think less of u cuz u dont "defend ur turf" or some bullshit, like u even have to care lol OR say another dudes girl sleeps over. that shit 90% of the time wouldnt fly with a gf and the dude would be pretty fukn pissed
so if ur single u dont have to worry so much about how simple innocent actions will be interpreted
lol for me, i hate it when my friends ask me where i go and why i go there or what i did. but when my significant other asks im always quick to tell lol, esp if i was doing something they wouldn't approve of lol just to get their blood boiling
and there are other downsides to being in a relationship which comes from a third party for example, if ur a guy and ur girls like out chilling with 10's of dudes and taking questionable pics that end up on the net then all ur guy friends think less of u cuz u dont "defend ur turf" or some bullshit, like u even have to care lol OR say another dudes girl sleeps over. that shit 90% of the time wouldnt fly with a gf and the dude would be pretty fukn pissed
so if ur single u dont have to worry so much about how simple innocent actions will be interpreted
That's true but it also depends on the relationship itself, i mean isn't relationships about communication and trust? For instance, me and my gf try to understand that and we trust each other when we're not together. She has her friends and her activities and i let her do as she pleases without trying ot be so concerned as to what she does or why. Same the other way around...She knows i have lots of close friends who are girls but she doesn't let that get in the way of what only me and her share.
That's true but it also depends on the relationship itself, i mean isn't relationships about communication and trust? For instance, me and my gf try to understand that and we trust each other when we're not together. She has her friends and her activities and i let her do as she pleases without trying ot be so concerned as to what she does or why. Same the other way around...She knows i have lots of close friends who are girls but she doesn't let that get in the way of what only me and her share.
thats how it should be in the ideal conditions BUT most often it's not like that. for example i had some douche bag that liked my gf give her a ride home. next thing 1/2 his buddy's think hes got a chance to home wreck and their talking shit to me like she would be remotely interested just stupid immature shit like that u gotta watch for i personally don't give a flyn fuck anymore till someone else is like wtf dude lol
this is the other half of the reason why i don't really want to settle down to a serious relationship just yet because I am always on the go and if she can't accept that fact then too bad. Sex is great I know but it sucks when there is someone holding you back from doing what you love to do (like flying or going out and having a good time). My $0.02.
i'm surprised i'm not getting flamed for saying that..o.O" bbbuuuttt.. it's all talks right now so no one really knows how well you guys cook.. =P
i hate to beg the question.. but why do people want relationships? i've heard so many people (friends and acquaintances) being bummed out because they aren't in a relationship.. isn't there anyone who values being single these days? @_@
Being single is awesome.
Though I have the best of both worlds with my LD relationship. I win over all.
randomuser;55548 said:
What exactly are the benefits of being single? There isn't necessarily detriments to being single, but what are the benefits really?
A lot of people enjoy being single for actual reasons (not stupid sex reasons).
- More freedom to do your own things. - Don't have to be so considerate towards another person (can't say shit that hurts their feelings). - Don't have to be on good behaviour all of the time. - Don't need call every morning and then call every night. - More time to just chill with friends. - Being able to just enjoy life without enjoying someone else. - Being your own person, and not someone's significant other. - Making decisions with only your own well-being in mind (like I wanted to join the military--now I can't, because my boyfriend thinks I'm putting myself in the line of danger, I have to consider his feelings. My life is no longer my own to gamble or do as I like). - More personal growth without an interfering external influence.
There are a lot of reasons that some people enjoy being single, and a lot of it is not to be having sex with random people all the time. If I were single, I still wouldn't have totally random sex--why complicate my life that way.
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na lots of people can cook,
i personally find cooking complex meals a massive waste of time so when i cook i try and keep it simple (and i'm not talking ready made foods...)
to get back on topic, i find relationships so boring now. i'm really starting to agree that the chase is better then the catch
i'm surprised i'm not getting flamed for saying that..o.O" bbbuuuttt.. it's all talks right now so no one really knows how well you guys cook.. =P
i hate to beg the question.. but why do people want relationships? i've heard so many people (friends and acquaintances) being bummed out because they aren't in a relationship.. isn't there anyone who values being single these days? @_@
Its kind of like theres two of you teaming up in the world instead of one. I've heard some of my friends say they wish they had the freedom of being single (is this to mess around with lots of people, or just they don't enjoy being around the other person)?
I don't know, I just don't see any downsides really.
1) I don't have much money, so i'd rather spend it on myself
2) ditto with time
3) I don't have to worry about my appearance as much
4) I don't have to think of interesting things to say
2)Time can be an issue at times, but not all relationships are time eaters.
3)Maybe, if someone really likes you, they shouldnt care. I figure being single there is more of an expectation to look good.
4)See the logic of point 3.
2) relationships are all about spending time together:heart:
3) meh
4) such a relationship would get boring
Maybe if you don't want to talk to anyone friends included I can see how its a burden, otherwise, if you have time for friends you most likely have time for a relationship.
I pay for my boyfriends things sometimes, its like an equal thing, I get you - you get me.
in my opinion, having a long term relationship is nice cuz u pretty much know the other person inside out. its cool to have someone who understands u and helps u out without u having to ask. someone u can call at any hour in the night and they will be there for u no matter what. pretty much like u said, the two of you tackling ur challenges together
but those qualities can all be found in friends, and more often than not friendships last longer then relationships
its a choice really, and relationships take commitments and some people ain't willing to give up their freedoms
then there's the communication.. lack or excessive (meaning you reveal too much) communication can be problematic.. i'm not a explanation kind of person.. i like to do my own things when i feel like it and how i like it.. i don't like letting people know where i am or what i'm doing.. cause i'm not a kid nor do i think it's necessary or required to explain why i do the things i do..
and the exclusivity is kinda quirky to me too.. i'm not implying that i'm promiscuous.. just that when you're in the relationship there are certain things you have to be mindful of that you wouldn't be when you're single.. examples include the proximity you have with guy friends.. how you treat the opposite sex... how you flirt (or not) etc.. basically there's a lot more things you need to watch out for because you're in a relationship.. what you do/say needs to be taken in consideration of your partner's thoughts/feelings.. hence no more impulsiveness.. recklessness or that i-don't-give-a-damn attitude..
ultimately.. i guess it's the feeling that you lose a part of the freedom you get being single.. your life (even though it's your own) isn't just about you anymore.. your lifestyle is no longer self accommodating because you've invited someone in and let them be a part of your life.. and although these might not be the downsides of being in a relationship for everyone.. they are burdens/considerations to people need to pay attention to.. but when you're single.. you don't necessary have to worry about all or even half of these things.. you just need to take care of yourself.. and that's all there is to it..
so yeah.. those are just my thoughts on the issue..
for me, i hate it when my friends ask me where i go and why i go there or what i did.
but when my significant other asks im always quick to tell lol, esp if i was doing something they wouldn't approve of lol just to get their blood boiling
and there are other downsides to being in a relationship which comes from a third party
for example, if ur a guy and ur girls like out chilling with 10's of dudes and taking questionable pics that end up on the net then all ur guy friends think less of u cuz u dont "defend ur turf" or some bullshit, like u even have to care lol
OR say another dudes girl sleeps over. that shit 90% of the time wouldnt fly with a gf and the dude would be pretty fukn pissed
so if ur single u dont have to worry so much about how simple innocent actions will be interpreted
for example i had some douche bag that liked my gf give her a ride home. next thing 1/2 his buddy's think hes got a chance to home wreck and their talking shit to me like she would be remotely interested
just stupid immature shit like that u gotta watch for
i personally don't give a flyn fuck anymore till someone else is like wtf dude lol
Though I have the best of both worlds with my LD relationship. I win over all.
A lot of people enjoy being single for actual reasons (not stupid sex reasons).
- More freedom to do your own things.
- Don't have to be so considerate towards another person (can't say shit that hurts their feelings).
- Don't have to be on good behaviour all of the time.
- Don't need call every morning and then call every night.
- More time to just chill with friends.
- Being able to just enjoy life without enjoying someone else.
- Being your own person, and not someone's significant other.
- Making decisions with only your own well-being in mind (like I wanted to join the military--now I can't, because my boyfriend thinks I'm putting myself in the line of danger, I have to consider his feelings. My life is no longer my own to gamble or do as I like).
- More personal growth without an interfering external influence.
There are a lot of reasons that some people enjoy being single, and a lot of it is not to be having sex with random people all the time. If I were single, I still wouldn't have totally random sex--why complicate my life that way.