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Why do people want relationships?
People tell me how nice it is to have a girlfriend, and how I'm missing out. Unlike many (and apparently even 7th graders nowadays), I've never had a girlfriend before, so I guess I don't really know what it's like.
Lately though, I've been wondering why people would rather have a relationship than being single. Is it really that great?
I mean, I have friends who are really desperate, and even I sometimes feel like I want a relationship, but I can't understand it. I'm even afraid that I'll never understand, and if I get into a relationship, I'm never going to understand the person I'm attracted to, and why we're together.
Not that I don't plan on ever getting into one, but I just don't know what to think at the moment.
Any thoughts or comments on this? Sorry if it's a stupid question.
Lately though, I've been wondering why people would rather have a relationship than being single. Is it really that great?
I mean, I have friends who are really desperate, and even I sometimes feel like I want a relationship, but I can't understand it. I'm even afraid that I'll never understand, and if I get into a relationship, I'm never going to understand the person I'm attracted to, and why we're together.
Not that I don't plan on ever getting into one, but I just don't know what to think at the moment.
Any thoughts or comments on this? Sorry if it's a stupid question.
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People want relationships to experience a type of comfort that can only be satisfied when you have a significant other. Also knowing that someone feels as strongly as you do for them is another factor as to why people want relationships. I also miss that feeling of somewhat being "protected" by past boyfriends.
Have you ever crushed on anyone or like them a lot? When you really like someone, you feel different. Although you may not know why you are attracted to them, it doesn't really matter. You don't need to "understand" why you like someone, it's something that just happens and eventually develops into something else (love).
To my friend here, do you masturbate a lot? If that is not the case, there is a reason why we have women around. Look for a girlfriend and start relationship. But be honest with her.
Seriously, the other person is not worth your time if you feel like they slow you down.
and its not like they don't get laid or go out with girls, its just they don't officially have a relationship with a girl.
that said i have met a few girls who claim to be in the same boat, though their actions and jealousy shows otherwise
then again its nice to have someone to adore, someone whom you can call whenever, someone whom will be there for you no matter what, someone who's your best friend and lover :P
if u think id go emo cuz of a girl ud be very wrong...
Why bother having friends.
Why bother having family at all.
Maybe you're just more emotionally detached than most people.
A relationship is a variety of different things depending on the people in one. A relationship is what you have before you promote whoever you're dating into your close friends and family category.
Being single is awesome. I loved being single in high school. You weren't tied to anybody. Nobody saw you as someone else's other half. If this is what you feel, then it's normal.
But eventually you will be intrigued and/or attracted to someone enough to wonder what it might be like to be special to that person. You'll want to spend more time with them.
I don't presume I know your emotional IQ, but there are some people who remain stoic and without need for companionship through their entire lives. Some people just love being alone. Just learn to be yourself and find out what it is you want out of life--not every person has to have a romantic relationship to say they have lived.
Finding someone to be romantically involved with and/or build a family with them is NOT the pinnacle of human existence.
I sound like such a homo.
In short. Become a monk.
I like being in a relationship because at the end of the day, you have someone waiting for you. Someone that wants you around just because.
It's just feels nice. *shrugs*
That said, different things make different people happy. Don't compare other peoples values of happiness to yours.
I personally don't like being alone, I don't mind it, but I prefer to have someone there-- but I know people who prefer to be alone.
It's really only a problem when the two people are not on the same page.
I guess my main problem is that I don't know what it's like, so I can only think of the problems that come with being in a relationship. I suppose it's worth a try, also because it feels like my perceptions about things such as "love" and "affection" are slowly dying. Sometimes when I hear something in a movie where one professes his/her love for the other, I feel slightly disgusted for some reason. It could just be the movie, but I think it's me...
i know people who dated like 2weeks and their like "I LOVE U BOO"
and im thinking fuck u dont even know that person... heck i prob know more about them then they do =S
iron chef talksfu ur thinking?