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Why do people want relationships?

edited June 2009 in General
People tell me how nice it is to have a girlfriend, and how I'm missing out. Unlike many (and apparently even 7th graders nowadays), I've never had a girlfriend before, so I guess I don't really know what it's like.
Lately though, I've been wondering why people would rather have a relationship than being single. Is it really that great?
I mean, I have friends who are really desperate, and even I sometimes feel like I want a relationship, but I can't understand it. I'm even afraid that I'll never understand, and if I get into a relationship, I'm never going to understand the person I'm attracted to, and why we're together.
Not that I don't plan on ever getting into one, but I just don't know what to think at the moment.

Any thoughts or comments on this? Sorry if it's a stupid question.
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  • edited April 2009
    If you've never had a relationship before, I don't think you'd really understand.

    People want relationships to experience a type of comfort that can only be satisfied when you have a significant other. Also knowing that someone feels as strongly as you do for them is another factor as to why people want relationships. I also miss that feeling of somewhat being "protected" by past boyfriends.

    Have you ever crushed on anyone or like them a lot? When you really like someone, you feel different. Although you may not know why you are attracted to them, it doesn't really matter. You don't need to "understand" why you like someone, it's something that just happens and eventually develops into something else (love).
  • edited April 2009
    I have crush on this white girl and I am so shy that I can't even express myself, lol. I told her girlfriend that she is cute and beautiful and she came to me a day after telling me, when are you gonna ask her out? I was like, wait wait. I didn't know what to answer. That may have signaled that the girl my be interested in me but I will have to befriend with her.

    To my friend here, do you masturbate a lot? If that is not the case, there is a reason why we have women around. Look for a girlfriend and start relationship. But be honest with her.
  • IVTIVT
    edited April 2009
    accession;52293 said:

    Any thoughts or comments on this? Sorry if it's a stupid question.
    not missing out on much
    xxk1nky;52294 said:

    People want relationships to experience a type of comfort that can only be satisfied when you have a significant other. Also knowing that someone feels as strongly as you do for them is another factor as to why people want relationships. I also miss that feeling of somewhat being "protected" by past boyfriends.
    THIS is why I prefer to stay single right now. Honestly, this attitude towards a relationship turns me off. You should be able to help each other out and contribute to each others' strengths and have fun doing it, not just "i miss you blah blah blah :boy_hug: :girl_hug: :kiss: "

    Seriously, the other person is not worth your time if you feel like they slow you down.
  • edited April 2009
    the OP has a point, i know quite a few guys who don't want to be in relationships, they don't want to feel tied to anyone and don't want to feel like they should act a certain way, they are at a stage in their life when their career and becoming successful is far more important then being in a relationship
    and its not like they don't get laid or go out with girls, its just they don't officially have a relationship with a girl.
    that said i have met a few girls who claim to be in the same boat, though their actions and jealousy shows otherwise

    then again its nice to have someone to adore, someone whom you can call whenever, someone whom will be there for you no matter what, someone who's your best friend and lover :P
  • edited April 2009
    IVT;52298 said:
    THIS is why I prefer to stay single right now. Honestly, this attitude towards a relationship turns me off. You should be able to help each other out and contribute to each others' strengths and have fun doing it, not just "i miss you blah blah blah :boy_hug: :girl_hug: :kiss: "
    i don't think that's what she meant.. i'm guessing she's referring to seeking comfort from one another.. which we all at some point do.. being single or attached.. a natural behaviour of humans if you will.. so what is wrong about that given humans are social creatures after all?
    bufli;52300 said:
    then again its nice to have someone to adore, someone whom you can call whenever, someone whom will be there for you no matter what, someone who's your best friend and lover :P
    hahaha.. this is true.. especially the last part.. :tongue:
  • edited April 2009
    siuying;52301 said:
    hahaha.. this is true.. especially the last part.. :tongue:
    sucks when u have to give them up
  • edited April 2009
    ^ the emo threat alert has risen to ORANGE. Everybody please exercise caution.
  • edited April 2009
    Magnificent_Bastard;52303 said:
    ^ the emo threat alert has risen to ORANGE. Everybody please exercise caution.
    lmao
    if u think id go emo cuz of a girl ud be very wrong...
  • edited April 2009
    bufli;52304 said:
    lmao
    if u think id go emo cuz of a girl ud be very wrong...
    'cause you're a pimp like that?
  • edited April 2009
    Magnificent_Bastard;52307 said:
    'cause you're a pimp like that?
    cuz i be heartless... duhhh
  • edited April 2009
    accession;52293 said:
    People tell me how nice it is to have a girlfriend, and how I'm missing out. Unlike many (and apparently even 7th graders nowadays), I've never had a girlfriend before, so I guess I don't really know what it's like.
    Lately though, I've been wondering why people would rather have a relationship than being single. Is it really that great?
    I mean, I have friends who are really desperate, and even I sometimes feel like I want a relationship, but I can't understand it. I'm even afraid that I'll never understand, and if I get into a relationship, I'm never going to understand the person I'm attracted to, and why we're together.
    Not that I don't plan on ever getting into one, but I just don't know what to think at the moment.

    Any thoughts or comments on this? Sorry if it's a stupid question.

    Why bother having friends.

    Why bother having family at all.

    Maybe you're just more emotionally detached than most people.

    A relationship is a variety of different things depending on the people in one. A relationship is what you have before you promote whoever you're dating into your close friends and family category.

    Being single is awesome. I loved being single in high school. You weren't tied to anybody. Nobody saw you as someone else's other half. If this is what you feel, then it's normal.

    But eventually you will be intrigued and/or attracted to someone enough to wonder what it might be like to be special to that person. You'll want to spend more time with them.

    I don't presume I know your emotional IQ, but there are some people who remain stoic and without need for companionship through their entire lives. Some people just love being alone. Just learn to be yourself and find out what it is you want out of life--not every person has to have a romantic relationship to say they have lived.

    Finding someone to be romantically involved with and/or build a family with them is NOT the pinnacle of human existence.

    I sound like such a homo.

    In short. Become a monk.
  • edited April 2009
    ^ Hahaa, Lixie has a point.

    I like being in a relationship because at the end of the day, you have someone waiting for you. Someone that wants you around just because.
    It's just feels nice. *shrugs*
  • edited April 2009
    Relationships make me feel good in some ways friendships cant.

    That said, different things make different people happy. Don't compare other peoples values of happiness to yours.

    I personally don't like being alone, I don't mind it, but I prefer to have someone there-- but I know people who prefer to be alone.
  • edited April 2009
    IVT;52298 said:

    THIS is why I prefer to stay single right now. Honestly, this attitude towards a relationship turns me off. You should be able to help each other out and contribute to each others' strengths and have fun doing it, not just "i miss you blah blah blah :boy_hug: :girl_hug: :kiss: "
    .
    Okay, you totally misinterpreted what I meant. I am far from being the "needy" type in a relationship.
    randomuser said:

    Relationships make me feel good in some ways friendships cant.
    That's what I was referring to.
  • IVTIVT
    edited April 2009
    yeah needy FTL
  • edited April 2009
    How is it needy? Guys just gravitate towards me, and girls in general (depending on the girl anyway), I have to push them away sometimes. Is needy accepting the attention given to you?
  • IVTIVT
    edited April 2009
    nvm i've just had problems with that in the past
  • edited April 2009
    I dont think theres anything wrong with being needy either, when two needy people get together.

    It's really only a problem when the two people are not on the same page.
  • edited April 2009
    money > bitches
  • edited April 2009
    Thanks for the replies so far!
    Hope_2016;52297 said:

    To my friend here, do you masturbate a lot? If that is not the case, there is a reason why we have women around. Look for a girlfriend and start relationship. But be honest with her.
    I don't think women are around for the sole purpose of being our girlfriends, but maybe you're right and I should look for a girlfriend...
    Lixie;52310 said:

    Maybe you're just more emotionally detached than most people.

    I don't presume I know your emotional IQ, but there are some people who remain stoic and without need for companionship through their entire lives. Some people just love being alone. Just learn to be yourself and find out what it is you want out of life--not every person has to have a romantic relationship to say they have lived.
    I'm actually the opposite. I'm pretty much the most sensitive guy in my family, and I always seem to try my best so that people like me. I usually try to surround myself with people so that I'm not alone. Pathetic, I know.

    I guess my main problem is that I don't know what it's like, so I can only think of the problems that come with being in a relationship. I suppose it's worth a try, also because it feels like my perceptions about things such as "love" and "affection" are slowly dying. Sometimes when I hear something in a movie where one professes his/her love for the other, I feel slightly disgusted for some reason. It could just be the movie, but I think it's me...
  • edited April 2009
    ^ the word "love" is over used in this culture IMO
    i know people who dated like 2weeks and their like "I LOVE U BOO"
    and im thinking fuck u dont even know that person... heck i prob know more about them then they do =S
  • edited April 2009
    I'm not sure why people want relationships but I'm fairly certain that we would all be better off if they didn't.
  • edited April 2009
    "In this country, you gotta make the money first. Then when you get the money, you get the power. Then when you get the power, then you get the women."
  • edited April 2009
    Pavlik;53016 said:
    "In this country, you gotta make the money first. Then when you get the money, you get the power. Then when you get the power, then you get the women."
    "This is paradise, I'm tellin' ya. This town like a great big pussy just waiting to get fcuked"
  • edited April 2009
    bufli;53020 said:
    "This is paradise, I'm tellin' ya. This town like a great big pussy just waiting to get fcuked"
    Tell me the nearest place.
  • edited April 2009
    bufli;52487 said:
    ^ the word "love" is over used in this culture IMO
    i know people who dated like 2weeks and their like "I LOVE U BOO"
    and im thinking fuck u dont even know that person... heck i prob know more about them then they do =S
    Really... I'm pretty sensitive about the word unless I'm talking about food.
  • edited April 2009
    vonnie;53024 said:
    Really... I'm pretty sensitive about the word unless I'm talking about food.
    i agree!!
  • edited April 2009
    I LOVE food.
  • edited April 2009
    u guys are liars, if you really love food you should know how to cook
    iron chef talksfu ur thinking?
  • edited May 2009
    no money, no hunny

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