This is what I don't get, because I didn't feel anything at all attraction wise for ages for him.
As friends though I still maybe had a certain level of control over him, but now I gotta compete with this ho. As friends we were still pretty close.
I can't tell if I want to be with him now, or if its just because I want what I can't have, although I'm seeing someone and I'm sure he would hate to hear any of this.
as they say "if ur too busy looking back, you might miss whats coming up ahead" IMO, what u just described is one of the reasons i avoid talking to my ex's because there is always that "what if", but i think that "what if" or "why" or "how" is such a waste of time. at the same time though, if ur minds thinking about something in the past is that cuz the current guy ur with aint delivering a service up to par? :P
I guess this is why you shouldn't be friends with people you've slept with, well gone out with. I've never stayed friends with anyone else until this point.
The guy I'm seeing now is more wild and crazy, while my ex is more nice and dependable. I'd probably just get bored if I got back with my ex like I did last time.
I guess now that I talk it out, the only reason I feel this way is because we had a thing, and its my fault for staying friends that I feel this way.
Why can't I just see them both and have the best of both worlds?
I guess this is why you shouldn't be friends with people you've slept with, well gone out with. I've never stayed friends with anyone else until this point.
I don't know about that. I've stayed friends with almost every single ex I've ever had. Then again, I'm definitely not the jealous type.
r u for real? like do u live in some kinda biblical closed world or something?
"I reject your reality and substitute it for my own." - Adam Savage
siuying;51054 said:
i don't know.. i've met some men who are pretty willing to share.. but of course the sharing goes both ways.. =)
i've grown to admire guys who are practical and sometimes that practicality entails sharing things that they don't normally share..
Sharing does go both ways. I've found that women are more open to non monogamous relationships but of course that isn't always the case
I'll take that as a compliment.
bufli;51080 said:
if men were taught never to share, why do girls complain when guys "share" themselves with other girls
why did i dump countless insecure girls who dont understand the difference between being friendly with a waitress and flirting
this sums it up nice
Insecurity and jealously are two problems you get when you don't have trust and open communication. If you don't have both of those then you don't have much of a relationship to begin with.
“Don't waste your life on jealousy. Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind. The race is long, and in the end it's only you with yourself."
"Jealousy is the result of one's lack of self-confidence, self-worth, and self-acceptance. The Lesson: If you can't accept yourself, then certainly no one else will.”
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IMO, what u just described is one of the reasons i avoid talking to my ex's because there is always that "what if", but i think that "what if" or "why" or "how" is such a waste of time.
at the same time though, if ur minds thinking about something in the past is that cuz the current guy ur with aint delivering a service up to par? :P
The guy I'm seeing now is more wild and crazy, while my ex is more nice and dependable. I'd probably just get bored if I got back with my ex like I did last time.
I guess now that I talk it out, the only reason I feel this way is because we had a thing, and its my fault for staying friends that I feel this way.
Why can't I just see them both and have the best of both worlds?
win win, best of both worlds
Phil
Unfortunately most men were never taught to share. This is especially true when it comes to sharing women with other men.
i've grown to admire guys who are practical and sometimes that practicality entails sharing things that they don't normally share..
why did i dump countless insecure girls who dont understand the difference between being friendly with a waitress and flirting
this sums it up nice
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I'll take that as a compliment. Insecurity and jealously are two problems you get when you don't have trust and open communication. If you don't have both of those then you don't have much of a relationship to begin with.
anyway since i made this post ive for the most part gotten over it, i think sex just complicates things
lol
i just meant, two guys who can't see other girls
"Jealousy is the result of one's lack of self-confidence, self-worth, and self-acceptance. The Lesson: If you can't accept yourself, then certainly no one else will.”