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Academic Problem: I can't speak...
Hi everyone,
I just realized I have a major academic problem: I can't speak.
It is not so much that I am too shy to participate. I highly values participation marks and I will do whatever I can to get it. Often, I got some good idea in my head that I would like to express it. It is just that, when I speak, I can't get my idea across to people as well as I hope. Often, my fellow classmates would say something that is exactly what's in my head. I can only nod and think to myself, "damn, why didn't I say this..."
I have thought about writing down what I want to say on a piece of paper and reading off it, but by the time I finish writiing. We would have moved onto another topic...
I am pretty sure my HIST 485: Tech and War classmate hikin can testify to my inability to speak effective in seminars and tutorials. I am pretty sure most of you have read his LIVE play-by-play of my seminar discussions in the shout-box. I am often too nervous and tumble when speaking.
It is just so fustrating sometimes that I can't express my ideas without assistance. What is even more fustrating is that my ability to speak was much better back in high school and I would dominate discussions. I don't know if it is just the change in environment or that most of my high school classmates are idiots (no offense intended, cowmilk11, if you are who I think you are).
So, anyone got some tips to solve this problem?
I just realized I have a major academic problem: I can't speak.
It is not so much that I am too shy to participate. I highly values participation marks and I will do whatever I can to get it. Often, I got some good idea in my head that I would like to express it. It is just that, when I speak, I can't get my idea across to people as well as I hope. Often, my fellow classmates would say something that is exactly what's in my head. I can only nod and think to myself, "damn, why didn't I say this..."
I have thought about writing down what I want to say on a piece of paper and reading off it, but by the time I finish writiing. We would have moved onto another topic...
I am pretty sure my HIST 485: Tech and War classmate hikin can testify to my inability to speak effective in seminars and tutorials. I am pretty sure most of you have read his LIVE play-by-play of my seminar discussions in the shout-box. I am often too nervous and tumble when speaking.
It is just so fustrating sometimes that I can't express my ideas without assistance. What is even more fustrating is that my ability to speak was much better back in high school and I would dominate discussions. I don't know if it is just the change in environment or that most of my high school classmates are idiots (no offense intended, cowmilk11, if you are who I think you are).
So, anyone got some tips to solve this problem?
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go for a couple of shots of vodka, no on can smell it off you either lol
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just say whatever you think the other person is going to say before they do.
my cmpt 363 prof sent us an email once and it said "bring a drink"
apparently once in class she meant water, so i had to put away the tequila
Explain to me how exactly can alcohol HELP me?
Speaking articulately and fluently in the open isn't for everyone. Every little segment of population is able to speak in excellence. Hitler and JFK are the few notable leaders of the last century who is aptly superb at speaking publicly.
Universities all over NA is doing a poor job at that. I'm not sure anyone else here have any serious advice to give you. It's not easily mastered, and you certainly won't master it this semester.
Some alcohol should calm your anxiety and nervousness. Various relaxation techniques are used among speakers, such as meditation, prayers, relaxation, and least mentionable, sex.
Are you shy in general?
I had to do a speech presentation for a competition back in high school and I drank 2 bottles of beer before I got up there. It got a little obvious, but I come across as someone who's talking to the judges and the audience, rather than just reciting off of a paper or from your head.
Try it.
relax, and take your time when you're speaking. when you have something to say, you don't have to it all written out in your head. just think about the main points or even write down some keywords, so when you're talking you can glance down at a word and hopefully it'll help you remember what you want to say.
and also it just takes practice. throw your ideas out there and don't think about what others might be thinking. with time, you just get more comfortable talking in class and you worry less about it, so that you can focus more on developing what you want to say. That Toastmasters thing sounds like a good thing to try as well.
i wish i could help more. personally i've never really had an issue with public speaking, but that might be because I'm used to it since i have to speak in front of classes of students every week while they stare me down. the thing that i find works well is to go about speaking like you're casually speaking to a friend. so i know it's hard to do but give it your best shot-- not only could this help calm you down, it also creates an inviting tone in your voice so others feel receptive to what you have to say.
it takes at least 2 shots of hard to feel even a little bit buzzed
1 bottle of beer = 341 ml
(40% alcohol)*(44ml) ≈ (5% alcohol)*(341ml)
Ive never gotten a buzz off 2 beers either lol
i have about 3-4 things due per week every week for the rest of semester with 3big projects due within the next 3weeks so zero time for my favorite pass time activity :p