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Burr14
edited November 2008 in General
This should be interesting for a first post. Anyway, there is a girl in one of my tutorials that I have sort of developed a crush on in the last couple of weeks and I guess the problem would be that I don't really know all that much about her and have only really talked to her briefly. Would it be weird or creepy if I asked her out on a date after barely finding out anything about her? Any tips on how to do it? It's not a situation I would usually put myself in, but I don't know if I'll ever see her again after classes end.

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  • Morro
    edited November 2008
    If you can't strike up a conversation, you can't ask her out. You don't have to know a lot about her, that's what a first date is for, but definitely try to get a back and forth going with her. Sit next to her and gab before/after class, etc. Tell her little sarcastic jokes while the class is going on. THEN ask her out.
  • nicole
    edited November 2008
    BURRROWSSSS!
  • Student0667
    edited November 2008
    Morro;40248 said:
    If you can't strike up a conversation, you can't ask her out. You don't have to know a lot about her, that's what a first date is for, but definitely try to get a back and forth going with her. Sit next to her and gab before/after class, etc. Tell her little sarcastic jokes while the class is going on. THEN ask her out.
    Yeah, this just reminds me of first year. I ran into Burr14's situation, but not to the extend of crush, the furthest I got is like. I pretty much did everything Morro subscribed above, however, she showed minimial interest, and that's before I get to the "sarcastic jokes part." Afterward, I pretty much given up.

    Looking back, I should have done two things...

    1.) As well as doing what Morro does, dominate the tutorial class with your intelliect. Girls like Alpha Male, right?

    2.) Be more proactive. Instead of waiting for an opportunity, create one.
  • nicole
    edited November 2008
    This late in the semester, why not ask to study together for the final? When I was single, I usually had a study date for every class, and at least one of those turned into a first date eventually.
  • Burr14
    edited November 2008
    Thanks for the responses
    Morro;40248 said:
    If you can't strike up a conversation, you can't ask her out.
    It's not that I can't strike up a conversation or that I am incapable of doing so, it's just the opportunity doesn't really present itself in that class. If I was going to ask her out I'd have to go out of my way to do it which is why I partly worried about making it seem weird.
    Student0667 said:
    1.) As well as doing what Morro does, dominate the tutorial class with your intelliect. Girls like Alpha Male, right?

    2.) Be more proactive. Instead of waiting for an opportunity, create one.
    For the first one I think the prof talks for 45 of the 50 minute tutorial class. It's shocking if he lets anyone get a word in. I'll probably have to follow the second suggestion, although that means essentially cornering her after class. I wish I could do it before but I have another class pretty far away right before it. I got there early a couple times which is when I've been able to talk to her.
    nicole said:
    This late in the semester, why not ask to study together for the final? When I was single, I usually had a study date for every class, and at least one of those turned into a first date eventually.
    That would rock if this class actually had a final.

    On a side note, I wish all girls knew who Burrows was.

    I probably sound full of excuses here. I'm starting to think I should just throw caution into the wind and go for it and see what she says.
  • xxk1nky
    edited November 2008
    Go for it!

    You should hurry up though. Classes are almost over. Start with like small talk (ie. what are you taking next semester?) or go ask her if she wants to go for a bite after tutorial or a coffee or whatever.
  • JayDub
    edited November 2008
    If you are Burrows just say you play for the Canucks and even if she doesn't know who he is, I am sure she will know about the Canucks.

    Of course if she doesn't know who the Canucks are then take my advice and leave her alone as she is not worth it.
  • Iran1988
    edited November 2008
    put it in the butt.
  • siuying
    edited November 2008
    @jaydub: that's some solid advice right there.. =D
  • Broken Lizard
    edited November 2008
    when in doubt....
    whip it out
  • nicole
    edited November 2008
    Burr14;40254 said:



    That would rock if this class actually had a final.

    On a side note, I wish all girls knew who Burrows was.

    I probably sound full of excuses here. I'm starting to think I should just throw caution into the wind and go for it and see what she says.
    Well in that case, that's too bad.

    And yeeeeeah. I bought his jersey in 06/07 and I can't even count how many times I was asked who he was.
  • DaNoobie
    edited November 2008
    nicole;40251 said:
    This late in the semester, why not ask to study together for the final? When I was single, I usually had a study date for every class, and at least one of those turned into a first date eventually.
    This never worked for me grrr
    They just study with me like I'm some smart piece of meat and then never call. THEY PROMISED :(
  • DaNoobie
    edited November 2008
    btw would any of you date a Leafs fan?
    dun dun dun
  • mrbubbles
    edited November 2008
    1. Start a convo, introduce a topic almost everyone can talk about, if she shut you up from here, stop, you got no chance.

    2. Make her feel comfortable. (I can't stress this enough, I've seen too many first convo fail because the opposite end felt awkward.)

    3. Continue if there is appropriate response.

    4. Strike something small (coffee, study, etc.)

    What you do after that is up to you. Be warned about the boyfriend/fiance stump, check her ring finger for the fiance, as for boyfriend, if she is a confident type, she will never bring him up. Insecure hoes are usually the one going "me and boyfriend" deal, like wow, someone is actually willing to put up with you.
    Student0667;40250 said:
    Girls like Alpha Male, right?
    Depends.
    nicole;40295 said:

    And yeeeeeah. I bought his jersey in 06/07 and I can't even count how many times I was asked who he was.
    Maybe it's just me, but for some reason, there's a lot of female hockey fans up in SFU. They don't always show Canuck's paraphernalia though, but when you start talking about hockey, they usually will chime in.
  • siuying
    edited November 2008
    DaNoobie;40296 said:
    This never worked for me grrr
    They just study with me like I'm some smart piece of meat and then never call. THEY PROMISED :(
    i guess they were trying to be nice and make it less obvious that this is the case.. =)
  • DaNoobie
    edited November 2008
    siuying;40323 said:
    i guess they were trying to be nice and make it less obvious that this is the case.. =)
    aye I was trying to replicate how men never calls after sex, guess I failed that one badly!
  • NukeChem
    edited November 2008
    Figure out a way to make your professor the unwitting accomplice in getting you two talking. :P

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