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Inter-racial student couples on campus

edited January 2008 in General
I haven't been around for the past few weeks and I thought I'd start off with a topic that could be moved to the debate section but does apply to the love life section.

We see guys and gals of different ethnicities walking around campus. Some are just friends and others are couples. We sit in class and see from the beginning to the end of the semester a guy and a girl of different racial origins sitting side-by-side. How the observation affects the opposite or same gender of the opposite or same racial group is something not discussed openly. Well, not in this forum.

Where do you draw the line as the doer or the observer? standing togther? walking together? sitting together? talking? hugging? holding hands? kissing?

One thing for certain, age and or experience is a major factor in observing or being in IR relationship on campus.

Comments

  • edited November 2007
    Your last two lines seem to be completely out of the context of your thread because they could apply to any relationship.

    There's nothing wrong with inter-racial relationships. This is 2007. Nobody's surprised or shocked when you see an asian girl with a white guy or whatever.

    I see lots of inter-racial relationships.. and they're great.


    Sue me if I'm not being P.C. here but.. I don't see a lot of inter-cultural relationships. I mean, there are a lot of cultural "groups" around SFU that seem to hang out and speak their own language, do their own activities, etc. I don't see a lot of cultural mixing.
  • edited November 2007
    Well, I don't really see what you're asking, because I don't see a problem. There is no "line" to draw, because people are just people; there is no restriction on how close 2 people can get just because of their race.

    Interracial couples are A+ in my book, usually their children turn out GORGEOUS! I call them "Vancouver Specials", because they're everywhere in Vancouver. It's not even an odd thing to see anymore, it's pretty much accepted by the majority.

    Sure, people have preferences about who they date, but who doesn't? I want a guy taller than me is the same thing as I want a to date a Caucasian guy. It's just a preference. When people DO oppose IR dating, it's probably because it doesn't match THEIR preferences, and isn't necessarily a racial difference thing.

    Although you see many IR couples, some families still look down on it, depending on how long the family has been in Canada. The longer they've been here, the longer they accept it. But sometimes, I know where they're coming from. It's sort of hard inviting someone into your family where their cultures and values are totally different, and it's hard to really teach them everything there is to know about your traditions and background in so little time. It's really something you just grow up with; the other person might not even understand why you do the things you do with your family, since your values are so different. This is why I think some parents are reluctant to accept IR dating since the differences in values are so drastically different. But like I said, the longer they've been here, the more they adapt, understand and accept.

    Age has always been a factor in any relationship, and you can't limit it to being a factor of IR relationships. Even if you were dating within your own race, you'd still consider age a factor, no matter who you are.

    I'm not sure what you mean by experience... Experience in what?

    But the bottom line is, I don't think there is a problem with IR dating. It's a great thing, everyone should try it out.
  • edited November 2007
    I'm a white guy and I dated a black girl for a little while, about a year ago. I never encountered any negativity, at school or anywhere else. Though, granted, she didn't go to SFU so we were only together up there once or twice. But still. I don't think there is any reaction to interracial couples in Vancouver. There certainly isn't any reaction to white-asian couples at SFU, as that seems to make up about 75% of all couples up there. :p

    Then again, I'm not inclined to think of myself as a victim, so I'm less likely to see ill will in others. Life is, for the most part, one big rorschach test, and what you see in others is likely what you bring to the table yourself.
  • edited November 2007
    Someones gotta point this out, but how often do you see an asian guy with a white girl?
  • edited November 2007
    DaNoobie;18295 said:
    Someones gotta point this out, but how often do you see an asian guy with a white girl?
    Rarely.
  • edited November 2007
    DaNoobie;18295 said:
    Someones gotta point this out, but how often do you see an asian guy with a white girl?
    I may be breaking down some PC boundries but I really don't care. It seems as if most caucasian females do not want to date asian males.
  • edited November 2007
    JayDub;18308 said:
    I may be breaking down some PC boundries but I really don't care. It seems as if most caucasian females do not want to date asian males.
    I'm learning this the hard way lol
  • edited November 2007
    What about people who are already bi or multi racial.

    No matter what basically everyone they date will make the relationship inter-racial.

    The whole concept of interracial dating is stupid because were all one race, human. Pigment and facial structure differences which exist in all 'races' exist within single 'races' some white people have different faces, lighter, or darker skin, same with some black people, asian people etc. It's going to get to a point where race is going to be something hard to identify, since not all biracial children look totally asian or totally white, or totally black etc.
  • edited November 2007
    I have absolutely no problem with inter-racial student couples in SFU, afterall I am open to ALL forms of relationship EXCEPT abusive relationship. In fact, inter-racial relationship just goes to prove how Canadian society have improved since head-tax and Japanese internment.
    DaNoobie;18295 said:
    Someones gotta point this out, but how often do you see an asian guy with a white girl?
    It is great that you point this out. As an Asian male, I have no shame in admitting that our attributes make us way less competitive than white or black males...
    JayDub;18308 said:
    I may be breaking down some PC boundries but I really don't care. It seems as if most caucasian females do not want to date asian males.
    Maybe I skipped a few section on PC when I am reading the forum rule, but this is an internet forum, we don't care about PC. In fact, PC will generate more dicussion. I too agree with you on the fact that most caucasian female are disinterested in Asian male.
  • edited November 2007
    what is this PC you speak of.

    the caucasian girls seem to like the rugged males, whereas asians tend to be the opposite. but there are exceptions, such as a couple weeks ago at work.

    saw a very attractive caucasian lady, about 20 i'd say, definitely caught my eye. turns out she was shopping with her asian boyfriend, and i thought to myself, "wow props brother , keep on motoring "

    now you're probably dying to hear the description of this asian male dating caucasian female. ripped build, short hair cut, he was decked out in CA.
  • edited November 2007
    Well... my mom is black and my dad is asian, and they seem pretty happy... or atleast they did until a while ago :D

    I look really chinese and not black at all, but I've dated everyone from chinese people to white girls and black...

    I gotta admit that you don't see a lot of white girls with asian guys, but I seem to have a thing for them, and it may be because they usually are not into chinese people that draws me to them =)

    But yeah, interracial relationships are great... I always hated some of my friends parents who had this thing going where their sons or daughters were only allowed to date "their own kind" =/
  • edited November 2007
    what is this PC you speak of.
    Political Correctness. Funny, this is the first forum that I have been in where some people are concerned about this...
  • edited November 2007
    Yea but it seems most Asian-Caucasian relationships are almost always such that it's the guy who's Caucasian and the girl is Asian. I've seen a few couples where it's an Asian guy and a Caucasian girl, but I think it's pretty rare.
  • edited November 2007
    omg burn them at the stake!!!

    haha kidding.
  • edited November 2007
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  • edited November 2007
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  • edited December 2007
    Asian guys are more shy and probably find it difficult approaching Caucasian females. Come to think of it, I haven't met a single shy Caucasian guy before. Hmmm.....
  • edited December 2007
    Agentbob;18914 said:
    Asian guys are more shy and probably find it difficult approaching Caucasian females. Come to think of it, I haven't met a single shy Caucasian guy before. Hmmm.....
    I have. I know this pretty boy from high school that just flushes red anytime theres any sort of attention his way
  • edited December 2007
    You haven't met any shy white guys yet? Head to the math and computer science department, or any of the sciences ;o
  • edited December 2007
    Interesting responses. Yes, there is nothing wrong with IR on campus. I also see no problem. They are great. Caucasian females love asian males.
  • edited December 2007
    中国男人;19615 said:
    Interesting responses. Yes, there is nothing wrong with IR on campus. I also see no problem. They are great. Caucasian females love asian males.
    LIES
  • edited December 2007
    中国男人;18272 said:
    I haven't been around for the past few weeks and I thought I'd start off with a topic that could be moved to the debate section but does apply to the love life section.

    We see guys and gals of different ethnicities walking around campus. Some are just friends and others are couples. We sit in class and see from the beginning to the end of the semester a guy and a girl of different racial origins sitting side-by-side. How the observation affects the opposite or same gender of the opposite or same racial group is something not discussed openly. Well, not in this forum.
    I've never bothered caring about it. *shrugs* Might as well ask me to care about the fact that the Earth's round. :P
  • edited December 2007
    I don't think there is a problem at all with inter racial couples. It ultimately comes down to the individuals and how they feel about each other, because, frankly, that's the society we live in. It's only when families start having issues with it and there are culture clashes that things get hard to handle.
  • edited December 2007
    Agentbob;18914 said:
    Asian guys are more shy and probably find it difficult approaching Caucasian females. Come to think of it, I haven't met a single shy Caucasian guy before. Hmmm.....
    hahaha ... you think asians are shy? you haven't seen me yet :P

    I am going to post about this topic on my blog.
  • edited December 2007
    It come down to the maturity of people who are the doers and observers. For the doers, it shouldn't matter at all what other people think or don't think. For the observers, learn to create, grow and respect your boundaries, as well as, that of others whom you are observing. From which, you can come to your own personal conclusions about what is good and conscionable for your piece of mind. Besides that, what business do people have formulating opinions about anyone's relationship with anyone else (Regardless of racial or interracial relationships). If you see they are happy, so be it. If you see they are sad, so be it. If all else fails, clap your hands together and go to your happy spot. Forget what you saw and get on with your life! Cheers.
  • edited January 2008
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