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Inter-racial student couples on campus
I haven't been around for the past few weeks and I thought I'd start off with a topic that could be moved to the debate section but does apply to the love life section.
We see guys and gals of different ethnicities walking around campus. Some are just friends and others are couples. We sit in class and see from the beginning to the end of the semester a guy and a girl of different racial origins sitting side-by-side. How the observation affects the opposite or same gender of the opposite or same racial group is something not discussed openly. Well, not in this forum.
Where do you draw the line as the doer or the observer? standing togther? walking together? sitting together? talking? hugging? holding hands? kissing?
One thing for certain, age and or experience is a major factor in observing or being in IR relationship on campus.
We see guys and gals of different ethnicities walking around campus. Some are just friends and others are couples. We sit in class and see from the beginning to the end of the semester a guy and a girl of different racial origins sitting side-by-side. How the observation affects the opposite or same gender of the opposite or same racial group is something not discussed openly. Well, not in this forum.
Where do you draw the line as the doer or the observer? standing togther? walking together? sitting together? talking? hugging? holding hands? kissing?
One thing for certain, age and or experience is a major factor in observing or being in IR relationship on campus.
Comments
There's nothing wrong with inter-racial relationships. This is 2007. Nobody's surprised or shocked when you see an asian girl with a white guy or whatever.
I see lots of inter-racial relationships.. and they're great.
Sue me if I'm not being P.C. here but.. I don't see a lot of inter-cultural relationships. I mean, there are a lot of cultural "groups" around SFU that seem to hang out and speak their own language, do their own activities, etc. I don't see a lot of cultural mixing.
Interracial couples are A+ in my book, usually their children turn out GORGEOUS! I call them "Vancouver Specials", because they're everywhere in Vancouver. It's not even an odd thing to see anymore, it's pretty much accepted by the majority.
Sure, people have preferences about who they date, but who doesn't? I want a guy taller than me is the same thing as I want a to date a Caucasian guy. It's just a preference. When people DO oppose IR dating, it's probably because it doesn't match THEIR preferences, and isn't necessarily a racial difference thing.
Although you see many IR couples, some families still look down on it, depending on how long the family has been in Canada. The longer they've been here, the longer they accept it. But sometimes, I know where they're coming from. It's sort of hard inviting someone into your family where their cultures and values are totally different, and it's hard to really teach them everything there is to know about your traditions and background in so little time. It's really something you just grow up with; the other person might not even understand why you do the things you do with your family, since your values are so different. This is why I think some parents are reluctant to accept IR dating since the differences in values are so drastically different. But like I said, the longer they've been here, the more they adapt, understand and accept.
Age has always been a factor in any relationship, and you can't limit it to being a factor of IR relationships. Even if you were dating within your own race, you'd still consider age a factor, no matter who you are.
I'm not sure what you mean by experience... Experience in what?
But the bottom line is, I don't think there is a problem with IR dating. It's a great thing, everyone should try it out.
Then again, I'm not inclined to think of myself as a victim, so I'm less likely to see ill will in others. Life is, for the most part, one big rorschach test, and what you see in others is likely what you bring to the table yourself.
No matter what basically everyone they date will make the relationship inter-racial.
The whole concept of interracial dating is stupid because were all one race, human. Pigment and facial structure differences which exist in all 'races' exist within single 'races' some white people have different faces, lighter, or darker skin, same with some black people, asian people etc. It's going to get to a point where race is going to be something hard to identify, since not all biracial children look totally asian or totally white, or totally black etc.
the caucasian girls seem to like the rugged males, whereas asians tend to be the opposite. but there are exceptions, such as a couple weeks ago at work.
saw a very attractive caucasian lady, about 20 i'd say, definitely caught my eye. turns out she was shopping with her asian boyfriend, and i thought to myself, "wow props brother , keep on motoring "
now you're probably dying to hear the description of this asian male dating caucasian female. ripped build, short hair cut, he was decked out in CA.
I look really chinese and not black at all, but I've dated everyone from chinese people to white girls and black...
I gotta admit that you don't see a lot of white girls with asian guys, but I seem to have a thing for them, and it may be because they usually are not into chinese people that draws me to them =)
But yeah, interracial relationships are great... I always hated some of my friends parents who had this thing going where their sons or daughters were only allowed to date "their own kind" =/
haha kidding.
I am going to post about this topic on my blog.