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Exes
What do you guys think? Can you really be friends with an ex without either person wanting more from the friendship again?
In my experience, my exes have always wanted more out of it again and thats why they are friends with me (cuz they think that something more might happen if we are friends rather than if we dont speak at all). Whenever that has happened, ive stopped hanging out with them and talking to them.
Can you really be friends once you've been intimate with them?
And how would you feel if your bf or gf was friends with their ex (like really good friends)? Would it bother you?
In my experience, my exes have always wanted more out of it again and thats why they are friends with me (cuz they think that something more might happen if we are friends rather than if we dont speak at all). Whenever that has happened, ive stopped hanging out with them and talking to them.
Can you really be friends once you've been intimate with them?
And how would you feel if your bf or gf was friends with their ex (like really good friends)? Would it bother you?
Comments
1) how long was the releationship with the ex?
2) how did the two of you becomes ex's?
3) what is you definition of intimacy on a scale from 1 to 10.
4) (optional) Is either one of you ex's in a relationship and if so, how long.
i haven't met a guy to which he can prove me wrong yet.. so i'm going to say no for now.. =)
and i also think the reason why you became ex's also factor into this.. kudos for pointing it out 中国男人
honestly.. i will not like it if my bf was really good friends with his ex gf.. but that dislike wouldn't make me do anything more than letting the girl know who's the current gf.. the rest i will leave it up to the guy who in my opinion.. should have enough balls and brains to deal with it..
Its not me that is friends with my ex (I mean, yes I do have an ex that im friends with, but i havent seen him for a very long time).
My bf is friends with his ex. They dated 4 years ago (im not sure for how long....at least 6 months i think, if not a year). And they are friends. She calls him all the time "just to talk", and frankly its kinda annoying. He talks with her about everything....the other nite, him and i had a fight, and he obviously called her, cuz she left a message on his facebook wall about it :/
I'm sorry, but im not ok with this. Its kinda weird to be perfectly honest. He didnt like it when my ex was posting on my facebook wall, so i told him to stop posting and txting me....and he did. And now she is doing the same thing....but he thinks its ok because they're friends. Ummm, im friends with my ex too but i told him to stop posting on my facebook wall cuz it obviously irritated my bf. I dont see how this is fair.
I'm not saying that i want to talk to my ex, i dont really....yah, the occassional "hi, how are you?" is fine, but i dont have any real desire to talk to him on a regular basis. Me and him had a really close friendship after we broke up, so i know what its like to be friends with your ex, but i stopped talking to him out of respect to my bf. This just seems odd that they talk so much, and her wall post that she left yesterday really pissed me off to be perfectly honest.
Am i nuts? Please let me know if you guys think im over-reacting cuz then maybe i have to re-evaluate it and just, i dunno, let it go or something. I just think the whole ex thing is iffy, and i feel he should respect if i feel uncomfortable about it....no?
P.S. at least that's how I think about it.
Yah, I didnt think i was over-reacting about this. I havent talked to him about it since the other nite. I'll prolly mention it this weekend cuz its still bugging me a bit.
Lol, he thought that it was ok that he could talk to his ex because they've been friends for 4 years and ive only been friends with mine for 2. Whatever, that makes no sense! He was like, "two years is nothing compared to four".