well buddy there's a lot more fish in the sea in univeristy. so go fishin buddy. i would be in the same position as you (and i'm older than you too btw) however you just have to learn how to talk to girls. talk to all girls whether you're interested in them or not to get some practice. hell if i never talked to some girls or asked the right questions i bet i would never have a gf yet either and still be a virgin to. and like what the other people said, don't force it, your opportunities will usually happen spotaneously so you just have to know how to react. good luck buddy.
if you really wanna meet people, joining clubs and being exec will let you meet a lot new people apparently. i never done it myself as i just wanna get my ass off the mountain when i'm done. don't wanna be at school for no reason.
So, in theory, the internet is just YOU and a few hundred thousand pedophiles, rapists, perverts, etc? Let's be reasonable...
Yes, there is danger in meeting people online. I don't think that 14 year olds should be running off to meet some guy they've been chatting to. However, as an adult, there are ways to have safe and healthy relationships. You have to use your common-sense.
And I'd rather chat with people online than people at a bar. ! (my apologies if I sound bitchy. Definitely not my intention! I just want to open people's minds)
\ if you use good common sense/good judgement, meet in public places and don't give out your private information untill you know the person a bit more...why not? erreybody needza lil' love!
\ if you use good common sense/good judgement, meet in public places and don't give out your private information untill you know the person a bit more...why not? erreybody needza lil' love!
whoo-dang!
i think the internet does open up a lot of opportunities to meet new people. but its just for me i don't find it too attractive to tell your friends... "yeah we met over the net". meh.
i think the internet does open up a lot of opportunities to meet new people. but its just for me i don't find it too attractive to tell your friends... "yeah we met over the net". meh.
I just tell people we met at a funeral. :wink:
And I don't really care what other people think because it's been over 4 years and I couldn't ask for a better guy. Funny thing is he was friends with a friend of mine and we didn't even know!
I don't know what's the deal either. Maybe it's the media. I love blaming the media. I recently turned 19, am a virgin, and never had a relationship. At this point, I don't think I really care. Through high school, like most people, I wanted to go out with girls and all that, but I was always too frickin shy and had the same self-esteem problem. So I never got a girlfriend let alone get laid. So I guess I got really bitter. But that bitterness kind of helped me in a way. I got increasingly bitter and apathetic and that helped me give up going for girls, because I couldn't go out with the ones I liked anyway. But that bitterness also made me able to talk to girls more without being shy. So now I'm still pretty shy, but a lot more outgoing than before, but still, as ever, in the situation where I don't really actively go for girls unless they come to me. I know it's pretty lame on my part, but I don't know, at this point, I couldn't care less. The bitterness and apathy made me a different person. :smile:
so hopefully i'll realize girls aren't as easy as they look in the movies about college residences
sorry to bash you ahah chowzzer. but yeah i'm not one to judge cause i dont know you're personal life and how you deal with girls etc, but it's just a general statement, nothing personal intended.
If you need to lose your v-card, there is a place called "Random Encounters" on some site called Craig's Lists. There you can find other lonely people, like yourself, who are desperate, like yourself, to have sex.
date your friends' friends :p i met one female in like gr7, and through her met dozens of other girls which kept me preoccupied until gr12... when i finally picked someone up of my own accord (at work)... one at a dance, and one through my brother's gf.
i've never had any trouble picking up girls...i don't see why it's so difficult for some people. you're trying too hard. just be yourself. just yourself, nothing more, nothing less. the last girl i met, i didnt say more than 5 words to her the first time i saw her (i'm shy and weird like that), but after seeing her a couple more times it sort of took off. you just have to talk to girls a bit, don't rush anything, don't immediately think about asking them out. just get to know them a little bit, spend some time with them, and if things are going well, ask them out.
attend social events. dances, house parties. ask your friends to hook you up if you really want (got one gf via a blind date thanks to my friend).
but i also meet a lot of girls i really don't like. don't ask them out if you don't like them, but perhaps keep them around as friends. chances are, they have some friends that you might actually like. so be nice to them :)
if you want sex... find a girl you like, and start being flirtatious. make things dirty. deliberately misinterpret things to be naughty. make subtle references to sex. if she starts doing them back, you might have something. when things are going well, don't be afraid to make a bold move. if she doesn't react well, cover it up with a joke. standard tricks of the trade :p
good luck buddy. you sound like a nice guy, but you're worrying about this too much.
sorry to bash you ahah chowzzer. but yeah i'm not one to judge cause i dont know you're personal life and how you deal with girls etc, but it's just a general statement, nothing personal intended.
well...not quite like the movies, but if you play your cards right, you can find a handful.
dude, I know how you feel. I've had the same experience in the past, ie. family problems, etc. The most important thing is: DON'T IDEALIZE like I did, waiting for the right girl to come. My advice is to work on your own life! Take out some time each day to reflect on what's been wrong in the past, and come to accept yourself. As you accept yourself more, girls will come to accept being with you too!
Before any more people decide to pass advise, could I remind you all that this thread is a year and a half old, and the originator of the thread probably hasn't been on TalkSFU since then.
buddy, if ur really desperate, bust ur balls and talk to as many girls as possible, even if they will just stay as friends, and i mean REALLY push for it, surround urself with as many women as possible, be confident and overly agressive
I've had friends like you and thats exactly what they did, people didn't like it, thought they were fags, try hards blah blah blah, but guess what, in the end they are the ones surrounded by women, and when other girls see that, it raises ur social value, you have absolutely nothing to lose and everything to gain
not only will u know more ppl that can help you in many ways, u can learn a lot from them, dont push for a relationship, but have it in mind and if u get the right signals go for it
being a virgin isn't a biggie, i hang out with tons of hotties and a lot of them think im a huge player even tho they dunno I barely have sex
confidence is key, remember that confidence is contagious, and so is lack of
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if you use good common sense/good judgement, meet in public places and don't give out your private information untill you know the person a bit more...why not? erreybody needza lil' love!
whoo-dang!
i think the internet does open up a lot of opportunities to meet new people. but its just for me i don't find it too attractive to tell your friends... "yeah we met over the net". meh.
And I don't really care what other people think because it's been over 4 years and I couldn't ask for a better guy. Funny thing is he was friends with a friend of mine and we didn't even know!
you can't tell me there hasn't been more than 1 guy who plays video game, experience an online romance.
so hopefully i'll loose my v-card by then.
edit: this is the funniest thread ever.
Poor virgin bastard, huh? Failed BISC 102 AND didn't even get any pussy to show for it.
i've never had any trouble picking up girls...i don't see why it's so difficult for some people. you're trying too hard. just be yourself. just yourself, nothing more, nothing less. the last girl i met, i didnt say more than 5 words to her the first time i saw her (i'm shy and weird like that), but after seeing her a couple more times it sort of took off. you just have to talk to girls a bit, don't rush anything, don't immediately think about asking them out. just get to know them a little bit, spend some time with them, and if things are going well, ask them out.
attend social events. dances, house parties. ask your friends to hook you up if you really want (got one gf via a blind date thanks to my friend).
but i also meet a lot of girls i really don't like. don't ask them out if you don't like them, but perhaps keep them around as friends. chances are, they have some friends that you might actually like. so be nice to them :)
if you want sex... find a girl you like, and start being flirtatious. make things dirty. deliberately misinterpret things to be naughty. make subtle references to sex. if she starts doing them back, you might have something. when things are going well, don't be afraid to make a bold move. if she doesn't react well, cover it up with a joke. standard tricks of the trade :p
good luck buddy. you sound like a nice guy, but you're worrying about this too much.
Like 1000 to 1. All over the street, prostitution is the only female dominant occupation (maybe nursing too).
Just give them a 50 but fat chicks will have a hard time finding a person to give the 50 to.
I've had friends like you and thats exactly what they did, people didn't like it, thought they were fags, try hards blah blah blah, but guess what, in the end they are the ones surrounded by women, and when other girls see that, it raises ur social value, you have absolutely nothing to lose and everything to gain
not only will u know more ppl that can help you in many ways, u can learn a lot from them, dont push for a relationship, but have it in mind and if u get the right signals go for it
being a virgin isn't a biggie, i hang out with tons of hotties and a lot of them think im a huge player even tho they dunno I barely have sex
confidence is key, remember that confidence is contagious, and so is lack of