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friend who wont listen!
u guys one of my best girlfriends started dating this guy for bout a month now and hes not good news but for some reason things are gettin really serious between them fast.. a couple of us have tried talkin to her makin her see what a dirtball he is but she doesnt listen and even starts ignoring us.. which is so not cool. do u guys have any suggestions about how we can get through to her!!
ps. this guy is liek trailer park trash... no job, no school jus sits at home lazy ass, and shes like goin to med school next year.. plus he doesnt treat her like gold to at least compensate for his flaws.. hes like such a jerk!! its so not like her cuz shes usually got really good judgement.. we dont normally butt in but shes already talkin about marrying him!!
ps. this guy is liek trailer park trash... no job, no school jus sits at home lazy ass, and shes like goin to med school next year.. plus he doesnt treat her like gold to at least compensate for his flaws.. hes like such a jerk!! its so not like her cuz shes usually got really good judgement.. we dont normally butt in but shes already talkin about marrying him!!
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What you need to do is be supportive of her so that she has someone to come to if/when things go wrong. This happens a lot with people who are in love! It's hard to see the other side of someone when you are falling in love. And it's VERY hard to come crawling back to friends who are going to say "I told you so!" So try to be a good friend and she'll thank you for it later...
Relationships involve a learning process. If he's wrong for her, as somebody going into med school, she's probably intelligent enough to make her own decisions. Stop messing around with her life.
And of course she won't listen. If somebody (or more than one person, which would actually be worse), kept telling me that the person I was dating was a complete bitch and *insert insulting comment here*, I wouldn't want to hear it either. Who just sits there, and listens to that crap, and thinks "wow, you know what? This person really is a piece of shit. WHY OH WHY DIDN'T I SEE THIS EARLIER??"
Yeah, it's understandable that friends want to look out for eachother.
You tried already and she didn't listen.
At least you tried. Let her learn on her own.