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Break up threats

edited August 2009 in General
What do you do about them?
What do you do when they occur anytime there's a fight?

"Threats" as in she says she's gonna break up with you but never follows through.

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  • edited June 2009
    Break up with her now. Any relationships that has an ultimatum is toxic.
  • edited June 2009
    She will forever hold the balance of power if she keeps getting away with that.

    Do what Agentbob said or you can call her on it and say "fine break up with me OR shutup and stop with these empty threats". Either way, from that point on, she no longer holds the balance of power.
  • edited June 2009
    She sounds too full of herself
  • edited June 2009
    Tell her to GTFO.
  • edited June 2009
    remind her
    actions > words
  • edited June 2009
    remind her
    shes a ho.... by pimp slapping her
  • edited June 2009
    Dude...if she's holding that over you then she obviously doesn't respect you or the relationship. It sucks but it's true...she's just threatening you so you will keep listening to what she says. I would break up with her, avoid her phone calls and emails and and let her come crawling back so she knows that you are better than her. Yea...what Agentbob said!
  • edited June 2009
    Who pulls break-up threats?
  • edited June 2009
    Oh God. What, are we in highschool or something? Break up threats are so stupid and only used by immature, insecure people. Honestly, don't waste your time with a person like that... Have the upper hand in the relationship and break up with her first! haha
  • edited June 2009
    xxk1nky;56563 said:
    Oh God. What, are we in highschool or something? Break up threats are so stupid and only used by immature, insecure people.
    I was gonna say the same thing.
    remind her
    shes a ho.... by pimp slapping her
    bitch_slap.jpg
  • edited June 2009
    mrbubbles;56552 said:
    Tell her to GTFO.
    couldnt agree more :D
  • edited June 2009
    sounds like what me and my ex went through... we were together for a while then she went to miami and she wanted to give her ex a second chance. So she told me about it and asked me if i could find in in my heart to let her go back to him. She threatened to break up with me just to go back to him and i simply told her " U know what... if u want him that badly forget it u obviously don't care about me when all i did was love u unconditionally. It's fucking over!" Sure enough she dumped me and left me out but fast forward a year later she's still trying to contact me and stuff even when i have a new gf now.
  • edited June 2009
    She's obviously too full of herself--or convinced that you are too ass ugly to get any other girl.

    My guess is that you have low self esteem if you're even THINKING on what to do in this situation... do both of yourselves a favor and say bye bye.

    And if you don't have the courage to go without some poon... JUST REMEMBER--YOUR OWN PAIR OF HANDS WILL NEVER TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOU, BREAK UP WITH YOU, OR BRING YOU DOWN.
  • edited June 2009
    Damn, I should've put this into perspective first. I've had quite a lot experience in different relationships, but I'm the first boyfriend she's had. Also, the "balance of power" in our relationship is fairly equal, although she might have the slight upperhand.

    Let me get some things straight first:
    -She's not full of herself
    -I do not have low self esteem and I am not ugly

    The thing is, we're "over" this episode once again and things are back to normal. To me and others looking in, we make a great couple. In fact, to me she's the most perfect girl i've met in terms of the combination of personality, compatibility, looks, and future aspirations. The only thing that truly bugs me is, of course, the breakup threat that dogs me everytime we have a fight. I agree it's immature (maybe it's a 1st bf thing?), but I'm not so quick to dismiss her without giving her time, just because we're so good together.

    You think that's what I should be doing? Waiting it out?
  • edited June 2009
    If you don't mind me asking, how long have you guys been together? And how often is she pulling these break-up threats? And how old is she?!!

    The whole threat thing, to me, is a huge turn-off and as I said earlier, really highlights her immaturity and insecurity.

    If it bugs you that much, then try bringing the topic up with her.
  • edited June 2009
    waiting it out? it will only get worse...
    waiting on people to change, heck wishing people will change is a waste of your time
  • IVTIVT
    edited June 2009
    call her bluff
  • edited June 2009
    GeoGeek;56582 said:
    Damn, I should've put this into perspective first. I've had quite a lot experience in different relationships, but I'm the first boyfriend she's had. Also, the "balance of power" in our relationship is fairly equal, although she might have the slight upperhand.

    Let me get some things straight first:
    -She's not full of herself
    -I do not have low self esteem and I am not ugly

    The thing is, we're "over" this episode once again and things are back to normal. To me and others looking in, we make a great couple. In fact, to me she's the most perfect girl i've met in terms of the combination of personality, compatibility, looks, and future aspirations. The only thing that truly bugs me is, of course, the breakup threat that dogs me everytime we have a fight. I agree it's immature (maybe it's a 1st bf thing?), but I'm not so quick to dismiss her without giving her time, just because we're so good together.

    You think that's what I should be doing? Waiting it out?
    In that case, it's something to talk about. Because if she's using "breaking up" as a resolution tool, it's not good. Breaking up should never be used as a threat if the two people in the relationship really have no desire to break up. Make sure that she understands that, even if this is her first relationship.

    As well, she is probably having some doubts. If she is starting to view your relationship as the only one she will ever have in her entire life, she would be wondering what it would be like to end the relationship and look for a new one--this often happens with first relationships that turn out to be serious. Most people are lucky in a way that they get their first relationships over with in their teenage years (which doesn't turn out to be serious relationships) and doesn't have as much pressure when it comes to, "oh god, is this the only person I'll ever be with?"

    Anyhow, talk to her about it. It's definitely not okay to just sweep this under the rug.
  • edited June 2009
    IVT;56591 said:
    call her bluff
    I have...repeatedly. Haha. She will backtrack when she knows I'M serious too.

    @Lixie
    Yeah, she's using breakup as a resolution...which doesn't ever work. I'm not sweeping it under the rug by any means, because we have this talk after these things happen and of course promises are made. I guess I always have hope after these talks. Thanks for your perspective.
  • edited June 2009
    But dont just keep having these "talks". Eventually somethings gotta give and she should stop doing that.
  • edited June 2009
    Yeah you're absolutely right. I won't tolerate it much longer anyway.
  • edited June 2009
    go chris brown on dat ho, or alternatively call a psychiatrist.
  • edited August 2009
    Tell her to go fuck herself and find someone better.

    If she's threatening you with a break up if you don't buy her that $1000 Gucci bag, just simply tell her to go fuck herself. Gold diggers like that are a dime a dozen.

    But don't commit. If you're going to commit, at least find someone of adequate intellect, which OBVIOUSLY she lacks. Let me guess, she's blonde.

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