She will forever hold the balance of power if she keeps getting away with that.
Do what Agentbob said or you can call her on it and say "fine break up with me OR shutup and stop with these empty threats". Either way, from that point on, she no longer holds the balance of power.
Dude...if she's holding that over you then she obviously doesn't respect you or the relationship. It sucks but it's true...she's just threatening you so you will keep listening to what she says. I would break up with her, avoid her phone calls and emails and and let her come crawling back so she knows that you are better than her. Yea...what Agentbob said!
Oh God. What, are we in highschool or something? Break up threats are so stupid and only used by immature, insecure people. Honestly, don't waste your time with a person like that... Have the upper hand in the relationship and break up with her first! haha
sounds like what me and my ex went through... we were together for a while then she went to miami and she wanted to give her ex a second chance. So she told me about it and asked me if i could find in in my heart to let her go back to him. She threatened to break up with me just to go back to him and i simply told her " U know what... if u want him that badly forget it u obviously don't care about me when all i did was love u unconditionally. It's fucking over!" Sure enough she dumped me and left me out but fast forward a year later she's still trying to contact me and stuff even when i have a new gf now.
She's obviously too full of herself--or convinced that you are too ass ugly to get any other girl.
My guess is that you have low self esteem if you're even THINKING on what to do in this situation... do both of yourselves a favor and say bye bye.
And if you don't have the courage to go without some poon... JUST REMEMBER--YOUR OWN PAIR OF HANDS WILL NEVER TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOU, BREAK UP WITH YOU, OR BRING YOU DOWN.
Damn, I should've put this into perspective first. I've had quite a lot experience in different relationships, but I'm the first boyfriend she's had. Also, the "balance of power" in our relationship is fairly equal, although she might have the slight upperhand.
Let me get some things straight first: -She's not full of herself -I do not have low self esteem and I am not ugly
The thing is, we're "over" this episode once again and things are back to normal. To me and others looking in, we make a great couple. In fact, to me she's the most perfect girl i've met in terms of the combination of personality, compatibility, looks, and future aspirations. The only thing that truly bugs me is, of course, the breakup threat that dogs me everytime we have a fight. I agree it's immature (maybe it's a 1st bf thing?), but I'm not so quick to dismiss her without giving her time, just because we're so good together.
You think that's what I should be doing? Waiting it out?
Damn, I should've put this into perspective first. I've had quite a lot experience in different relationships, but I'm the first boyfriend she's had. Also, the "balance of power" in our relationship is fairly equal, although she might have the slight upperhand.
Let me get some things straight first: -She's not full of herself -I do not have low self esteem and I am not ugly
The thing is, we're "over" this episode once again and things are back to normal. To me and others looking in, we make a great couple. In fact, to me she's the most perfect girl i've met in terms of the combination of personality, compatibility, looks, and future aspirations. The only thing that truly bugs me is, of course, the breakup threat that dogs me everytime we have a fight. I agree it's immature (maybe it's a 1st bf thing?), but I'm not so quick to dismiss her without giving her time, just because we're so good together.
You think that's what I should be doing? Waiting it out?
In that case, it's something to talk about. Because if she's using "breaking up" as a resolution tool, it's not good. Breaking up should never be used as a threat if the two people in the relationship really have no desire to break up. Make sure that she understands that, even if this is her first relationship.
As well, she is probably having some doubts. If she is starting to view your relationship as the only one she will ever have in her entire life, she would be wondering what it would be like to end the relationship and look for a new one--this often happens with first relationships that turn out to be serious. Most people are lucky in a way that they get their first relationships over with in their teenage years (which doesn't turn out to be serious relationships) and doesn't have as much pressure when it comes to, "oh god, is this the only person I'll ever be with?"
Anyhow, talk to her about it. It's definitely not okay to just sweep this under the rug.
I have...repeatedly. Haha. She will backtrack when she knows I'M serious too.
@Lixie Yeah, she's using breakup as a resolution...which doesn't ever work. I'm not sweeping it under the rug by any means, because we have this talk after these things happen and of course promises are made. I guess I always have hope after these talks. Thanks for your perspective.
Tell her to go fuck herself and find someone better.
If she's threatening you with a break up if you don't buy her that $1000 Gucci bag, just simply tell her to go fuck herself. Gold diggers like that are a dime a dozen.
But don't commit. If you're going to commit, at least find someone of adequate intellect, which OBVIOUSLY she lacks. Let me guess, she's blonde.
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Do what Agentbob said or you can call her on it and say "fine break up with me OR shutup and stop with these empty threats". Either way, from that point on, she no longer holds the balance of power.
actions > words
shes a ho.... by pimp slapping her
My guess is that you have low self esteem if you're even THINKING on what to do in this situation... do both of yourselves a favor and say bye bye.
And if you don't have the courage to go without some poon... JUST REMEMBER--YOUR OWN PAIR OF HANDS WILL NEVER TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOU, BREAK UP WITH YOU, OR BRING YOU DOWN.
Let me get some things straight first:
-She's not full of herself
-I do not have low self esteem and I am not ugly
The thing is, we're "over" this episode once again and things are back to normal. To me and others looking in, we make a great couple. In fact, to me she's the most perfect girl i've met in terms of the combination of personality, compatibility, looks, and future aspirations. The only thing that truly bugs me is, of course, the breakup threat that dogs me everytime we have a fight. I agree it's immature (maybe it's a 1st bf thing?), but I'm not so quick to dismiss her without giving her time, just because we're so good together.
You think that's what I should be doing? Waiting it out?
The whole threat thing, to me, is a huge turn-off and as I said earlier, really highlights her immaturity and insecurity.
If it bugs you that much, then try bringing the topic up with her.
waiting on people to change, heck wishing people will change is a waste of your time
As well, she is probably having some doubts. If she is starting to view your relationship as the only one she will ever have in her entire life, she would be wondering what it would be like to end the relationship and look for a new one--this often happens with first relationships that turn out to be serious. Most people are lucky in a way that they get their first relationships over with in their teenage years (which doesn't turn out to be serious relationships) and doesn't have as much pressure when it comes to, "oh god, is this the only person I'll ever be with?"
Anyhow, talk to her about it. It's definitely not okay to just sweep this under the rug.
@Lixie
Yeah, she's using breakup as a resolution...which doesn't ever work. I'm not sweeping it under the rug by any means, because we have this talk after these things happen and of course promises are made. I guess I always have hope after these talks. Thanks for your perspective.
If she's threatening you with a break up if you don't buy her that $1000 Gucci bag, just simply tell her to go fuck herself. Gold diggers like that are a dime a dozen.
But don't commit. If you're going to commit, at least find someone of adequate intellect, which OBVIOUSLY she lacks. Let me guess, she's blonde.