Longer Friendship - Highschool Friends or University Friends?

registereduser

What do you think or what has been your experience?

I think I'm going to keep in touch with my university friends more. I've been losing contact with my highschool friends.

bufli

most of my high school friends who didn't get into university aren't going anywhere far/quick in life (obv there are some exceptions) but on the most part meh.
if i start another business anytime soon i might hire some of my old friends as i know i can trust them, other then that ill mostly stick with university friends as their interests are more aligned with mine

DaNoobie

another business? What do you currently own?

Simon604

The friends we have and keep in touch with are usually people we have something in common with. When you were in high school, you guys had that in common so it was easy to talk about things because your lives were centered around a common social and academic context. Same thing with university...you'll make friends that you talk to about your classes, your profs, maybe even your personal life. But as everyone progresses further into their degree and also their careers, people will tend to take different paths and you won't have as much in common anymore...and therefore you may lose touch with some of those people as well.

Just enjoy life and sorround yourself with positive people...the rest kinda takes care of itself.

bufli

DaNoobie;54152 said:

another business? What do you currently own?

i had a coffee shop on w4 in kitz back in 1st year

Simon604

You mean you managed it for your parents? :P

bufli

Simon;54157 said:

You mean you managed it for your parents? :P

nope, having your own business is not very hard as i'm sure u may know ;)

rent for the shop was 4000$ a month that means i needed to sell ~134$ worth a day to break even
the location was a few blocks from jericho beach, so u can imagine it wasn't hard to break :)

Simon604

hahaha that's awesome

xxk1nky

Going into my third year, I haven't really met anyone in university that I have really connected with. There is maybe a handful of people from school that I would hang out with and probably one or two of those I do hang out with on a regular basis. However, I've found I've kept a very close connection with my friends from highschool. It's hard to not be friends with them as we went to elementary, highschool, and live within the same vicinity so yeah... it's kind of inevitable. I have yet to find some awesome university people!

bufli

^ holy crap that means you've lived in the same place for a loooooooooooong ass time

xxk1nky

bufli;54163 said:

^ holy crap that means you've lived in the same place for a loooooooooooong ass time

Yeah, it's been a while! I think I've lived in this house since kindergarten. So yeah... 15 years or something? I didn't want to move when I was in school since school, both elementary and highschool, are both a 3min walk away from my house. And I live so close to everything! Everything is like no longer than a 15min drive away. I wouldn't mind moving now though... since going up to Burnaby campus takes like 35min, ugh.

bufli

^ krazy
i changed schools every year till high school, just because lol

siuying

i value my highschool friends more so than most things.. a lot of stuff happened to me in highschool and the friends i have now are those who stuck around during the tough times while the others left because they couldn't accept who i was.. but these people are people that i genuinely feel comfortable with and i don't think i'll ever find that level of comfort in people i got to know in university.. time is a huge factor for me because you learn about a person through time and there are a couple of my highschool friends who know more about me than i know about myself and they keep me on track.. act as my guilty conscience etc.. and i wouldn't know what i'll do without them...

i've yet to find this kind of friendship in university.. i guess it's because it all starts out with surfacey talk and either party shows interest in keeping the friendship after the semester is over.. plus i'm content with my high school friends which is probably why i never took the initiative to get to know people in university.. =\ and yeah... i get a bit anti-social/nerdy at school too.. well... sometimes... =x

Agentbob

Most of my friends are from university. I had a really close friend with me back in elementary, but I was a shithead and our friendship didn't last into high school because of me. I regret it a lot, but other than that, most of my high school friends have drifted apart. I still keep in touch with a few, but we don't hang out anymore.

Some university students I find takes themselves too seriously. Most people's idea of having fun is sitting in a restaurant and talking. Luckily for me, I found a group that loves to go out and do random stuff like lazer tag, or bowling.

randomuser

siuying;54173 said:

i value my highschool friends more so than most things.. a lot of stuff happened to me in highschool and the friends i have now are those who stuck around during the tough times while the others left because they couldn't accept who i was.. but these people are people that i genuinely feel comfortable with and i don't think i'll ever find that level of comfort in people i got to know in university.. time is a huge factor for me because you learn about a person through time and there are a couple of my highschool friends who know more about me than i know about myself and they keep me on track.. act as my guilty conscience etc.. and i wouldn't know what i'll do without them...

i've yet to find this kind of friendship in university.. i guess it's because it all starts out with surfacey talk and either party shows interest in keeping the friendship after the semester is over.. plus i'm content with my high school friends which is probably why i never took the initiative to get to know people in university.. =\ and yeah... i get a bit anti-social/nerdy at school too.. well... sometimes... =x

I haven't made any friends from university that I really hang around with often, people I met from high school are way closer to me. I think you can have more in common with people at a younger age than at an older age, and its harder to develop the bonds as you age.

justinbh2

randomuser;54666 said:

I haven't made any friends from university that I really hang around with often, people I met from high school are way closer to me. I think you can have more in common with people at a younger age than at an older age, and its harder to develop the bonds as you age.

I second that.

When I moved from Toronto to here at the age of seventeen, I never quite made the same type of close friendships as I had back in Ontario.

I mean, I've made friends in the last 12 years, but just not in the same league of closeness(aside from my wife that is, lol ).

Hope_2016

randomuser;54666 said:

I haven't made any friends from university that I really hang around with often, people I met from high school are way closer to me. I think you can have more in common with people at a younger age than at an older age, and its harder to develop the bonds as you age.

And where was/is the guy that you wanted to replace his girlfriend so that you can be his? Was that not university friend?

anonymous1

I stopped hanging out with the majority of my high school friends. I can see my university ones lasting longer.

anonsxc

randomuser;54666 said:

I haven't made any friends from university that I really hang around with often, people I met from high school are way closer to me. I think you can have more in common with people at a younger age than at an older age, and its harder to develop the bonds as you age.

+1
i dont spend time with any1 i've met @ uni so far