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Dating Childhood Friend
Hey guys,
I recently found out that one of my childhood friend from Hong Kong, and quite possibly the ONLY female friend I had before coming here, has went to study in the States. What does this concern me, you ask? Well, according to her mom, her daughter is extremely lonely, bored and homesick there and she URGES me to MSN with her daughter. Believe it or not, I actually MSN with my friend and found that we have a lot to talk about even after 9+ years of not seeing each other. However, we both have changed a great deal after 9+ years of separation and she seems to have a hard time adjusting to this new me. Ex: I offered to send her recent pics of myself and she asked, "Since when did you become so nice?" I replied, "I have always been this nice."I guess that after not each other for 9+ years, she didn’t realize that I have changed from a whiny prick of the past to something else entirely.
So I was thinking, a combination of knowing her since childhood, younger than me by a year, single and lonely in a foreign land, maybe I should take this friendship to another level, aka start dating her. Ok sure, if this works out, it will be a long distance relationship.
The benefits...
1.) Our parents know each other VERY well because my dad and his dad were co-workers back in Hong Kong. This would therefore eliminate the awkward introduction between parents.
2.) Knowing her since childhood pretty much eliminated the need to lay the groundwork for the early stage of a relationship.
The problems...
1.) She is Christian. Therefore, I can forget about [insert anything sinful here].
2.) Like I said above, it will be a long distance relationship.
3.) Being childhood friend and all, it will be quite awkward if we broke up.
I recently found out that one of my childhood friend from Hong Kong, and quite possibly the ONLY female friend I had before coming here, has went to study in the States. What does this concern me, you ask? Well, according to her mom, her daughter is extremely lonely, bored and homesick there and she URGES me to MSN with her daughter. Believe it or not, I actually MSN with my friend and found that we have a lot to talk about even after 9+ years of not seeing each other. However, we both have changed a great deal after 9+ years of separation and she seems to have a hard time adjusting to this new me. Ex: I offered to send her recent pics of myself and she asked, "Since when did you become so nice?" I replied, "I have always been this nice."I guess that after not each other for 9+ years, she didn’t realize that I have changed from a whiny prick of the past to something else entirely.
So I was thinking, a combination of knowing her since childhood, younger than me by a year, single and lonely in a foreign land, maybe I should take this friendship to another level, aka start dating her. Ok sure, if this works out, it will be a long distance relationship.
The benefits...
1.) Our parents know each other VERY well because my dad and his dad were co-workers back in Hong Kong. This would therefore eliminate the awkward introduction between parents.
2.) Knowing her since childhood pretty much eliminated the need to lay the groundwork for the early stage of a relationship.
The problems...
1.) She is Christian. Therefore, I can forget about [insert anything sinful here].
2.) Like I said above, it will be a long distance relationship.
3.) Being childhood friend and all, it will be quite awkward if we broke up.
Comments
CUE THE THUNDER AND LIGHTNING
are you dating her out of her convenience? or are you just doing it to please her mom.. please your mom.. feel sympathetic towards her and whatnot.. because let me tell you.. you DO NOT want to date a girl or anyone under these circumstances.. you're throwing yourself into a sticky situation (that is.. assuming you really are a nice guy as you say you are..=P)
Besides missing her family, she'll have someone else here to miss. Do you like her? If you've been chatting on msn for months, and decides you like her, go for a visit.. no matter how much you knew each other, you dont start a relationship after 9 years, a few chats and boredom.
I joke.
And the christian thing can actually be a bigger problem than you'd expect. I once knew this girl who was so much into it that she'd devote everything to god and put everything else as minor priorities.
And are you sure this is what you want to do? I mean you should totally go for it if it's what you want and what she wants but long-distance relationships take a lot of work. I haven't been in one so I guess I shouldn't talk but the whole trust factor, communication (I guess MSN/Skype makes it easier), and just make that extra effort to make it work makes long-distance relationships unappealing to me, personally. But on the bright side, even if you guys did end up going out and if you did break up, I don't think it will affect your mom and her mom's friendship and since you guys are one two separate continents, I'm sure that'll ease the awkwardness and make the break-up somewhat easier. But patching up the friendship is the part that'll be tricky...
Anywho, I'm thinking waaaaay into the future and I'm not even the one involved!
But if you can make it work... =)