just wondering...do you think guys (in general) are willing to get married at the age of 26 just because he likes/wants to? or is 26 too early for a guy? :confused:
i'll probably get married when I'm 23 if things work out, haha . I'll be done school when I'm 21... then a couple years to get myself grounded a bit, lol.
I'm 26 and I don't want to get married. The older ladies at work told me guys should not get married before they're 30. It's not smart. I guess they're telling me based on their experience.
Ideally, I would like to get married when I'm in my early 30s. Right now, I'm more focused on developing my career and not getting my gf pregnant by accident. I don't really have time to take care of a family right now. Nor do I think I have the financial means to take care of a family right now.
I don't see how 26 is too young. I'll be 21 when I graduate. By the time i'm 26, Ill have been with my current girlfriend for 7 years. I'll be 5 years into my career or whatever, lol.
^ It depends though. For example, if you wanna get your CA designation, you'll probably be done with your education when you're 25-26. Having said that, you'll be pulling in around 75k at that age which should be sufficient to support a family. On the other hand, you'll probably be looking to buy a place at that age and most of your income will be going towards your mortgage. Aren't weddings expensive too?
Maybe 50 years ago it was all right, but not today. These days it's harder to establish a career, so if you want to marry when you're stable, chances are you'll marry when you're in your early 30s at the earliest.
I don't see how 26 is too young. I'll be 21 when I graduate. By the time i'm 26, Ill have been with my current girlfriend for 7 years. I'll be 5 years into my career or whatever, lol.
i basically have the same situation as triple (other than im a girl and he's a guy). but the thing with me is that my bf and i are the same age and i want to get married at around 26 so that i can work my head off without worrying about having children when im like in the mid to high 30s (which is kind of dangerious, but then again, technology is quite good now...)
but getting married at 26 will lead to another problem, which is "Can a relationship last for 7 years?"
Shi2;21225 said:
Not in chinese traditions sadly.
But at least if the guy's family is willing to pay for the wedding, then it doesnt really matter to the guy, right?
I cant speak for men but I think it matters how much someone likes someone...I know Ive heard people say I dont want to get married yet to other people, and that is only becaues they have hesitations or it doesnt feel right.
I think the answer is anytime, if it is the right person
I wouldn't.. it seems a bit too early for me. But it really depends on what situation and mindset I'm in at that time. I would mainly focus on my career during that phase of my life. As well, the people I hang out with during that time would affect my decisions too. So it really depends =).
Maybe I'm the only one, but I don't ever intend on getting married. I'm going to die alone and single, and quite frankly, I'm fine with that. I heard so many horror stories of what happens after marriage. I understand that marriage is something you work for, but I'd rather keep the drama out of my life.
yes i would get married at 26, currently i'm 20. preferably no later then 28
why?
dunno.. again with the idealist thing from the dating thread. i would like to be a dad someday and i know this sounds crazy but the sooner the better =)
i love kids and working with kids so having a kid of my own would be even better. of course there are the things like late nights, baby crying, lacking sleep etc...
i would happily work two jobs and sacrafice my sleep, the clothes on my back or even skip a meal if it meant i could give that much more to my kids or my wife. alot of friends tell me i'm crazy or "once your in that boat you'll want out". co-workers think i'm off my rockers, lol. but i feel that its in my nature so i'm sure i'll see it through.
only kink in the rope is that i'm single haha..
in response to the OP's comment, i believe it is dependent on the type of person, whether they be guy or girl. some are ready to get married at 26 others earlier some later. things like financial situation would probably be what strikes me the most as to whether or not someone gets married early. however, materialistic restrictions can be conquered with enough effort, atleast IMO.
getting hitched early doesnt necessarily mean you'll have an unsuccessful marriage nor does getting married late guarantee a successful one. if your boyfriend feels that he cannot get married at 26 then thats his decision. if you love him enough i'm sure you'll wait =). but then again another issue arises from the context of this question.
if the significant other is not wanting to marry yet and you want to, how long are you willing to wait?
although its nice to think as long as there's love you can wait till eternity but, in all honesty i think you can only hold on so long. you wait a year, maybe two. you start to get anxious, perhaps even pressure ur bf/gf about marriage. could lead to fights and eventually splitting or could lead to "shotgun wedding" where that other person isnt really ready for the responsibilities being thrown upon them and will have a hard time dealing with them during the first years of marriage or untill they get used to it. who knows they might not get used to it at all.
you dont specify that your boyfriend refuses to marry at 26 but then again here you are posting the question on the forum so it seems that you are unsure as to whether or not he would wanna get married at that age. have you tried/considered talking to him about it?
you dont specify that your boyfriend refuses to marry at 26 but then again here you are posting the question on the forum so it seems that you are unsure as to whether or not he would wanna get married at that age. have you tried/considered talking to him about it?
Well, I didn't talk to him about this because I don't want to force him or make him think that I'm forcing him. Also, we never really talk about at what age we should get married, but then again, he sometimes implies that I'm the girl that he wants to marry. So, I don't know. Just a little confused. :confused:
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Ideally, I would like to get married when I'm in my early 30s. Right now, I'm more focused on developing my career and not getting my gf pregnant by accident. I don't really have time to take care of a family right now. Nor do I think I have the financial means to take care of a family right now.
Are girls willing to get married at the age of 26?
Maybe 50 years ago it was all right, but not today. These days it's harder to establish a career, so if you want to marry when you're stable, chances are you'll marry when you're in your early 30s at the earliest.
but getting married at 26 will lead to another problem, which is "Can a relationship last for 7 years?" But at least if the guy's family is willing to pay for the wedding, then it doesnt really matter to the guy, right?
I think the answer is anytime, if it is the right person
Same with for every girl....for me, im 22 right now, and I can definitely see myself married by the time im 26....maybe before!
I would get married at that age.
But I'm still young, and maybe that'll change.
:/
If I ever do wish to get married, I'm going to ask for a prenuptial just in case I go down the road to divorce.
yes i would get married at 26, currently i'm 20. preferably no later then 28
why?
dunno.. again with the idealist thing from the dating thread. i would like to be a dad someday and i know this sounds crazy but the sooner the better =)
i love kids and working with kids so having a kid of my own would be even better. of course there are the things like late nights, baby crying, lacking sleep etc...
i would happily work two jobs and sacrafice my sleep, the clothes on my back or even skip a meal if it meant i could give that much more to my kids or my wife. alot of friends tell me i'm crazy or "once your in that boat you'll want out". co-workers think i'm off my rockers, lol. but i feel that its in my nature so i'm sure i'll see it through.
only kink in the rope is that i'm single haha..
in response to the OP's comment, i believe it is dependent on the type of person, whether they be guy or girl. some are ready to get married at 26 others earlier some later. things like financial situation would probably be what strikes me the most as to whether or not someone gets married early. however, materialistic restrictions can be conquered with enough effort, atleast IMO.
getting hitched early doesnt necessarily mean you'll have an unsuccessful marriage nor does getting married late guarantee a successful one. if your boyfriend feels that he cannot get married at 26 then thats his decision. if you love him enough i'm sure you'll wait =). but then again another issue arises from the context of this question.
if the significant other is not wanting to marry yet and you want to, how long are you willing to wait?
although its nice to think as long as there's love you can wait till eternity but, in all honesty i think you can only hold on so long. you wait a year, maybe two. you start to get anxious, perhaps even pressure ur bf/gf about marriage. could lead to fights and eventually splitting or could lead to "shotgun wedding" where that other person isnt really ready for the responsibilities being thrown upon them and will have a hard time dealing with them during the first years of marriage or untill they get used to it. who knows they might not get used to it at all.
you dont specify that your boyfriend refuses to marry at 26 but then again here you are posting the question on the forum so it seems that you are unsure as to whether or not he would wanna get married at that age. have you tried/considered talking to him about it?
cheers,
JC
I'm 23 now...so I'm a lil ahead of you (and i got a girl i'd love to marry) in terms of years...I'll let you know when i'm 26 k? lol
i couldn't agree more..
just my take on life
JC
=)
seems to be the popular opinion amongst any girl ive talked to about this, and i dont necessarily disagree with them
guess this is more of a societal/cultural thing though