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alright, she's pissed again and so am i
Alright, so here is the story.
First off, I hate clubs with a passion.
Second off, I do not drink while I work out, I drink during my week break every 6 weeks.
the only time I enjoy a club is when I drink. (call me lame, whatever)
alright, now for the dilemma
Girlfriend comes over. Its her friends birthday tomorrow at 7pm downtown. Starts at the keg, then to a club after around 10 or 11.
The ottawa game is on against detroit, the two top teams in the league. (Ottawa games are hardly televised and I am a hockey fanatic, she knows this). It will be over around 630. So, I said I wanted to watch the game and we would get there around 715, 15 mins late, which most people probably won't get there till 730 because no one shows up on time. So I get mad because she won't wait, she'd rather go with her friends down there and make me go by myself to a party where I won't know many people, and ultimately end up at a club which I hate being at and will have no fun at all.
And don't say, "oh you have to make sacrifices." I go to her friends parties all the time and when I want to go to one of mine, she says she wouldn't feel comfortable there and ends up neither of us going.
Then to top it off, I tell her I don't want to spend the night at her house because I have homework to do and I am extremely slow at doing it. So I want to lay down with her for 15 mins before I drive her home (actually lay down, not sex, lol). She storms off, pissed off, decides to walk home, and pisses me off even more.
Now, I don't want to go to this party at all and I don't feel like seeing her for a week or so.
so, what are your thoughts, haha
First off, I hate clubs with a passion.
Second off, I do not drink while I work out, I drink during my week break every 6 weeks.
the only time I enjoy a club is when I drink. (call me lame, whatever)
alright, now for the dilemma
Girlfriend comes over. Its her friends birthday tomorrow at 7pm downtown. Starts at the keg, then to a club after around 10 or 11.
The ottawa game is on against detroit, the two top teams in the league. (Ottawa games are hardly televised and I am a hockey fanatic, she knows this). It will be over around 630. So, I said I wanted to watch the game and we would get there around 715, 15 mins late, which most people probably won't get there till 730 because no one shows up on time. So I get mad because she won't wait, she'd rather go with her friends down there and make me go by myself to a party where I won't know many people, and ultimately end up at a club which I hate being at and will have no fun at all.
And don't say, "oh you have to make sacrifices." I go to her friends parties all the time and when I want to go to one of mine, she says she wouldn't feel comfortable there and ends up neither of us going.
Then to top it off, I tell her I don't want to spend the night at her house because I have homework to do and I am extremely slow at doing it. So I want to lay down with her for 15 mins before I drive her home (actually lay down, not sex, lol). She storms off, pissed off, decides to walk home, and pisses me off even more.
Now, I don't want to go to this party at all and I don't feel like seeing her for a week or so.
so, what are your thoughts, haha
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I can tell you with certainty that I`m staying in tomorrow night...not missing that game.
In all honesty...being 15 minutes late is ridiculous to be mad about. If my boyfriend said he`d be late because of a game, I would understand. If he said he was going to be missing the event entirely because of a regular season game (playoffs are negotiable, probably because I`d be staying in as well), then I`d be a little ticked.
http://talksfu.ca/showthread.php?t=2775
15mins late could easily be result of traffic and etc. too
PS: My Nicole appreciation went up a few notches
woo..........
and boo.. detroit sucked..
In your case... I had a similar situation where I went to a friends party first, and he called to ask why I did that and got mad that I didn't wait for him to go with me (I got a ride from a girl friend who was on the way to the same party and stopped by to offer me a ride, which I couldn't pass up or I'd hafta bus).
We'll I'd say you guys are both in the wrong, haha. You could have taped it, she could have waited... I admit I wouldn't want to go to a party alone, that I wasn't invited to, if I was going just to accompany someone... And you should have explained that to her. Ah, so stubborn you guys =P Don't worry, you guys aren't the only ones. We can explode over silly things like this too. But, it over and done with, can't change the past, might as well forgive and forget *shrugs*
When I replay what your fight in my head, I can think of 3-4 times this exact thing happened to me. Exactly. Maybe not about the game, but similar stuff. Freaky... haha
You can't tape hockey games! It's not like taping Grey's Anatomy or something...you can't tape live events and still be as excited when your team scores.
ended up at the odyssey (yeah its a gay club, the birthday guy is gay).
wasn't that bad if you got some drugs in you, haha.
Cheers.
As for the topic at hand, I think you are both wrong, as someone already said. She could have waited (15 minutes isnt a huge deal) and you could have taped the game.
But i need to know, how far in advance did you know about this birthday shindig?? I mean, if she told you about this in advance (like a few days) and you said you would go for 7pm, and then you suddenly change the time that you will be arriving at the last minute, thats not really fair.
And no, I did not meet her on the internet or any other little joke you are going to try and come back at me with.
And if i was, i would have hardly come back with, "oh i guess you met her on the internet" cuz thats not even really a joke and its a lame comeback anyway.
I just feel kinda sorry for her if you blow her off all the time to watch hockey. I mean, its hockey. A bunch of guys pushing a puck across the ice. You can tape it and watch the puck slide across the ice later.
i'm not a big fan of hockey but i'm a biggie for soccer.. i've skipped classes and bailed out on work because of world cup and that's because i don't want to watch replays.. i want to see it there at the moment along with everyone else.. and because you'll know who win after the game is over.. people and their big mouths ruin the game for you.. =.=" so you'll know what happens which defeats the whole point of watching the game.. it's the process that counts and not the results.. =)
Hockey isn't just a sport for many people, similar to football and (once) baseball in America. It's a way of life and missing an important game is, and always should be, out of the question. I sort out my priorities, but I admit that I've asked past boyfriends to stay in for the night to watch the game. Luckily, they've had no problem.
The discussion isn't about watching the game over seeing the girlfriend, because he didn't. It's that the girlfriend asked this guy to give up what probably would have been the last period so that he wouldn't be fifteen minutes late. I see a little unfair give-and-take here, inequality if you will.
I don't think there really is a "proper" way to settle this whole thing, because I'm guessing that your girlfriend thinks that she's right and you think that you're right etc.
If there was a "proper" way, then you guys would've settled on something already right? =)
depending on what crowd, asian for sonar, caucasian for vanilla room etc. but they are mostly stereotypes.
ps. sonar = underage as well.
I dont get hockey, why do they even allow fighting if you get a penalty...kinda sounds showy to me, like wrestling...
If they made plans in advance, it is extremely rude to simply change plans last minute. I am very huge on this issue. I do not like being cancelled on, just like i would never cancel on someone last minute unless it was an emergency....hockey is not something that is major.
Bottom line: Its a game. Yes, you'd like to experience it with everyone else, but oh guess what, you're sitting in your house either alone or with one or two other people....hardly experiencing it with EVERYONE. Now, if you were with thousands of people watching the game live, then fine, you can experience it with them, but if you're gonna do it in your house, i see no reason why you can not just tape the game and watch it later if you have made previous plans. Its the courteous thing to do to your significant other.
Hardly.
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