At what age do you Trully know yourself?

da_prodigy

I thought I would bring this discussion here because we are all around the same age but all from different walks of life.

What brought this to mind is the fact that when I tell people that I wanna get married, they immediatly ask how old I am. When I tell them they say but you barely know yourself.

My thinking is if take 30 years trying to find yourself by someone elses definition at what point to find out you were never lost. I would hate to tell someone oh no I love you but I can't marry you because I'm still finding myself.

I let the same people know that the way I was raised I was forced to be more mature at a younger age. Some of the things I experienced at 8 years old are unheard of for today's 8 year olds. I don't knock those who dont share the same experiences I rather just believe you are shaped by the way you were raised. I could be wrong.

So I ask you all, Is there a specific age when you know yourself? If so what age? Are there certain things you must encounter? If so What? Or is it just in when you yourself believe you know yourself?

This is not about marriage and when you should get married it's just thats the situation that gave me this question.

Kevin M.

I say you can never truely know yourself, for everyday brings a change to ourselves, and also our environment. New days bring new perceptions. We can never truely know ourselves, but we should never stop trying, for I would rather know myself a little, than not at all.

siuying

i don't think age can define when you truly know yourself.. it's an ongoing process and everyday you learn something new about yourself.. and that process doesn't quite end at a certain age..

i also don't think it's neccessary that you need to find yourself in order to marry someone.. i view the "soul searching" to be mutually exclusive with marriage simply because it's a personal thing.. and by personal i don't mean it doesn't involve other people.. but that the one who really gets the most out of it is you..

Smiles

There isn't a set age of when someone knows themselves. I know 30 year olds who have a better grasp of who they are compared to 50 year olds who are at a complete loss. I'm not saying that they completely know themselves, however, they have a better idea of who they are. I think going through hardships & experience definately helps in learning about yourself. What is that saying? Time doesn't heal wounds, its what you do in that time that helps it heal. This is true with getting to know yourself. It doesn't matter how old you are, its really more about what you do during that time, such as self-reflection, going through things, etc. And I agree with Kevin M, I don't think you can ever fully know yourself.

Malakaiii

I think you always know yourself. You are the only person who gets to enjoy that constant running commentary inside your skull, and can feel your emotions. Ask a child about themselves and they will have lots to say (favourites, dislikes, friends, memories, hopes, plans, etc).

I think the question is not if you know yourself, but if you know how you fit into the world around you. That is a lot more difficult to define as it is constantly changing.

I don't think that not knowing how you fit should prevent you from making choices or big life changes. It is through these that we find out how we can change the world and how it changes us!

So you DO know yourself. You know yourself now, you know what you want, what you don't want, and how those needs conflict with each other. The unknown is how the rest of the world will respond. I think you get better at predicting that with age, but it may prevent you from taking chances too!

Smiles

I definately think that society can make it difficult to be who we are sometimes. There will always be that person who will judge you, even if you have the biggest heart in the world, others will always find fault. What really matters if you are happy & comfortable with your own being.