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socializing with girls in clubs
Well i just got back home from a night out, pretty decent altogether. of recent i decided i'm going to try to work on my game, and of course by game i mean picking up girls. of course the best way to pick up girls is simply just to talk to them (and no i don't mean pick up lines......)
here's where my problem comes in, finding good conversation starters that will create an interesting conversation with someone you just met. and this doesn't go for just women only, i would like to be able to strike up a good conversation with anyone that i've just met. in all i'm trying to be a more social person.
here's where my problem comes in, finding good conversation starters that will create an interesting conversation with someone you just met. and this doesn't go for just women only, i would like to be able to strike up a good conversation with anyone that i've just met. in all i'm trying to be a more social person.
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and when it comes to "macking bitches" nothing beats confidence and a sense of humor.
in any situation, i approach women not on the basis that i'm trying to get them to go out with me, but rather from the perspective of; would i want to go out with them. if i'm talking to a girl and she's copping attitude on me, then chances are she isn't going to change much further on down the road.
be yourself. and all that crap. it's true, and it keeps thing simple.
crap i look for:
if she's playing with her hair while we're talking, you go in for the kill. that's a subconscious indicator of interest for a female.
is her laugh genuine? does she even like to laugh? (charis, from the cfox morning show has THE sexiest laugh ever)
does she keep eye contact?
does she have anything to say? does she bring anything to the conversation, or does she just sit there and try to look fuckable
i am at the point in my life where when it comes to sex my mind starts to wander half way through the second time around. so there's got to be more to keep me around then a nice bum and perfect skin. but that's getting away from the point in the thread.
one more thing. if you get past the whole socializing in the club thing. and you actually find yourself dating someone. i heard this in "A Bronx Tale" with Robert DeNiro and Chaz Palminteri. And I swear to god this is as close to the truth as you'll ever get. When you pick a girl up for a date. You pull up to her house, when you get out of the car make sure both doors are locked. You bring her to the car, unlock and open the door for her, let her get in, then close the door behind her. walk around the back of the car and stop at the rear window. If she doesn't reach over and unlock your door for you. You dump her. As soon as possible. Why? Because if she doesn't reach over and lift that button for you it means she's selfish and all you're seeing is the tip of the iceberg.
it isn't exactly original, but i swear to god, in my experience, its the truth.
After striking up converstions with maybe 25 girls in one night, I found that I wasn't really too nervous about aproaching one I actually like. ;)
vik...thats for us to know and you to find out ;)
If you are going to try to pick up club girls, there are three types...
1) golddigging sluts
2) girls with major issues (and I mean big)
3) girls who are there to have a good time
I would stay away from the golddiggers & girls with major issues - unless you are there for superficial reasons (i.e. sex), and/or want a very needy girl. Girls who are there to have a good time, well.... they are only there to have a good time. Nothing wrong with asking, how is your night going, having fun, etc. I'm not saying its impossible, but if you are looking to pick up a good girl, it will be hard to find her at a club. Because the good girls are usually too busy having a good time and not too concern with getting picked up.
But long story short - if your friend is more attractive?
That is all.
i choose meeting them at the gym.
but i'd say library is easier to conversate because in a library, i just have that urge to talk, don't know if it's the same for the rest of you haha.
I don't think the library is a good place. Gym is better, haven't tried it there though.
The problem with the gym is that the girls who want to get hit on are equivelant to the "buy me a drink" girls, and the girls who don't are there to possibly shed a little weight or tone up and are self-conscious.
I'd say the coffee house on campus or the cafeterias are good bets. Social atmosphere, but you can hear yourself think.
Okay, question - I have a perfectly attractive friend (not gorgeous, but definitely above-average). Guys never seem to approach her. She's friendly, maybe a little shy.
Does a guy actually need to be given an indication that a girl is interested, or is it like in the movies when they just stroll over? Because honestly, I typically like getting to know someone, and then a crush just sort of develops out of friendship and based on what I like/know about them, but she'd rather just have that flirtation right off the bat with a "new guy" and she's getting a little frustrated that she's never really approached.
I think guys play mind games more than girls do.
- Borat
we all know girls do it and they love messing with our minds. don't lie. but i'm not going to lie either, keeps things interesting.