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Conscience Dilemma: Flirting With a "Taken" Man?
Okay - for a while now, I've liked this guy, and only recently did I find out that he has a girlfriend. I can't really tell if he likes me or not, but for argument's sake, if he does have feelings for me... do guys find it insulting/rude to be flirted with when they're in a relationship, even if they might kind of be attracted to that person? Am I better off just backing off and waiting for them to break up (if they do)?
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personally i find no problem in flirting with a taken man.. flirting is not a one way interaction.. but as long as i know he has girlfriend.. flirting will just stay as flirting and nothing more.. i find jealous gfs or ex-gfs can be really scary.. @_@
It's always that kind of jokey buddy flirting. And normally he kind of initiates it. When I told him what my job was, he asked if that "secretly" meant if I was one of those massuses with a smile. The problem is that because I've been friends with so many guys, I never know when to take the flirting seriously.
One second he flirts with me, the next I feel he's avoiding me. So I guess I'm just worried that I'll lose the friendship if I keep flirting, because it makes him uncomfortable, but then he flirts with me... so it's one big mess.
ETA
Well, okay - obviously I do want him to date me instead, but for the most part I think I'm being respectful of the fact that he is in a relationship. The only reason I became confused was that it's so hot-and-cold. One second he's flirting, the next he's avoiding. I don't think I flirt hard enough to try to get him out of a relationship, but it's clear that he's more comfortable with other female friends of his than he is around me.
Again, I'd probably prefer the friendship to nothing, but I don't know if the flirting/avoiding means that he does like me, and is worried about betraying the relationship he's already in, or is just weirded out by my liking him (even if I don't really think I'm being much different with him than I would my guy friends).
I wouldnt flirt too much with him. I have two guys at work that flirt with me....but thats it. They've tried to REALLY flirt with me, and when they do that, i just give them the cold shoulder. Its inappropriate. I have a bf and dont feel right flirting with other guys. A little flirting....thats ok. But a lot, nope, not good.
However, flirting is fairly normal. You obviously like him....if i were you, i wouldnt flirt with him too much because you're just gonna get hurt in the end. He has a gf. He most likely does not want another. Save yourself some heartache and go and look for a SINGLE cute guy to flirt with.
what is ETA?
Expected Time of Arrival?
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