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the truth? or more mind-games?

h604
edited May 2007 in General
Right, so there is this girl, we've been out a few times, and last time I checked we are mutually interested (body language/physicality etc), but she has a bestfriend who says she can't date, I dont know why, and she won't tell me. So, this brings me to the issue, when I ask her whats up with the bestfriend, and if she's talked to her about us getting involved, she says she doesnt feel like getting the friend angry at her right now.. and that she herself is in no real hurry and thinks we should take our time. Here's the questions, 1. what the hell? this "bff" approval is the craziest shit Ive ever heard, am I the only one to get this?? 2. is this one of those mindgame sorta things girls do, or is she interested and actually wants us to take our time?? and one more, should I stop seeing her now? or wait and see how this turns out, because this is weird stuff and trust me when I say the "golden book" doesnt apply to this girl, if it did, I wouldn't have turned too an online forum haha.

Comments

  • shadysimon
    edited May 2007
    Yea man, I would say that 'bff' shit is messed up, i've always talked about girls saying 'oh she approves' or something but its always been in a joking matter or even after they have started dating, so nothing actually serious, it sounds like if you were to be in a relationship with her it would kind of be a relationship with 'both of them', and i don't mean that entirely but most likely you will be hanging out with both of them a lot, and those two will always be together and it will drive you nuts, just my thoughts though. That 'she doesnt approve I cant date' is always bad news, so yea I would say stay away, for now.
  • h604
    edited May 2007
    Thanks, and yeah its got me spooked that this is only the beginning of the whole "nah, sorry, gotta check with my bff first" iceberg, I mean, if she can't make up her mind on her own, not cool.

    but please, keep the advice coming haha
  • toast
    edited May 2007
    give her the finger lol...

    just joking, but if she needs to check with other people, that means shes just not that into you son. So move on.
  • Kevin M.Kevin M.
    edited May 2007
    I would just let her come to you... start doing your own thing and if she really likes you she'll start calling and saying she misses you etc... and if she doesn't then she's just not that into you :P
  • Smiles
    edited May 2007
    So does the best friend need her approval to go out with a guy? This is really stupid.
  • Bhambra
    edited May 2007
    Smiles;12716 said:
    So does the best friend need her approval to go out with a guy? This is really stupid.
    agreed.

    best friends aren't supposed to run your life, just steer you away from "bad-boys."
  • toast
    edited May 2007
    i thought bad boys are girls magnet lol
  • h604
    edited May 2007
    they are, i wont deny that, but i think what he means is steer them away from ending up in a relationship with a badboy haha.. in any case, apperently there is a LONG personal story behind why she isnt supposed to date in general right now, im completely clueless as to what it may be.. in any case the, the whole thing is spookin' me out. we've agreed we shouldnt rush into a relationship just yet etc, so im not taking that as a sign of disinterest.. but an oppertunity to play it cool and see how it all plays out. Any of you guys think thats the smart move or should i just pull the plug before im in a bigger hole? haha.
  • Bhambra
    edited May 2007
    h604;12719 said:
    but i think what SHE means is steer them away from ending up in a relationship with a badboy haha..
    soo..... ya bad boys are girl magnets, i meant to say dead beats.
  • toast
    edited May 2007
    steer away from bad boys...so her friends might get a chance to steer to them? :teeth:
  • Smiles
    edited May 2007
    If overall, she seems like a nice girl that doesn't play any other mind games besides "can't date right now", perhaps there is a good reason she wants to take things really slow. If she seems shady about other things, watch out! You might be in for a lot of drama & heart-ache.
  • toast
    edited May 2007
    pretty much the whole thread is about dating her isnt it?
  • h604
    edited May 2007
    yeah, pretty much, shes a real class act, and the way things are going I think Im on the right track. get this, the other day she asked me if she would mind if she went to a nudist beach.. last time i checked we weren't dating so i didnt know i was allowed to mind.. so i dont know whats up with that, tempted to say its a real clear sign that she is interested though. in anycase though, this thread IS about dating her and what you guys thought about the roll this bestfriend is playing, that still has me kinda spooked haha.
  • Pro
    edited May 2007
    nude beach with 2 girls! can't go wrong!!!
  • toast
    edited May 2007
    Pro;12780 said:
    nude beach with 2 girls! can't go wrong!!!
    every mens dreams.....

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