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LADIES: what do you look for in a male
title explains it, what type of qualities. nothing materialistic.
teach us how to be better no? since supposedly us asian guys aren't very nice.
i'll start with what i tend to be taken as:
humourous
polite
considerate
etiquette ( whats a oneword word to describe this? haha )
continue on. and be honest about itttttt
teach us how to be better no? since supposedly us asian guys aren't very nice.
i'll start with what i tend to be taken as:
humourous
polite
considerate
etiquette ( whats a oneword word to describe this? haha )
continue on. and be honest about itttttt
Comments
- Honesty (this should be a given, but in my mind any kind of lying/cheating is a reason to break up immediately... regardless of how long you've been together)
- Respectful (any guy who looks down his notes at me or thinks I'm disabled because I don't have a penis is not worth my time)
- Shared future goals (I've had my "fun" and now I want to have a long-term relationship)
- Humour (doesn't have to always be funny, but I think good humour roots from intelligence, so it goes with that)
- Good in bed :wink: (I know you were thinking it... haha)
Yeah, there are more too... But those are the major ones. I'm sure I will see some other lists and go "oh crap, I should've mentioned that!"
Nobody is perfect (not even my wonderful boyfriend), but trust me that you can't change anyone, so if you have standards, make sure you stick to them!
basically the same thing
maybe add "easy to talk to/communicatable (is that a word?)" or something like that to it.
cuz if you can't talk to him, you won't be communicate and if you can't communicate... you know something's wrong~
Try this, next time u go to the gym, wear no deodarant, and a sweatshirt for the first 30 mins, then take off ure sweatshirt and continue working out, ull pick up a loooot of chicks, Try it :wink:
:wink:
Honesty is really important too. All good relationships are based on honesty and trust imo....otherwise, whats the point?
Baby E, did u read my post... :smile:
That was pretty funny wouldnt u say :wink:
its probably tru:smile:
girls are works of the DEVIL:boy_hug:
.....or something to that extent.
Funny
"Attractive" is a little vague, because I've never really had one specific "type", but if I'm attracted to him, I just sort of... am.
Tall (sorry, but I'm 5'8" - I want to be able to wear heels).
Girls are attracted to confidence. A super-fit guy who walks around with a hunch, avoiding eye contact, and never smiling is not going to be considered good looking. Conversely, there are tons of guys who have a few extra pounds, but bound around with energy, who are outgoing and freindly, and are generally thought of as total ladies-men. It's in how you hold yourself. A female friend of mine once put it thusly: Women want a man who is comfortable in his own skin.
Being super-fit is a way to stay healthy. Maintaining a lean body is good looking to the eyes of all. That is confidence. I avoid eye contact or zone out to music because I get results by sticking to my workout routine. Girls are attracted to whatever qualities they like in a man and that could be anything.
In the end, we can all have a "type", but it goes out the window if we really connect with someone.
Guys have this weird impression that girls like really fit guys or something. My ideal guy if I was forced to create a "look" that I'm attracted to?
Tall, beefy but in a half-muscle, half baby fat kind of way (think: rugby players), square-jawed but sort of sweet-featured and funny as hell.
Also, I can't speak for other girls, but the guys I like IRL are NOT the same as guys I like on TV. My "type" for celebrities is more like the accountant on Ugly Betty, but honestly there aren't that many hot nerdy guys out there. That's some bizzare Hollywood Twilight Zone thing that never occurs in the real world.
Plus, I could give a shit. I plan to make my own money. I'd prefer a guy who wasn't swimming in debt, because that more points to irresponsibility, but poor? Rich? Meh. Who cares?
For example, somebody who's wealthy (whether it's his own wealth, or he's a spoiled brat whose parents give him money) will seem more generous; probably a quality women would like in a man. A guy with more money probably doesn't have to spend as much time working, and will therefore have more time (and money, I guess) to spend on you. That could translate into him being more caring.
Just saying that while women may not crave just the money itself, they enjoy the additional benefits that the money can provide.
I'm not saying I do or do not "crave" the cash in and of itself, I'm saying that the things you are associating with wealth are not necessarily true. And what is qualified as "having money"? Being able to own a car, or a house? Being filthy rich, or middle-class?
Guys want to believe that women want money because it downplays the idea that maybe it could be the personality that's turning the guy off. If a girl all but humps your expensive car, she's a gold-digger. *shrug* Maybe she's into cars.
ETA
What I mean is that any generalization can smack of falseness. Technically, according to all of the research and media out there, what men want is one thing: they want a girl with a 70% waist-to-hip ratio, blonde hair, huge tits. That's it, that's all. So saying that women like cash is like saying all men want is tits and sex.
You can't say that money has nothing to do with it at all. There's a reason "money" is one of the issues that couples argue about the most, right up there with "communication" and "moods". I hate to recite stuff that school has taught, but even evolutionarily speaking, women want a man who can provide a safe environment for her (and her offspring), and a man wants a woman who can provide him with healthy offspring capable of carrying on his genes.
I'm not saying that there aren't women who want it. Obviously there are. But I, personally, am not one of them. I don't like a guy paying for my dinner or my movie, because why should he? On the other hand, I know girls who feel like if they have to whip out their own cash at any point, the guy is a "loser".
Sure, it's still a relevant issue, but you were asking peoples' opinions. I'm not going to speak for my entire sex, just myself. And I happen to be a girl *shrug*
There, I said it!
And what Bastard said about wealth and generosity and couples fighting over money is true and perhaps even an understatement.
ps. women who make their men pay for everything should be dumped in the Fraser River.
It's BS that women think they should get all the benefits of being "the weaker sex", but none of the downsides. Most of the feminism that I see isn't striving for equality of the sexes, but as an attempt to make men subservient to women who they should apparently be worshiping...
As to men paying for everything, I'm reminded of a quote from a friend of mine. "What are you and your girlfriend doing for Valentine's Day?" I asked. He replied, "I don't know, but I know I'm going to be paying for it." Sums it up quite nicely.