how to set future goals together in a relationship?

Kevin M.

my future spouse thinks we need to sit down and talk about our future and set a few goals together, like house, where to live, finances, etc. We dont live together right now. She's a cool girl. But I'm more the "go with the flow kind of guy" and hate planning or thinking even a month ahead. do you think its that important to talk about this stuff together? won't life just kind of take care of itself?

Malakaiii

I think it's important to know that you are on the same page before devoting a lot of time to the relationship...

noname

If you intend to stay with her for the long term it is important to set goals.

With the price of housing and the cost of living in Vancouver these days, I don't think you can really afford to "go with the flow" unless you're pulling in an extremely good salary.

Steven

noname said:

If you intend to stay with her for the long term it is important to set goals.

With the price of housing and the cost of living in Vancouver these days, I don't think you can really afford to "go with the flow" unless you're pulling in an extremely good salary.

Very true.

Simon604

Goals are important but make sure you are realisti with them.

toast

housing is a bit of a pain for newcomer right now...

El_Cambumbo

You already have a future spouse? How old are you? You guys are not even living together, and you're already talking marriage?

Malakaiii

I ditto that. Try living together for a few years before tying the knot. I've lived with my boyfriend for over 4 years now... its a great test to see if you can handle it!

Smartso

Sometimes it's more important to have a sure footing in the present, before you begin thinking of the future