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It's impossible for a guy and a girl to be 100% "true" friends
Sexual tension will always get in the way. There will always be that primal urge that goes deeper than conscious though. Obviously a lot of people will deny it, but admit it, in almost every friendship, there is at least an iota of desire, whether sexual or romantic.
Also, men and women are too different from each other, so this also detracts from any possibility of a "true friendship". Males bond with males in a different way than males and females bond, for example.
It will never be the same.
Not that I'm saying there's no point in having friends of the opposite sex, but don't be naive, accept the fact that it's not a "true friendship", and treat it as such. It's a different kind of friendship, and it can be just as good.
Thoughts? Anyone want to bring some examples to the table to try and disprove me?
Also, men and women are too different from each other, so this also detracts from any possibility of a "true friendship". Males bond with males in a different way than males and females bond, for example.
It will never be the same.
Not that I'm saying there's no point in having friends of the opposite sex, but don't be naive, accept the fact that it's not a "true friendship", and treat it as such. It's a different kind of friendship, and it can be just as good.
Thoughts? Anyone want to bring some examples to the table to try and disprove me?
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My closest friend is a guy and although there was a point years ago where he wanted me, it is no longer so. Once we got to know each other it changed for him (he was always just a friend, to me), our personalities are just not compatible in a dating kind of way. I am not at all attracted to him and he feels the same.
He certainly is a true friend though.
A great friend of mine is a girl. At first I wanted something with her, but it never happened and she started dating a guy she'd known for years.
I quickly got over my romantic feelings for her, and we've been really good and supportive friends since.
It can happen man. All it takes is mutual understanding, maturity, and sometimes a bit of time.
/shrug
My best friend, I've known for 9 years. We kissed once but then realized it wasn't for us and have remained great friends. And we are both dating other people. Other friends of mine, who I've had a crush on, after telling them or trying things out, we've still remained friends. And there is no tension there at all...
So maybe a friendship may originally have those feelings, if it's going to last it's best to get them out...
I've been friends with my ex's for quite a while and I've no intentions nor the thought of being with them again. same goes for my girl friends. I also wouldn't want to lose a close friend if anything were to happen later on.