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Long distance relationship worth it?
So I've been going out with my girlfriend for almost 16 months now and it's been really great so far. But recently I've been thinking to myself if I should still be going out with her or not.
Let me explain why I'm having serious doubts:
I'm a 2nd yr. living in rez...I lived in rez last year too. My girlfriend lives back home in washington dc which is 3 hrs. ahead of our time here in vancouver. So, it's kind of hard to schedule my time around her and vice versa because when I eat dinner at 8, she's going to bed etc you get the picture. I miss her a lot when I'm away and as a result I really limited myself last year in terms of meeting people. I talked to her on skype instead of making friends with my floormates and I really regret it. This year I'm taking more challenging classes, and I am more busy than last semester. Any spare time I have is being spent with her on the phone or on skype.
Is it worth it for me to stay with her? Sometimes I wonder if I should break up with her and just do what I want. And not have to worry about when I'll talk to her, and whether I was supposed to phone her. It's a dilemma because there is a lot of love in this relationship. I'm just confused!?
mab18
Let me explain why I'm having serious doubts:
I'm a 2nd yr. living in rez...I lived in rez last year too. My girlfriend lives back home in washington dc which is 3 hrs. ahead of our time here in vancouver. So, it's kind of hard to schedule my time around her and vice versa because when I eat dinner at 8, she's going to bed etc you get the picture. I miss her a lot when I'm away and as a result I really limited myself last year in terms of meeting people. I talked to her on skype instead of making friends with my floormates and I really regret it. This year I'm taking more challenging classes, and I am more busy than last semester. Any spare time I have is being spent with her on the phone or on skype.
Is it worth it for me to stay with her? Sometimes I wonder if I should break up with her and just do what I want. And not have to worry about when I'll talk to her, and whether I was supposed to phone her. It's a dilemma because there is a lot of love in this relationship. I'm just confused!?
mab18
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"love" makes people make such irrational decisions...
If not? I suggest you have a frank discussion with her at a time when neither of you is under emotional stress, and see if you can mutually agree to end things.
Edit. She was in Ontario so I also had to deal with that 3 hour difference
dont get me wrong... if u just break up with her and then dont try to make friends/get another girl while ur here then its kind of a shitty decision and might as well stick it out
my 0.02$
You'd be asking too much of yourself as well as your girlfriend to cheat yourself out of living just for love. And if you guys love each other that much, then really love each other enough to look at this distance and time apart as time to grow individually.
And don't bother "sticking it out." You're not going to live your life until you and your girlfriend actually work this out.
If it makes it easier, you and her should make a deal with each other. In two years time, or however long you think it will take for you to finish school up here, make a date to meet up as friends. Then this break-up will be like a challenge--you both have to make something of yourself, and when you do meet up in the future, you can decide then whether the love you have is the type to be rekindled or if it's better left in the past.
But anyhow. Break up first. You will only get the motivation to get away from your msngers and your skype when you know that she won't be on the other end. Same goes for her.