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Hittin on/trying to pick up girls....

em2
edited December 2006 in General
Ok ok ok.... i never really understood how to do this. I mean, im a somewhat shy guy righttt, but i mean i can talk to girls, but not really on demand.. I have 2 sisters so whenever they get hit on or stared at i always feel uncomfortable thats why i was just wondering, if im talkin to a girl at random how does she feel?? I mean, im not the creepiest guy around lol, but i mean, when a guy talks to a girl, how does she feel? uncomfortable? weird? creeped out?... you can probably tell im pessimistic cuz those are the first words that come to mind lol

ladies i wanna know, how do u feel when a random guy starts talking to u, (not in a dirty perverted kinda way) but in a (hey hows it going, whats your name) sort of way..

your opinions are truly valued :teeth:

Comments

  • Malakaiii
    edited December 2006
    I think it really has to do with context. Like if you start chatting to a girl who is standing alone at a bus stop at night, she would be a little freaked out! Probably the best thing you can do is find some common ground. I know it's not easy, but if something happens around you that you can comment on, or she's wearing an SFU shirt or something. That way it gives you something to chat about for a couple minutes as she is wowed by your wit and charm. :wink:

    And I hope this goes without saying, but skip the cheesy pick up lines!

    I saw the smoothest guy the other day. He came right over to this girl who was waiting for a bus and sat next to her then started up a conversation (I didn't hear his opening line) within minutes she was laughing and smiling and he was laying it on thick (I could only hear snippets of the conversation, but from what I could see... this guy was slick!). When the girl's bus came the guy said "oh, gee, I didn't introduce myself!" and told her his name then she reciprocated and gave him her number. It was amazing to watch... haha
  • shadysimon
    edited December 2006
    Well, I don't wanna be harsh about it, but the easiest way to say this is its claear that you arnt confident. If you were more confident then you are, you wouldnt need to ask something like this and you wouldnt care what a girl thinks about when you talk to her, if she wants to talk, she wants to talk, if she doesnt then she doesnt, thats life. You need to become more confident in yourself and when you are around girls. Maybe ask your sisters to set you up on a date or ask them if they have any single friends looking for a male accomplice or something, you never know.

    But you do need to be more confident, and not worry what every girl thinks, every girl is different and the only way to know if they want to talk to you is to talk to them, and if they dont then just move on, thats life.
  • em2
    edited December 2006
    lol hahaha aiite maybe im not thaaat confident :embarassed: but still hahaha where do u find the common ground
  • shadysimon
    edited December 2006
    Well, i mean, its ok to not be confident but if you arn't confident girls are going to know, especially when you first get to know them, they can sense it, girls know when you arn't confident, and not being confident only works to your disadvantage. If you arn't confident then you have to find other ways of getting to know them or talking to them, my suggestion would be befreinding a girl, once you really get to know her you can let on that you are interested in her in more then she thought. To try and talk to girls in 'the common ground just ask random questions in class, what is that? How do you do this? Want to work on this together? Ask them to send you notes and give them your e-mail, then you have an excuse to talk. I've met 2 really great friends (girls) in my classes this semester and it was just by talking to them in class. Also, common ground might be in your interests, for example if you are a dancer join a dance school or something or if you like going out, go to bars, clubs, events, parties, people always talk there, and you dont have to talk about anything particular, like don't walk up and talk to every girl about the same thing, just say whatevers on your mind, I know its hard but you gotta work up to it, you'll get there.
  • Malakaiii
    edited December 2006
    It does help if you are confident, but I would much rather talk to a nice shy guy than some smooth-talker...

    It is a good suggestion to try to meet girls with similar interests, though! It gives you that common-ground to talk about and an activity to enjoy as well.
  • illicit
    edited December 2006
    confidence is really all you need. straight up.

    smooth talkers aren't necesarily truthful, loyal, faithful and whatever good qualities there are.
  • Steven
    edited December 2006
    LOL, I LOVE YOUR SIGNATURE ILLICIT.
  • shadysimon
    edited December 2006
    Its true, confidence IS all you need, no matter what kind of guy you are, being confident is not just being able to smooth talk someone, someone who can do that has probably gotten lessons from somebody or read a book on it, confidence is everything, its not just smooth talking its how you feel about yourself and your surroundings, it is all you need.

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