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Dating Help
So I recently broke up with my boyfriend, and have recently gone out on a few dates with a new guy who really likes me, but its not official.
Now this guy I wanted to be with when I was seeing my now ex-boyfriend, who didnt want to be with me wants to be with me now.
What should I do?
Now this guy I wanted to be with when I was seeing my now ex-boyfriend, who didnt want to be with me wants to be with me now.
What should I do?
Comments
Also you didn't say whether you like this new guy or not, or if you're even ready for a new rel'ship.
But anyway let me make things easier for you baby. I think you should go for me. I'm single. You're single. So that's something we both share. Now that we're halfway there, we might as well go all the way. Nothing's stopping us, is there? So how bout it? :wink:
anyways.. hmm.. well what of your feelings toward the guy you had wanted to be with? are the feelings still there or have they subsided?
in all of ur posts u try and come off as a strong individual who believes in themselves, but then every now and then u make a thread like this one which IMO is so fuckin high school...
but then again it could just be the a-a-a-alcohol talking :P
neways my 0.02:
if he didn't want to be with u then why should u wanna be with him now? did he wake up or somethin and realized he now wants to get laid? u clearly need to give more background info u expect anyone to give u any kinda advice but again IMO sounds like he just wants some booty, ppl dont just wake up one day and change their opinion on wanting to be with someone
i think you need to take some time off from the dating game, since you just got out of a relationship. Otherwise you will be like a grand piano at a music store: asking to get played
You will have a lot of fun and you wont regret it later. Now's the time.
For the mean time, enjoy with this song:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gWCpfRZfVEc
a magic wand.
I was technically still seeing someone too, but the relationship really was on its last leg and I was ready to end it at any point.
Anyway, I got tired of the guy not breaking up with his girlfriend while still having feelings for me, but apparently not feelings strong enough to end his relationship (which he was also not that happy in).
I then started seeing this new guy, we've only been on like 2-3 dates, and now the first guy is ready to break up with his girlfriend, realizing that he wants to be with me now.
Worst part of all of this is, is the guy who wants to be with me now, is friends with the guy I've been out on a few dates with, and I have a feeling this is all going to blow up since there is a bunch of us who are all mutual friends.
I'm just wondering if the guy I've been on a few dates with will understand, and not be angry or hurt, I mean its only been a few dates right?
as for the dude who didnt leave his girlfriend for you? what makes him so special that hes willing to leave her for you now and didnt do it back then?
O_O
dating within mutual friends always ends up with a kick in the teeth and loosin friends :p atleast in my experience.
as for the old guy.. he's coming off as a wimp.. i don't see why anyone should stay in a relationship they're not happy with.. and since you said he has feelings for you but was unwilling to end the relationship shows that he's indecisive.. and that's not a good relationship quality to me.. so i say stick with the new guy..
but regarding your last train of thought.. why would he be mad? ...unless you've already made the decision to date the old guy instead...=\
so lets say best case scenario, like u said, he was having issues with his current gf but liked her and thus had hope they could work their issues out. with that its reasonable that he didn't give her up for u. i guess it shows hes mature enough to work out their issues instead of quickly throwing the towel in and going to the next in line.
then again im speculating so this could be far from reality
in my opinion if he really did like u, and im guessing u guys knew each other for a decent amount time, so i assume he should have a very good idea how he feels about u. if thats the case then he would've left his gf back then for u, but given he didn't could imply hes just not that into you BUT havin a girl is better then no girl
as for the guy u went on a few dates with, i really dont see a problem. u tell him sorry hes not your type and move on. if hes immature and cant handle it too bad so sad... what would he expect? just cuz he takes u on a few dates that hes in the door?
as to the two guys being friends, again no big deal IMO. i've been in the situation and it didnt affect my friend ship nor start any drama. it all comes down to how mature the people involved are and by this age i assume their not gonna let a lil thing like a few dates start senseless drama
its not pr0n but a great movie. A variation of that movie could be considered here,lol.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Threesome_(film)
All aside, I was kidding. I'm sure however you handle it will be fine. In two years it wont matter - I mean, unless you plan to marry either one of them.
lol... welcome back you bastard.. :tongue:
... grammar nazi