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I dont know what to do in life.
Well I told you people that I am in sciences few months ago when i asked which course should i take, but i wasn't actually interested in it. I already lost my interest in math, and don't really want to continue with the program. I'm far more interested in siat but my mother(never went to college) keep arguing that i cant make money doing anything related to media arts. and my dad says its too competitive (he never went to college and was never in the career). I am afraid that they are right but then again I don't think I should do something that I do something that im not interested in either. I never had a Job and my parents pays for college for me. If I went to join siat im afraid they will stop paying for college for me.I only take four courses a semester and get decent marks. I have no work experience, and not really sure to continue college or not. I might be naive to say that Its better to do what i like that what is actually practical. but that is what i think. they want me to do physcics as my major. and i dont really want that eventhough i am able to do it, since like the old saying goes just because you can doesn't mean you should.
I already in my third semester is in my 33rd credit. My parents may compain that i wasted their money.
What should i do?
edit: and yes I am asian, I did do iat 102 and 100( i used breadth as an excuse so I can join) without joining the faculty and I did do well in both of them
I already in my third semester is in my 33rd credit. My parents may compain that i wasted their money.
What should i do?
edit: and yes I am asian, I did do iat 102 and 100( i used breadth as an excuse so I can join) without joining the faculty and I did do well in both of them
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Also don't listen to your parents on this subject as you say yourself that they do not know what they are talking about never having been to post-secondary. Study what you want and continue in IAT.
I still dont know what to do. They have the money but I can find a job but they wont be too happy about that and I don't know how to find work(also i heard that most jobs arent advertised).
And no, university is not what you need for a job--but it gives you some kind of stability for a few years to figure out what you actually WANT to do.
Everyone has a dream, but try not to narrow your dream so much. When you narrow your goal, you restrict the fields of work you can go into--and you restrict your own abilities.
In these days, it is better to be a jack of all trades than a specialist.. what with people losing jobs here and there. If you only ever learn one thing and one skill in life, you will be screwed the day the world no longer needs that specialty.
So explore your options and get out there more. Don't be afraid of your parents. My parents are Chinese and I fought long and hard for them to understand that my life is my life--and that a university education doesn't give you any security in North America.
By the way you argue, it's very hard to be convinced. I think this is the same problem your parents are having--first, show them that you are a mature person who makes informed decisions. Research the job market and research your resources (from where can you learn a particular skill? Acquire certification?). Then once you've done your research, lay out your argument to your parents equipped with that. Chinese parents are old style, but if you make a mature and logical argument, they find it a hard time to over rule you. They'll also be surprised at the level of maturity they can see.
It's difficult for parents to NOT second guess your decisions as long as they see you as just a child. So show them you're not just a kid anymore.
you'll stand a better chance through a well thought out proposal than just giving them an ultimatum or ignoring their wishes completely
i'm sure any sane parent would want the best for their kids.. but what's "best" in their eyes might not be the best for you.. i've had a couple of friends who got through university with a degree THEIR parents wanted and not what they wanted.. it was a painful 4/5 years for them.. doing something they have no interest in.. and now they have no idea what to do with their parent's degree..
so yeah.. talk to your parents.. be reasonable and back your arguments with evidence.. if they're still unforgiving about it.. propose to let you do a degree of your interest first then pursue the degree they want.. you can use this to buy time for persuasion purposes (or not)... a lot of people actually pursue a second degree after their first one so it's not that big of a deal if don't get your physics degree first...
if they still object to that then start looking for job and maybe consider applying for student loans if they're certain they won't fund you for a degree other than physics.. that is if you are really sure you want to pursue the degree of interest.. i think that finding a job will give you a broader perspective on things.. that's one of the great things about working while schooling.. the experience will help you decide if that's something you want to build your career path on.. and talk to friends about it.. get opinions and feedback from people that know you or is in the IAT field..
Your parents may want the best for you but there is a big culture gap that you are having to deal with. They came to Canada wanting their children to be doctors, lawyers and engineers to make up for the sacrifice that they made in immigrating here. They may think that forcing you to stay in Science is the best way for you to succeed, but unfortunately it's not that simple.
I went through the exact same thing with my parents. As I was growing up, they pushed me to be a doctor. I wasn't given any freedom or even any other options, but my parent's expectations were important to me so I stuck to Science all the way to my second year of university. At this point my marks started slipping and I was very bored in my classes so I wasn't learning anything. Initially my parents were paying for my education but gradually I learned to be independent and support myself, which you will eventually have to do too one day...and the sooner you start the better. I ended up sucking it up and finishing my B.Sc. to make my parents happy, but now that I'm done I don't work in the Science field nor do I plan on it.
If I could do things over again and had the freedom to choose, I'd probably do a degree in Business or Computer Science, and I would probably be a lot more interested and qualified to do the things I really want to do...not that I let that hold me back. So whatever you decide, good luck and remember that it's your life and you only live it once. Your parents should want you to be happy and if you aren't, then they aren't doing their job.
thanks for the encouragement guys
It's a field where only people with a natural flair for it can get anywhere. If you want to get an idea of whether or not you can make it, go to DeviantART, browse through all the works and think to yourself, do you honestly think you can compete with these people? If you can, then fantastic, go for it, but if you can't, then you might have to rethink things.
Also, you don't NEED to take SIAT or IAT courses to do media arts, what you really need, is a portfolio. You can just as easily get a great job with a media company without any degrees in the relevant field, so long as your work is good enough.
So the best thing you can possibly do, is just practice. Create stuff, you don't have to take classes, there are numerous excellent resources on the internet, and entire communities devoted to helping people excel in this field. Take advantage of that.
i do understand they might be right but its what I want to do. and I do know that I need alot of self training even if I am in .
and I do draw almost everyday.(provided that there are not too much homework on that day like math 152).