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Coming to terms with "just sex"
So... in the past, I was always in a relationship before having sex... then I got a bit older and a bit more promiscuous... which is to say I met a girl that was good enough to screw but not for a relationship. Now a couple of my exes have recently broken up with their latest BFs and have coming running back to me... for sex. I'm all for the sex, but they're both being a bit slutty and telling me things I don't want to know. I really don't want to know how many guys they've been with, or are currently seeing. But then I feel a bit hypocritical if I reject them on that basis... so how do I get over this and accept that I'm just being used for sex? I like being liked :(
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All girls talk. Stop complaining like a sissy if you're getting ass out of it. As a guy you should use your innate skill of acting like you're all open ears for her.
If you have problems about them telling you how many guys they've been with previously means you see them as friends (not with benefits though, just friends). That, or you might still have feelings for them!
then again.. it really depends on how much ralph can tolerate with regards to the excess information.. if it's not all that bothersome then don't say anything.. i just think that if you know you're just getting into a purely sexual relationship and nothing more.. someone should make that clear so neither party will have expectations beyond that alone..
I've been there b4 and what i did is say "i told u so" lol-ed in their face and told them to go home ha
Some people are aware of the wrong things they do, but would rather stay in denial of it OR maybe the'yd assume that other people wouldn't think so negatively about them the same way. It's like all the thoughts that you'd go through when you're finishing a dozen krispy kreme donuts when you're trying to maintain a healthy diet. Or like telling a fat girl she's fat.
denial is only good for a short period because sooner or later they're gonna have to face the reality of things.. finishing a dozen krispy kreme donuts will obviously have you packing on pounds.. not accepting this fact will not make the fat go away..
@bufli: i know that.. but i think predator is saying otherwise? :confused:
Coming back to the topic, there a bunch of jigglows who always make use of girls like a shirt. They wear it today and discard it tomorrow in the trash bin. That is totally promiscuous and should be discouraged...lol. I may sound like a man of 1920s but that is the reality and the world in which we are today, everything seems to have been narrowed with what I call..BMW---Beer, Women and Money.
Have fun Siu with your 'Self-sex"
if he doesn't want them, i'll be glad to give them a sexual eruption :note: LOL
hope.. i am officially giving you a warning to dissociate me with self sex.. and i mean it.. or else i'm bringing down the banstick and i won't be as nice as jaydub by giving you only a 1 month ban..=)
haha you kno it babe ;) aw... nvm. it's getting old. lol
Sorry I was itching to use that one. But yea you're right.
and u have to have self respect to some extent, why end up being the tool?
What I don't understand is why some people choose to think of guys as sex crazed. Not every guy will fuck everything on two legs.
A mantra I went by when I dated for a short time--guys are exactly like girls in a lot of ways. Some girls just want to fuck, some guys just want to fuck. But some girls want to be able to like a person they are fucking--and some guys want to be able to like a person they are fucking.
If you don't like these girls because they have become annoying and slutty, then don't have sex with them. Sex is that much better when you can actually lie in bed with a person and have a conversation without wanting to bash their head in. You don't even have to be in a relationship--as long as you like spending time with a person, as a friend or whatever else, sex is okay for you.
Now like I said, this is how it might be FOR YOU. Not every person is the same.
Sheesh. I hate it when people take gender traits and then blow them out of proportion. God, it's so Sex in the City that it makes me want to barf.
The thread topic is really quite simple: As long as everyone is on the same page, it's fine. If "just sex" isn't enough then buy the big bottle of lotion and wait for the right girl to come along. If you're into less talking and more screwing, then open your door for the huge crowd of women apparently desperately trying to get into your pants.
Promiscuity is a little more complicated, but not much. The reason guys don't want to hear about other guys is that they're conditioned to be threatened by that. Girls can be too though, and in general I think it's pretty inconsiderate to talk about your other partners unless you know your current one is cool with that. Again, approaching things as if all guys want to be promiscuous and all girls want a husband two kids and a white picket fence is fucking stupid. Girls have every right to brag about their conquests and guys, by and large, should probably tone it down in mixed company. Talking about sex is really fun though so if everyone loosened up we'd probably all be okay.
Promiscuity also raises the very big issue of safety. It's fine to have sex with as many exes or even strangers as you want, just keep the condoms and dental dams handy. And if someone asks you do do something unsafe it's probably a good idea to reconsider.
Also online pred if you are in the market for "just sex" you can PM me I am free atm I was thinking maybe we could dress IVT up like a girl and double team him.