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Does the guy/girl ask you out, or did your relationship just "develop'?

edited February 2009 in General
Okay, this title may be confusing to some, but I'm just wondering how many of your relationships, the guy asked you out, or if you're the guy, you asked the girl out? (As opposed to *mutual* attraction, and you sort of went on from there?)

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  • edited February 2009
    i've never had anyone ask me out to go steady, it just materialized and happened

    dates are one thing, but committed relationships are another
  • edited February 2009
    kingsley, just ask her out....


    edit: or him...
  • edited February 2009
    dates, i would initiate usually

    relationship-wise, its more mutual
  • edited February 2009
    From my perspective, actual relationships take time to develop. Asking someone out is just a potential start to said relationship.
  • edited February 2009
    Peter;48886 said:
    From my perspective, actual relationships take time to develop. Asking someone out is just a potential start to said relationship.
    good point
  • edited February 2009
    I've ever asked out a girl or been asked out and then had that be the start of a relationship. It always took a couple weeks to develop. In my current relationship, her and I were friends and we started to escalate and began seeing each other for a bit before going official.
  • IVTIVT
    edited February 2009
    yea just kind of happened
    no real "official start"
    i think that kind of thing is better
  • edited February 2009
    I've always been straight up with girls and its worked most of the time
    actually i think its only failed me twice,
    one time, many many years ago, i asked a chick out she said "i don't know what i want right now" followed by "but i know i don't want a bf" which actually pissed me off a bit since i knew she really liked me, so truth be told i stopped being nice, acted like a dick and kaboom got her as a gf for 3years lol

    and 2nd time its failed well.. thats cuz i was being a dick from the start lol
  • edited February 2009
    bufli;48911 said:
    she said "i don't know what i want right now" followed by "but i know i don't want a bf"
    sounds like she wanted a little something something right there.
  • edited February 2009
    most sort of just developed....until i got the balls to ask them out. or you know. you be a sneaky bastard and ask them out for coffee and leave it nice and ambiguous whether or not its a date so there's no pressure, and then you take em to a party, wait til the end of the night, inch towards them and if they dont freak out and run, kiss em goodnight, and then you're in. tada!
  • edited February 2009
    ralph2087;48926 said:
    ... and then you take em to a party, wait til the end of the night, inch towards them and if they dont freak out and run, kiss em goodnight, and then you're in. tada!
    umm well if there is alcohol involved, then they will most def not freak out. furthermore, ull be doing more then a goodnight kiss lol
  • edited February 2009
    bufli;48911 said:
    I've always been straight up with girls and its worked most of the time
    actually i think its only failed me twice,
    one time, many many years ago, i asked a chick out she said "i don't know what i want right now" followed by "but i know i don't want a bf" which actually pissed me off a bit since i knew she really liked me, so truth be told i stopped being nice, acted like a dick and kaboom got her as a gf for 3years lol

    and 2nd time its failed well.. thats cuz i was being a dick from the start lol
    i seriously LOL'ed when i read this..:tongue:
  • edited February 2009
    I'm pretty straight up and I usually initiate going out, dates, etc. But relationship-wise, if you both know it is actually going somewhere, it just develops on its own and grows from there. I've never had anyone ask me "Do you want to take it to the next level?" or anything like that cus it just sounds so ridiculous.
  • edited February 2009
    bufli;48937 said:
    umm well if there is alcohol involved, then they will most def not freak out. furthermore, ull be doing more then a goodnight kiss lol
    this is true :)

    but then you get the awkward next-morning conversation.

    "do you want to talk about this?"
    "uh...no. do you regret it?"
    "no"
    "good. then no problem"

    and that's how i got my last gf :)
  • edited February 2009
    ^ lol
    as the line goes:
    "an awkward morning beats a boring night"

    i dont get why ppl would initiate those kinda convos the next morning
  • edited February 2009
    I asked my bf out. (OMG!!)
    We've been relationshipping for over 2 years.

    Who dates without thinking that it'll turn into something more?

    I never intended on just dating him and not expecting it to turn into anything. Who does that?
  • edited February 2009
    I like that you've been relationshipping for so long now.

    I, too, have practiced dating-ry in order to commence relationess.
  • edited February 2009
    lol.. what's with all the make up words? what are we.. kindergarten?!! :tongue:

    i actually go into relationships without any expectations.. if it turns out good then great.. if it doesn't.. that's fine too and i can get out of it without much trouble.. i just don't like the idea of expecting things out of people.. they're not obligated to give you anything and vice versa..

    doesn't anyone else think that by setting certain expectations of a relationship.. you're essentially limiting its potential to become something else? :confused:
  • edited February 2009
    vonnie;48972 said:

    Who dates without thinking that it'll turn into something more?

    I never intended on just dating him and not expecting it to turn into anything. Who does that?
    umm... lots of people? i'm kinda confused by what you said
    are u gonna go IVT on us and be like who has a gf/bf without thinking it will turn into something more (marriage)?
    siuying;48983 said:

    i actually go into relationships without any expectations.. if it turns out good then great.. if it doesn't.. that's fine too and i can get out of it without much trouble.. i just don't like the idea of expecting things out of people.. they're not obligated to give you anything and vice versa..

    doesn't anyone else think that by setting certain expectations of a relationship.. you're essentially limiting its potential to become something else? :confused:
    i fully agree with you lol
    except expectations are always gonna be set by past experience, i mean you wouldn't go backwards would you?
  • IVTIVT
    edited February 2009
    bufli;48986 said:
    umm... lots of people? i'm kinda confused by what you said
    are u gonna go IVT on us and be like who has a gf/bf without thinking it will turn into something more (marriage)?
    wat
  • edited February 2009
    vonnie;48972 said:
    I asked my bf out. (OMG!!)
    We've been relationshipping for over 2 years.

    Who dates without thinking that it'll turn into something more?

    I never intended on just dating him and not expecting it to turn into anything. Who does that?
    I've had a few dates where I know I don't want to be with the person, but it's more like something to do/pity dating. Which, thinking about it, sounds terrible, but I suppose if you're bored and not sure what you want...

    With the person I'm currently with, we were set up...he added me on Facebook and suggested we go on a date to see if we can live up up to the hype. Haha.

    In the past it's been all over. School, parties, mutual friends, random meetings...
  • edited February 2009
    cool, glad this thread is turning into something:smile:
  • edited February 2009
    bufli;48986 said:
    umm... lots of people? i'm kinda confused by what you said
    are u gonna go IVT on us and be like who has a gf/bf without thinking it will turn into something more (marriage)?
    Not really what I meant.

    Dating someone just for sex is meaningless. At least go out with someone you think you like and could possibly spark a good relationship, not necessarily a potential husband or wife.

    I mean when you're younger, sure you date around testing to see who you like... but all of them at least had SOME tiny bit of potential of going longer than a few months, yea?
  • edited February 2009
    vonnie;49002 said:
    Dating someone just for sex is meaningless.
    I'm with you on that
    vonnie;49002 said:

    At least go out with someone you think you like and could possibly spark a good relationship, not necessarily a potential husband or wife.
    i was being sarcastic about the marriage stuff lol

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