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Mixed Messages?
So back story:
Guy liked me from grade 10 to 12, then claims he's gotten over me. I never went out with him because I've never liked him that way.
Fast forward to now. We hang out. He has a serious girlfriend, I've had some confusing four year relationship going on. His girlfriend recently moved three hours drive away for a job, and her returning is somewhat indefinite. I cannot say I haven't begun to see him in a new light since high school (even before him and his girlfriend got together, I had always thought about, "what if...?").
So he finally comes out with us (Magnificent Bastard and a couple of our other friends) last night to drink. And things were slightly funny. I wasn't flirting with him--at least not that I'm aware, but he had started to do little things, like put his arms around me, or play with my hair. Etc. Etc. We went to Denny's after drinking, and our knees were touching under the table the entire time.
SO WHAT THE FUCK?
Guy liked me from grade 10 to 12, then claims he's gotten over me. I never went out with him because I've never liked him that way.
Fast forward to now. We hang out. He has a serious girlfriend, I've had some confusing four year relationship going on. His girlfriend recently moved three hours drive away for a job, and her returning is somewhat indefinite. I cannot say I haven't begun to see him in a new light since high school (even before him and his girlfriend got together, I had always thought about, "what if...?").
So he finally comes out with us (Magnificent Bastard and a couple of our other friends) last night to drink. And things were slightly funny. I wasn't flirting with him--at least not that I'm aware, but he had started to do little things, like put his arms around me, or play with my hair. Etc. Etc. We went to Denny's after drinking, and our knees were touching under the table the entire time.
SO WHAT THE FUCK?
Comments
Maybe he just gets that way drunk lol
Here are the possible interpretations:
1) He feels comfortable enough around you to do those kind of things assuming that you won't interpret them as flirting (I do these kinds of things all the time with my close girlfriends, although playing with the hair is kind of pushing it)
2) He likes you and he either thought that this was a good way of expressing his feelings or the alcohol just brought them out on its own.
3) He was drunk, horny and wanted to catch the spur of the moment.
#2,#3 seem more likely but I don't think you should rule out #1.
You should be able to see if #3 is plausible if you know him well enough.
Unfortunately, since you haven't said anything, that will probably be interpreted as a sign of approval and possibly an invitation to continue on the same track.
If this is a good friend and you're worried, TALK TO HIM, before it gets any more complicated. In case of #2 he probably is dying to talk to you as well. If it was #3 then you need to set things clear and if it was #1 then you'll have a good laugh about it.
Good luck!
Ask him about his gf situation too...
As illicit was saying, ur thinkin too much and it could jus be harmless flirting.
and knees touching!! omg children cover your eyes!!
I AM A PRUDE.
must be uncomfortable to have someone on your chest like that.. from a girl's POV that is.. no offense intended..=x
everyone knows that
even I do
duh obv
I think it's pretty fishy, especially when someone has liked you for such a long time in the past.
end of story
there wont be a relationship
maybe a quick lay where he ejacs prematurely
Just let him stick it in.
Re: Mixed messages.
It'd be a shitload easier if we could all read each others' minds, heh. Then again, maybe not. It'd be too confusing trying to keep my thoughts organized when everybody else's would be impinging. :)