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What to do when you feel stuck..???
Situation:
I've been seeing someone for two months. Amazing guy, great job, determined, and we seem to have the same future goals. As far as the love life goes, it's been very, very bland (as in reeeeeally taking it slow, never discussed). I haven't brought it up, but it seems like he's probably never had sex before (yikes) and I don't really know about past relationships (if any, double yikes).
But he's cute and, like I said, a really great person...just a workaholic and gone alot.
There's really no reason why I should even be thinking about ending things, but I just feel so incredibly stuck. I've never been treated so well in a relationship, but I just can't stand this lack of development (sexual and otherwise).
Question:
What do???
I've been seeing someone for two months. Amazing guy, great job, determined, and we seem to have the same future goals. As far as the love life goes, it's been very, very bland (as in reeeeeally taking it slow, never discussed). I haven't brought it up, but it seems like he's probably never had sex before (yikes) and I don't really know about past relationships (if any, double yikes).
But he's cute and, like I said, a really great person...just a workaholic and gone alot.
There's really no reason why I should even be thinking about ending things, but I just feel so incredibly stuck. I've never been treated so well in a relationship, but I just can't stand this lack of development (sexual and otherwise).
Question:
What do???
Comments
But if its boring already, I don't know how much more exciting it can really get. Although virgins normally change post-sex, mentally.
1) being an amazing guy who has a great job but is a workaholic
2) determined and has the same future goals as herself
3) cute and treats her well
4) the fact that she has no idea about his past relationships
5) suspects that he's inexperienced
6) lack of relationship development compounded with how slow he's taking things
i don't how you were able to only read that and just only THAT then proceeds to conclude she's a terrible girlfriend..:confused:
But in all seriousness, did this guy take forever before finally asking you out? If you suspect this is his first real relationship (hence taking it slow understandably) then he probably has little to no idea how to pressure or bring up the whole sex bit, even if hes dying to well, get laid
Try approaching him on the subject maybe?
or the lack thereof..=P
and no danoobie dear.. her mockery is directed to another..:tongue:
or atleast i hope it is..:embarassed:
From what you have described it seems like you're the one who should be doing something about it, not him, since he's unaware about it.
And IVT, calm down. She said nothing even close to that.
I think randomuser had a good point and it puts things into perspective...like I said, he's gone a lot and maybe isn't used to focusing on time with someone. Nada, I'm probably at fault for not bringing it up...there's just never been any good conversation starter to mention it.
We've covered all the future goal bases (marriage, kids, houses, etc) so as far as that goes I'm super happy, just bored. He's gone on a business trip for a week, maybe it would be a good opportunity to mention things when he comes back!
You also gotta look at things from his point of view. If this is his first relationship, it might be an exciting experience for him.
PS: Why do you always date guys much older than you?
I say you have one of two options:
1) Talk to him about it, and try to get him to speed things up a bit.
2) Pull out a strap-on and start putting it on, wordlessly, and see if he resists.
I'm attracted to older guys, and I've never really felt my age. 7 years isn't a huge age difference.
Here's a shocker for you, his parents are 17 years apart and still going strong!
problem solved
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