Seriously, if people have the time to be internet dating with their e-fake-profiles, maybe they should spend more time FIXING WHATEVER PROBLEM THEY HAVE THAT PREVENTS THEM FROM MEETING PEOPLE THE OLD FASHIONED WAY.
Because, kids, internet people ALWAYS HAS SOME SOCIALLY UNACCEPTABLE PROBLEM.
I think the internet is a particuarly valid way to get insights to people you can't get in the real world. How many times have you been on msn where someones asked you a question they probably would not have asked you in real life, or that you may not even have answered in real life?
I think if you're bad at reading people, then you're bad at reading people on or offline.
I think that Bars Vs. The Internet is basically the same thing, you're meeting strangers, with pro's and con's to each. If you really want to meet people who are not going to have some nasty surprise the best way is probably through mutual friends.
Did you have a bad experience with online or something :omg: ?
I've met guys through every different manner. I honestly would rank them as follows:
Through Friends Online Bars / Parties
Friends obviously can tell you the dirt on people so its the best way. Now from online to bars and parties, I like online cause I can filter all the creeps first by their looks, then on msn I can filter by personality, whatever I can make of it anyway.
Online people are the same as in real life people, were all people. I think you're working under the assumption that a majority of the people who use online dating sites don't date in real life as well, which is where you're wrong. You're probably right that a lot of people who do use online dating don't try real life due to social problems, but dont crucify it :angel:
Did you have a bad experience with online or something :omg: ?
Not personally, no. I haven't tried an internet dating site myself. I've seen enough of my friends do it to know that it's usually attraction based rather than getting to know anyone.
I've only ever been with people who I have been friends with. I tried dating just to date, and that was horrible.
I have a very impatient personality when it comes to guys. If I'm not friends with someone first, I hardly think they're worth my time; therein lies my problem with talking to someone on the internet for the purpose of dating.
Online, it is always based on attraction, I've found myself sometimes interested in people in real life that I may have looked over online on first appearance.
That said, 99.9% of the goofs that message you have nothing to say more than "sup" "ur hot" "hey baby" "ur cute" "where r u". But I have found super hot, or super cute guys who are actually really nice.
I think if you use the internet for the purposes of dating you're bound to live a long lonely life, albeit filled with meaningless sex with dirty strangers.
But I use 'online dating' to meet people only for the purposes of being friends, if something progresses beyond that after I meet them in person thats fine. But before I meet them in real life its not like I sit on msn asking them how many kids they want, their dick size, their political preferences, all in some attempt to determine if we're eligible to date.
I think a site like facebook even mixes in online dating with social networking. Where friends of your friends message you, or talk to you, with the excuse that they met you once at a party or something...I think then the distinction between meeting someone solely online, and in person is blurred.
I agree with your not having mutual friends with someone and you think they aren't worth your time. I'm definitely not as nice to people on my msn I've never met. I often just leave them on my msn, and if I find their conversations mildly amusing and not coming onto me it eventually progresses to a point where you want to meet up and hang out, as friends.
If any guy flirts with me or says stupid shit I lose all interest at that point, because as you said, I already consider them hardly worth any of my time, whereas in real life if I knew I would end up running into this person often I may be more tolerant to their behaviour.
Online dating or social networking are what they are...I think sites like nexopia or plentyoffish etc don't really attract the worst of the crowd. I think those pay sites you see advertised on TV is where you attract the real people with sociopathic tendancies, when they're willing to pay.
And I very much acknowledge I'm a fucked up individual. I am a Ching Chong, after all.
So in other words, what you're saying is, I have all the characteristics of a human being: blood, flesh, skin, hair; but not a single...identifiable emotion, except for greed and disgust.
That said, 99.9% of the goofs that message you have nothing to say more than "sup" "ur hot" "hey baby" "ur cute" "where r u". But I have found super hot, or super cute guys who are actually really nice.
Woot I'm in the .01% that actually writes messages with 50 words+ However, none of those well thought out messages ever gets returned. At least you guys are talking to me! I feel so loved..*Wipes tears
Lixie;34678 said:
I have a very impatient personality when it comes to guys. If I'm not friends with someone first, I hardly think they're worth my time; therein lies my problem with talking to someone on the internet for the purpose of dating.
Lixie, you're a girl right? Okay, just making sure. Your picture leads me to think you're a dude.
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I think if you're bad at reading people, then you're bad at reading people on or offline.
I think that Bars Vs. The Internet is basically the same thing, you're meeting strangers, with pro's and con's to each. If you really want to meet people who are not going to have some nasty surprise the best way is probably through mutual friends.
Did you have a bad experience with online or something :omg: ?
I've met guys through every different manner. I honestly would rank them as follows:
Through Friends
Online
Bars / Parties
Friends obviously can tell you the dirt on people so its the best way.
Now from online to bars and parties, I like online cause I can filter all the creeps first by their looks, then on msn I can filter by personality, whatever I can make of it anyway.
Online people are the same as in real life people, were all people. I think you're working under the assumption that a majority of the people who use online dating sites don't date in real life as well, which is where you're wrong. You're probably right that a lot of people who do use online dating don't try real life due to social problems, but dont crucify it :angel:
And I very much acknowledge I'm a fucked up individual. I am a Ching Chong, after all.
now would the SOCIALLY UNACCEPTABLE PROBLEM FREE people please stand up?
so we may stab and decapitate you? :angel:
I've only ever been with people who I have been friends with. I tried dating just to date, and that was horrible.
I have a very impatient personality when it comes to guys. If I'm not friends with someone first, I hardly think they're worth my time; therein lies my problem with talking to someone on the internet for the purpose of dating.
Online, it is always based on attraction, I've found myself sometimes interested in people in real life that I may have looked over online on first appearance.
That said, 99.9% of the goofs that message you have nothing to say more than "sup" "ur hot" "hey baby" "ur cute" "where r u". But I have found super hot, or super cute guys who are actually really nice.
I think if you use the internet for the purposes of dating you're bound to live a long lonely life, albeit filled with meaningless sex with dirty strangers.
But I use 'online dating' to meet people only for the purposes of being friends, if something progresses beyond that after I meet them in person thats fine. But before I meet them in real life its not like I sit on msn asking them how many kids they want, their dick size, their political preferences, all in some attempt to determine if we're eligible to date.
I think a site like facebook even mixes in online dating with social networking. Where friends of your friends message you, or talk to you, with the excuse that they met you once at a party or something...I think then the distinction between meeting someone solely online, and in person is blurred.
I agree with your not having mutual friends with someone and you think they aren't worth your time. I'm definitely not as nice to people on my msn I've never met. I often just leave them on my msn, and if I find their conversations mildly amusing and not coming onto me it eventually progresses to a point where you want to meet up and hang out, as friends.
If any guy flirts with me or says stupid shit I lose all interest at that point, because as you said, I already consider them hardly worth any of my time, whereas in real life if I knew I would end up running into this person often I may be more tolerant to their behaviour.
Online dating or social networking are what they are...I think sites like nexopia or plentyoffish etc don't really attract the worst of the crowd. I think those pay sites you see advertised on TV is where you attract the real people with sociopathic tendancies, when they're willing to pay.
So in other words, what you're saying is, I have all the characteristics of a human being: blood, flesh, skin, hair; but not a single...identifiable emotion, except for greed and disgust.
Does that about sum it up?
Unlike the typical fobby kids, I don't receive money from my parents. : )
As for disgust, I'm full of it.
However, none of those well thought out messages ever gets returned. At least you guys are talking to me! I feel so loved..*Wipes tears Lixie, you're a girl right? Okay, just making sure. Your picture leads me to think you're a dude.