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dating your best friend..

Jessika
edited June 2008 in General
My best friend I have known for about 9 months, when we first met I liked him and wanted to date him, it didn't work out but despite that we remained friends.
We talk about everything to each, from relationship advice, to our insecurities, and just to random things that happen to us. He says we are almost the same person, that we have a lot in common.
We both love each other as friends and help each other thru anything, we pray for each other and think we both are blessings in the other's life lol.
Recently I have been thinking about what it would be like to date him and have a relationship with him, though neither of us are in a place to have a relationship in our lives, i was wondering what you guys thought about this.

Comments

  • Helen
    edited September 2006
    you just answered your own question. "neither of us are in a place to have a relationship in our lives".. I think if it didnt work out to begin with, it wont this time and you said it urself its not a good time for a relationship for you both
  • Gunta
    edited September 2006
    I say go for it!! Besides, the better of friends you are before you begin to date the better the relationship will be since u already know each other and are comfortable with eachother
  • Mikaela
    edited September 2006
    hmm... well speaking from experience, dating a friend like that is not wise. i went out with my bestest best friend in all the world. he was the be all and end all of my life, but then the relationship drove us apart and we began seeking advice from other people. we just drifted so much apart. this time last year he was my life (before we went out) everyone associated him with me and me with him. but then our decision to be together ruined all of that for us, and now a year later i can barely say hello to him.
  • jpsn
    edited September 2006
    You have to watch when dating a *best* friend. Are you prepared if things wouldn't work out to not have him there anymore? That happened to me and it was a hard time, not because of the breakup, but because of the loss of friendship and what we had there. I mean, then again, getting together could be the best decision of your life. Just give it a little more thought.

    Good luck in whatever you decide! :smile:
  • jipmerite
    edited September 2006
    You can always date other guys but you can't get best friends every day. It takes time to build that trust level. 9 months in this case. I don't think it is worth risking this relationship that you cherish so much.

    If you still really want to go for it, think over it very hard before hand.
  • Berlyn
    edited September 2006
    It sounds to me like you already have a 'relationship'. Exactly what you described is exactly what a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship should have (plus romance). I think if you have feelings for him that's because it's a natural progression in the relationship. Your feelings won't go away, they will only get stronger. You have to go with it, and if the two of you are meant to be together, then it will work out, if you aren't, then it won't, and then you'll deal with that when the time comes. You can't hide your feelings forever...
  • Jessika
    edited September 2006
    thanks for all the help guys... i think im gonna tell him... i mean what do i got to lose.. if he doesnt feel the same way the it might be awkward for a few days but hes the type to get over that... man im nervous wish me luck!!
  • falco85
    edited September 2006
    DONT DO it!!! relationships never work out... thats fact of life
  • TinyStar
    edited September 2006
    You know, I for one agree not to endanger such a relationship. If you're not in the position for a relationship right now, why bother?
  • Berlyn
    edited September 2006
    Ok, I suggested to go for it..and I hope you did! Alot of people are saying 'don't do it' and 'relationships never work out'.
    It sounds like these people are just tainted because of one or two bad relationships, and they don't beleive in love anymore. That's so sad! I don't think that there really is a time when you aren't in a position to be in a relationship. It shouldn't be something that's planned out to see if will be convenient. It should just happen if it feels right..and then you adjust..you can always make room to love someone and be loved no matter how crazy life seems!
    Maybe I'm just an optimist when it comes to love...
  • Makall
    edited June 2008
    You can just have sex with him till you get pregnant, then reel him in.

    Lure him with "Sex with benefits" and "I like it RAAAAAAAAAAAAAWWW".
  • Kingsley
    edited June 2008
    I say go for it. To me, it seems obvious that you two both like eachother and from what I read from your statement, you will just be denying the fact that you two were meant for eachother if you don't give it a try.

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