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desperate question from a desperate guy

somebody
edited June 2008 in General
Hi people,
I am currently a 4th year mech engineering student and I have a serious question for the females. Do you girls ever get "horny"? If so, how come it never seems like they want to have sex (with me at least)? Please don't make fun of me, i just want to know.
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  • nicole
    edited April 2008
    Hmm, are you talking about like how often girls think about sex, or how often we get turned on?
    I think I'm weird. When I'm in a relationship, I'm thinking about sex 24/7 and I can be turned on for good parts of the day (aren't dirty texts the best?), but when I'm not in a relationship it doesn't really matter, and most of the time I could care less about that aspect of my life.
    So, in a nutshell, I'm super horny when I'm with someone, but not so much when I'm not. Shouldn't it be the other way around?
    As for the not wanting to have sex with you...I wouldn't be able to say! Just haven't met the right person, or people?
  • Magnificent_BastardMagnificent_Bastard
    edited April 2008
    LOL


    simpsons_nelson_haha2.jpg
  • siuying
    edited April 2008
    yes girls get horny.. but that doesn't mean we just jump on some random guy and fuck.. as for why you aren't getting any.. we require more info to answer that question..

    @nicole: i get that feeling too.. but i think it's the fact that knowing that you have someone around that makes it more... obvious.. if you know what i mean.. =P
  • IVTIVT
    edited April 2008
    somebody;28589 said:
    Hi people,
    I am currently a 4th year mech engineering student and I have a serious question for the females. Do you girls ever get "horny"? If so, how come it never seems like they want to have sex (with me at least)? Please don't make fun of me, i just want to know.
    Fail.

    1)there is no reason to be desperate
    2)there is more to a girl than tits and ass
  • IVTIVT
    edited April 2008
    siuying;28599 said:
    that doesn't mean we just jump on some random guy and fuck..
    you don't? awww damnit! well i was hoping to umm...you know...bah forget it!
  • buflibufli
    edited April 2008
    LOL ahahhaah sorry thats too funny......
  • Morro
    edited April 2008
    What sort of upbringing did you have?
  • Student0667
    edited April 2008
    All human beings want sex, that's what we are on this earth for. It is who we are, it is what we do. However, it is not like girls will walk up to you upfront and say "hey, I feel really horny right now. I want you to fuc* me in the empty science lab to our left. Are you available?"

    You will have to know them well enough and understand their signal.
  • buflibufli
    edited April 2008
    Student0667;28614 said:
    However, it is not like girls will walk up to you upfront and say "hey, I feel really horny right now. I want you to fuc* me in the empty science lab to our left. Are you available?"

    hahaha ud be surprised ;)
  • footieluv89
    edited April 2008
    i personally wouldn't just tell a guy i want to have sex with him even if i'm thinking about it. I def agree to where sex probably pops up in my head more often when i'm in a relationship than not just because well, you know that at least you have someone to have sex with. i'm not surprised as to why you aren't probably getting a signal from a girl, there aren't that many women in the engineering field buddy =p but i don't see why if the girl is interested and maybe you are having an intense make out session, you wouldn't even get a response? or maybe you haven't even kissed? then probably that would answer part of your question...speaking for myself but if i was into a guy that's not my boyfriend and that was me kissing/touching i'd def respond to it =)
  • randomuser
    edited April 2008
    Student0667;28614 said:
    All human beings want sex, that's what we are on this earth for. It is who we are, it is what we do. However, it is not like girls will walk up to you upfront and say "hey, I feel really horny right now. I want you to fuc* me in the empty science lab to our left. Are you available?"

    You will have to know them well enough and understand their signal.
    theres a difference between human beings an animals, and its controlling those fading instincts

    girls are socialized to be well behaved, girls do get horny, but as everyone else said i really could not care less about sex, i could go without sex for the rest of my life with minimal disturbance, however if i was seeing someone then i would want it, i find meaningful relationships a lot better than sex, sex just goes along with some of them

    no girls are just going to walk up to you and ask you to fuck, well there are girls like that, but you find them in certain places, situations, and social cliques

    also nothing stinks worse than the smell of desparation

    girls like confidence, if you dont have it, get some, or fake it
  • Insatiable
    edited April 2008
    randomuser;28637 said:
    meaningful relationship
    Define.
  • IVTIVT
    edited April 2008
    [youtube]FZf6wDbbo54[/youtube]
  • randomuser
    edited April 2008
    Insatiable;28639 said:
    Define.
    as in meaningful relationships between human beings

    relationship as in the relation between people not necessarily a committed or not so committed sexual relationship

    i would care more about being around someone i really enjoy being with, than having sex with that person, maybe i would want to have sex with them, but establishing these types of relationships, be them plutonic or something more is what is important to me-- not sex

    i sincerely could go without sex for the rest of my life and probably not care (much), i could not go through life without any close meaningful relationships with anyone, for example:

    someone i can tell secret or sensitive stuff to
    someone i can just sit next to at a movie theatre with our shoulders touching and talk about other movies we've seen, be it male or female
    someone i can call at 3 in the morning without it being weird

    so closeness is what im getting at, some kind of strong bond, that doesnt have any coital relationship

    maybe thats why guys get tossed into the just friends zone a lot, because girls are fine with that, we dont always need to have all of someone, but there are situations where theres someone i just want and need that way

    for me most of the time its the want what you cant have thing, and maybe nothing qualitative about them specifically thats not exaggerated in my head, its probably why so many guys bore me and i wont give them a second of my time. I want someone who can at least pretend they could be fine without sex upon first impressions, and show more substance than some primal urge--once that has been established i do want someone who can be wild in that aspect but that is not a side i want to directly see at first. As humans we really are apart from the rest of the animal kingdom
  • IVTIVT
    edited April 2008
    ^plz read: http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/lax/483318927.html
  • hikin
    edited April 2008
    ^ that was pretty funny, and somewhat truthful i guess.

    this parts the best:

    So, if you're looking for a nice guy, here's what you do:

    1.) Build a time machine.
    2.) Go back a few years and pull your head out of your ass.
    3.) Take a look at what's right in front of you and grab ahold of it.
    haha.

    in response to the OP, perhaps you should try getting a girlfriend before getting laid.
  • Student0667
    edited April 2008
    randomuser;28637 said:
    theres a difference between human beings an animals, and its controlling those fading instincts
    That's what I said. I said that it is wrong for him to assume that girls doesn't want sex.
    girls like confidence, if you dont have it, get some, or fake it
    Where do you girls draw the line between confidence and being a hotshot pric*?
  • vonnie
    edited April 2008
    i_like_hiking;28644 said:
    in response to the OP, perhaps you should try getting a girlfriend before getting laid.
    Agreeeeed.

    And girls think about sex / get horny... just not as much as guys do, and we don't wave our mojos around lol.
  • siuying
    edited April 2008
    randomuser;28641 said:
    maybe thats why guys get tossed into the just friends zone a lot, because girls are fine with that, we dont always need to have all of someone, but there are situations where theres someone i just want and need that way

    for me most of the time its the want what you cant have thing, and maybe nothing qualitative about them specifically thats not exaggerated in my head, its probably why so many guys bore me and i wont give them a second of my time. I want someone who can at least pretend they could be fine without sex upon first impressions, and show more substance than some primal urge--once that has been established i do want someone who can be wild in that aspect but that is not a side i want to directly see at first. As humans we really are apart from the rest of the animal kingdom
    agreed..
  • Morro
    edited April 2008
    Student0667;28648 said:
    That's what I said. I said that it is wrong for him to assume that girls doesn't want sex.



    Where do you girls draw the line between confidence and being a hotshot pric*?
    They don't, mostly. That's where the myth of "girls like assholes" comes from. They don't. But assholes are usually pretty arrogant and confident, and thus get laid. Chicks much prefer NICE confident guys to ahole confident guys, but in the absence of the former they will go for the latter.
  • vonnie
    edited April 2008
    Morro;28651 said:
    They don't, mostly. That's where the myth of "girls like assholes" comes from. They don't. But assholes are usually pretty arrogant and confident, and thus get laid. Chicks much prefer NICE confident guys to ahole confident guys, but in the absence of the former they will go for the latter.
    Either that or a nice Rich one HAHAHA...
  • randomuser
    edited April 2008
    Student0667;28648 said:
    That's what I said. I said that it is wrong for him to assume that girls doesn't want sex.



    Where do you girls draw the line between confidence and being a hotshot pric*?
    its a common misconception nerdy or nice guys cant be assholes or confident, if i had to choose between a confident nerd and a confident bad ass, who were absolutely equal in the looks department id choose the nerd, cause he would probably make more money and not cheat

    and as mentioned above being rich or the potential to cant hurt, its not being a gold digger-- its being smart, as guys try to spread their seed with anything that moves, women need to find a guy who can provide support, its an instinctual thing

    when im pregnant with some guys kid, i dont want some guy whos not going to be able to pay for diapers or rent or a mortage after, people think gold digging is bad only because its another way to attack women who are choosy, or like how men cant be sluts in a negative way but girls can

    men cant be gold diggers normally cause they traditionally dont stay at home

    anyway i moved away from the point, but anyone cant be confident without being a bad ass or prick, theres hope for all you nerdy guys out there, just hit the gym a few days a week and put on a confident facade and youll probably beat the guy in the leather jacket out most of the time

    i heart confident geeky guys that are cute, its like they have stuff they can teach you
  • xxk1nky
    edited April 2008
    Is this guy for REAL!?!? Have you...ever had a girlfriend?

    And yes, girls get horny...just like men! Wowee.

    I think I'm different than the girls in this forum. I'm single and I think I get horny as much as guys do. When I was in a relationship, I don't think I was super horny because I dunno, it was just always available. Now that I'm single and non-virginal, I get horny so easily. Especially when I'm bored. My mind just tends to wander...

    Anywho, good luck with the girls? Bahaha.
  • Jimmy
    edited April 2008
    i remember talking to some lady friends about this horny-ness with alcoholic influence.......are girls more horny when tipsy? like i guess the ability to hide the horny-ness is affected?

    /shrugs
  • Morro
    edited April 2008
    Nah, alcohol just weakens the anti-horny aspects of the mind, allowing the slavering beast to emerge from the cave and ravage the countryside.

    ...

    cunt-ryside? Too far? :p
  • Jimmy
    edited April 2008
    lol
  • IVTIVT
    edited April 2008
    randomuser;28662 said:

    i heart confident geeky guys that are cute, its like they have stuff they can teach you
    that's me!:teeth:
  • randomuser
    edited April 2008
    when im drunk ill probably make out with 50% more people than i normally would, its well established that alcohol disinhibits and opens up behaviour in general

    everyone's sex drive is different and i think biologically guys will generally be more driven to procreate rather than women, but as the human race progresses or regresses even we are pushed further away from our instincts

    when deviating from instincts its perfectly normal for each gender to become more equal in terms of their behaviour, i know girls who are absolute skanks, and play guys like nothing and use them, and the guys actually fall in love with the girl and its the girl teasing them

    as a few of us mentioned in relationships we can want it as much as guys or more, if we deem that person worthy, otherwise in my persuit of meaning sex is really only secondary to other goals
  • siuying
    edited April 2008
    Jimmy;28670 said:
    i remember talking to some lady friends about this horny-ness with alcoholic influence.......are girls more horny when tipsy? like i guess the ability to hide the horny-ness is affected?

    /shrugs
    pretty much.. to add onto randomuser's point.. you would probably make out with ppl that you normally won't see yourself making out with.. and it's not just a girl thing either..=)
  • hikin
    edited April 2008
    siuying;28694 said:
    pretty much.. to add onto randomuser's point.. you would probably make out with ppl that you normally won't see yourself making out with.. and it's not just a girl thing either..=)
    beer goggles :D

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