LOL i nvr see that happening ne time soon, woman trying to rule the world together, nvr gunna happen, as u guys have just proven, its hard for women to stay friends with each other if something comes up between them, now imagine a world of women trying to decide on a leader cooperatively. lol O man sum girls ive met live off gossip, like they actually cant hold a conversation without it relating to sum1 else. Something my bio 102 prof told me: "60% (or 80, lol i forget) of uni students conversation are about sum1 else not involved in the convo" = gossip
Hate you disagree on this one. I don't not believe that friends are obligated to follow your taste in relationship. Therefore, I believe that she has a right to go out with the guy you hate. Sure, you can voice your disagreement about her choices, however you should not stop her form pursuing that relations.
Unless of course the guy was a violent, abusive psycho and you nearly lost your life in that relationship, then you better tell her to stay away.
Not just that she went out with him, BUT stopped talking to me AND went behind my back. What kind of best friend does that? SHE stopped talking to me, and being my friend, JUST so she could be with him.
Now THAT, is uncalled for and totally BLACKLISTED in my books.
Ive had girls double cross me and ive double crossed other girls. Girls are undoubtedly more bitchy than guys are, hence why i dont have any VERY good girlfriends right now because of the bitchiness and backstabbing that goes on.
In regards to how men have ruled the world now, they have done a pretty shitty job. But, with that said, i dont really think women would do much better :(
Ive had girls double cross me and ive double crossed other girls. Girls are undoubtedly more bitchy than guys are, hence why i dont have any VERY good girlfriends right now because of the bitchiness and backstabbing that goes on.
It's all about maturity. When I was younger I experienced the same thing, but in the last years of high school my close group of friends had absolutely no drama whatsoever. The majority of other groups did, and that has carried on through University as well although I'm still friends with the same people. All girls for the record. Backstabbing and double crossing only happens if you succumb to that, and let it happen. If you're mature about it and handle the situation in question, there should be no problem.
I like to keep groups of friends separate too... some of my friends starkly contrast my other friends in terms of values, personalities, etc. Some would just not get along and I know that.
My best friend wasn't part of my bigger circle of friends, because she was a year younger. The guy wasn't as well, actually. So neither of them are connected in ANY WAY, except by ME, introducing them.
The only person, they could have possibly hurt mutually, was me. And well, that's what happened.
awww.. i feel you vonnie.. =( it's not nice knowing your close friends somehow had the intention of hurting you.. definitely not a nice feeling..
sometimes.. it's like you don't purposely go digging for shit.. but shit finds you anyway.. and it fucking sucks..
it does suck major, but on the contrary always look for positive things to come out of it, for example did u want that friend to do it later in life? when u could possibly have more on the line?
ive had a best friend backstab me over a girl, and it sucked balls cuz he basically turned a lot of my friends against me, heck he went to the extent to create fake accounts and pretend to be me... did i care? not really and after that i got some new friends who are like brothers to me now and i would honestly lay my life down for them if the situation ever arose as i know they would do the same for me and ive been in some close calls already... so in the end it all worked out for the better and i could care less about the few months i was thinking to myself "why would someone do this to me" :P
i should thank them for opening my eyes.. i would think i might pay a higher consequence if i had learned this later...
lol..can't i just whine about it like a bitch for once? =( and it wasn't just my trust that took a beating.. my ego plummeted down the hill and is still suffering from the bruises..:embarassed:
well ya im sure we all whine about our problems from time to time which is good cuz we get them off our chest right... but i find people, including myself, spend too much time thinking about their past a miss opportunities in the present because either their mind isnt there or they think the same thing will happen again
that's why i keep myself busy all the time cause if i have too much spare time.. my thoughts have the tendency to stray and get all twisted and warped.. so long as i don't get time for myself.. the thoughts won't come..
It's harder to forget when you see them constantly in classes and stuff... even if you try to avoid it they're there.
But I've moved on. I found better things in my life =)
ya that sucks then if u go to same school, i avoid certain party’s and clubs (for eg. mirage) where i might run into my ex as i have nothing left to say to her and she just wasn’t to be friends, ya ... she can dream on lol
Speaking of grad years, I once heard this pretty funny story from this girl...
There was this one high school couple and they have been going out of a while. In their grad year, the girl was accepted into some university while the guy didn't. The guy lied to the girl that he did get accepted so she would accept the admission offer and stuff. At the end of the year where most of the grads would gather at a bonfire on the beach wearing the clothes of their perspective post-secondary institute, the guy arrive with nothing. The girl was pissed and the relationship ended.
This is completely off topic but...
Is it just me or does this sound like a mix of the O.C. storylines? i.e. How at Harbour high school they had the same type of bonfire and how Seth lied to Summer about getting accepted to Brown so that she would go to Brown
I have been watching too many O.C. episodes lately. lol
On topic...
I find myself thinking about good past memories a little too much lately. I guess it's my way of calming myself down through this highly stressful period of taking exams.
An example of when I trusted someone too much...
One day back when I was still in high school, I gathered a group of people together to go to a concert. I got some of my friends from my high school and some from another high school. One of these friends from my high school was my ex bf and one of my friends from the other high school was one of my bffs. I introduced this ex bf to bff to each other. I was the only reason they ever met. Let's back up for a second... before this day I got out of a 6 month relationship (that's really long for me back in high school!) and was looking for a rebound. During that school year I slowly became friends with my ex. So naturally a month after my 6 month relationship ended I wanted to get with my ex. I liked him again... Back to the concert... my bff thought my ex was hot and liked him too. After that there were weeks when I was in a love triangle. My ex would go on a date with me one night and then on a date with my bff the other night (she would do this behind my back of course!). One of my other bffs was best friends with both with me and the other bff in the love triangle... things got ugly. The bff who wasn't in the love triangle did a lot of gossiping between me and the other bff... Eventually I flat out called up my ex and said 'Look we both like you. Who do you like?' He said the other girl.
They dated for 6 months. My ex was in one of my classes and we had mutual friends. About 4 months after the drama, I started talking to him again and we became friends. It was a couple years later after the fiasco when my former bff and I became friends again.. and now we're bffs again. If I was in love with my ex (the one in the love triangle) when she went after him then I would have never been able to forgive her.
I'm the type of person to forgive but to never forget. I have a boyfriend now and I am very secure with our relationship so I didn't mind when she met him. But if I was single and there was a guy I had a crush on and would like to date, I would not introduce her to him. If she knew the guy I had a crush on, I would not tell her. I still think she is a man-eating whore but I love her and she is my bff. After the ex situation described above, we have been much more open with each other and closer. She is hot and can get a lot of guys. It's a bit intimidating because she is competitive and for some reason likes to go after the guys I show interest in. However, I know that she looks up to me in a way and she's a bit jealous of me. We get along extremely well and have quite a bit in common. Awhile ago, I even asked her for some relationship advice... and the advice she gave me was good. I trusted her to give me good advice and she did. So I think I am beginning to trust her more... it's a slow process.
ya that sucks then if u go to same school, i avoid certain party’s and clubs (for eg. mirage) where i might run into my ex as i have nothing left to say to her and she just wasn’t to be friends, ya ... she can dream on lol
I used to avoid places where i thought my ex might hang out, but now i dont care.
Is it just me or does this sound like a mix of the O.C. storylines? i.e. How at Harbour high school they had the same type of bonfire and how Seth lied to Summer about getting accepted to Brown so that she would go to Brown
I have been watching too many O.C. episodes lately. lol
On topic...
I find myself thinking about good past memories a little too much lately. I guess it's my way of calming myself down through this highly stressful period of taking exams.
An example of when I trusted someone too much...
One day back when I was still in high school, I gathered a group of people together to go to a concert. I got some of my friends from my high school and some from another high school. One of these friends from my high school was my ex bf and one of my friends from the other high school was one of my bffs. I introduced this ex bf to bff to each other. I was the only reason they ever met. Let's back up for a second... before this day I got out of a 6 month relationship (that's really long for me back in high school!) and was looking for a rebound. During that school year I slowly became friends with my ex. So naturally a month after my 6 month relationship ended I wanted to get with my ex. I liked him again... Back to the concert... my bff thought my ex was hot and liked him too. After that there were weeks when I was in a love triangle. My ex would go on a date with me one night and then on a date with my bff the other night (she would do this behind my back of course!). One of my other bffs was best friends with both with me and the other bff in the love triangle... things got ugly. The bff who wasn't in the love triangle did a lot of gossiping between me and the other bff... Eventually I flat out called up my ex and said 'Look we both like you. Who do you like?' He said the other girl.
They dated for 6 months. My ex was in one of my classes and we had mutual friends. About 4 months after the drama, I started talking to him again and we became friends. It was a couple years later after the fiasco when my former bff and I became friends again.. and now we're bffs again. If I was in love with my ex (the one in the love triangle) when she went after him then I would have never been able to forgive her.
I'm the type of person to forgive but to never forget. I have a boyfriend now and I am very secure with our relationship so I didn't mind when she met him. But if I was single and there was a guy I had a crush on and would like to date, I would not introduce her to him. If she knew the guy I had a crush on, I would not tell her. I still think she is a man-eating whore but I love her and she is my bff. After the ex situation described above, we have been much more open with each other and closer. She is hot and can get a lot of guys. It's a bit intimidating because she is competitive and for some reason likes to go after the guys I show interest in. However, I know that she looks up to me in a way and she's a bit jealous of me. We get along extremely well and have quite a bit in common. Awhile ago, I even asked her for some relationship advice... and the advice she gave me was good. I trusted her to give me good advice and she did. So I think I am beginning to trust her more... it's a slow process.
well u can’t really blame her for a few reasons, for example i have my issues with my ex and when she gets really low, although we don’t ever talk anymore she always calls me and comes over although all her friends say she’s unstable and I’m "just an ex" so from their point of view she’s just doing this cuz she’s used to doing this not because she really wants to, so if that’s the case in ur situation ur friend might have thought u had feelings for the guy after u broke up only cuz u dated him for so long but this wasn’t really what u wanted, more like acting on impulse rather than desire.. i dono if that makes sense at the same time, u guys did break up so one could argue he’s free game :P
but in all seriousness i dono how girls do that, heck even some guys i would personally not date anyone that’s been with any of my friends that would just be sooo damn awkward i think even if my friends ok'ed it i still wouldn’t do it lol
I totally get what you guys mean about trust issues in relation to exes, my most recent one didn't exactly give me an excuse to open my arms to any guy. I am probably one of those people that continue being gullible and will trust another guy just as easily only because I believe each person is different and really, I suck at holding grudges it would be nice to have my guard up a few times but i ususally see the best in everyone until they give me a reason not to. And i totally agree with the quote "girls are undoubtedly more bitchy than guys are" because it's true. Even I have my moments as well but you just have to push the right button...
I don't trust anyone :) Can't open up to anyone, can't fall in love with them. One of my ex's...and best friends did something pretty horrible to me back in my day, .. dunno if that's the root of all this untrusting... but it's the way I am now! It's just me vs the world :p
Hahaa, not me! I still have grudges from highschool, but that doesnt necessarily mean anything really. Only, if i saw some of those people lying in a ditch on the side of the road, i would point, laugh, and drive right by smiling all the way.
If people arent nice to me, i see no reason to be nice to them. Some people dont realize what they do really hurts others, and this is something i have realized and is prolly why i am the way i am today. I look out for me (and my family of course). Thats it.
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O man sum girls ive met live off gossip, like they actually cant hold a conversation without it relating to sum1 else. Something my bio 102 prof told me: "60% (or 80, lol i forget) of uni students conversation are about sum1 else not involved in the convo" = gossip
or his penis trying to get himself one of them
look how men have led the world, and you say women would let their emotions get the best of them ;)
;)
:P
Now THAT, is uncalled for and totally BLACKLISTED in my books.
"Greek women, we may be lambs in the kitchen, but we are tigers in the bedroom."
and my all time favourite.. ;)
"Ma, Dad is so stubborn. What he says goes. "Ah, the man is the head of the house!"
"Let me tell you something, Toula. The man is the head, but the woman is the neck. And she can turn the head any way she wants."
^__________________^
In regards to how men have ruled the world now, they have done a pretty shitty job. But, with that said, i dont really think women would do much better :(
When I was younger I experienced the same thing, but in the last years of high school my close group of friends had absolutely no drama whatsoever. The majority of other groups did, and that has carried on through University as well although I'm still friends with the same people. All girls for the record.
Backstabbing and double crossing only happens if you succumb to that, and let it happen. If you're mature about it and handle the situation in question, there should be no problem.
i keep most of my friends separate...
My best friend wasn't part of my bigger circle of friends, because she was a year younger. The guy wasn't as well, actually. So neither of them are connected in ANY WAY, except by ME, introducing them.
The only person, they could have possibly hurt mutually, was me. And well, that's what happened.
sometimes.. it's like you don't purposely go digging for shit.. but shit finds you anyway.. and it fucking sucks..
ive had a best friend backstab me over a girl, and it sucked balls cuz he basically turned a lot of my friends against me, heck he went to the extent to create fake accounts and pretend to be me... did i care? not really and after that i got some new friends who are like brothers to me now and i would honestly lay my life down for them if the situation ever arose as i know they would do the same for me and ive been in some close calls already...
so in the end it all worked out for the better and i could care less about the few months i was thinking to myself "why would someone do this to me" :P
but i find people, including myself, spend too much time thinking about their past a miss opportunities in the present because either their mind isnt there or they think the same thing will happen again
But I've moved on. I found better things in my life =)
i avoid certain party’s and clubs (for eg. mirage) where i might run into my ex as i have nothing left to say to her and she just wasn’t to be friends, ya ... she can dream on
lol
Is it just me or does this sound like a mix of the O.C. storylines? i.e. How at Harbour high school they had the same type of bonfire and how Seth lied to Summer about getting accepted to Brown so that she would go to Brown
I have been watching too many O.C. episodes lately. lol
On topic...
I find myself thinking about good past memories a little too much lately. I guess it's my way of calming myself down through this highly stressful period of taking exams.
An example of when I trusted someone too much...
One day back when I was still in high school, I gathered a group of people together to go to a concert. I got some of my friends from my high school and some from another high school. One of these friends from my high school was my ex bf and one of my friends from the other high school was one of my bffs. I introduced this ex bf to bff to each other. I was the only reason they ever met. Let's back up for a second... before this day I got out of a 6 month relationship (that's really long for me back in high school!) and was looking for a rebound. During that school year I slowly became friends with my ex. So naturally a month after my 6 month relationship ended I wanted to get with my ex. I liked him again... Back to the concert... my bff thought my ex was hot and liked him too. After that there were weeks when I was in a love triangle. My ex would go on a date with me one night and then on a date with my bff the other night (she would do this behind my back of course!). One of my other bffs was best friends with both with me and the other bff in the love triangle... things got ugly. The bff who wasn't in the love triangle did a lot of gossiping between me and the other bff... Eventually I flat out called up my ex and said 'Look we both like you. Who do you like?' He said the other girl.
They dated for 6 months. My ex was in one of my classes and we had mutual friends. About 4 months after the drama, I started talking to him again and we became friends. It was a couple years later after the fiasco when my former bff and I became friends again.. and now we're bffs again. If I was in love with my ex (the one in the love triangle) when she went after him then I would have never been able to forgive her.
I'm the type of person to forgive but to never forget. I have a boyfriend now and I am very secure with our relationship so I didn't mind when she met him. But if I was single and there was a guy I had a crush on and would like to date, I would not introduce her to him. If she knew the guy I had a crush on, I would not tell her. I still think she is a man-eating whore but I love her and she is my bff. After the ex situation described above, we have been much more open with each other and closer. She is hot and can get a lot of guys. It's a bit intimidating because she is competitive and for some reason likes to go after the guys I show interest in. However, I know that she looks up to me in a way and she's a bit jealous of me. We get along extremely well and have quite a bit in common. Awhile ago, I even asked her for some relationship advice... and the advice she gave me was good. I trusted her to give me good advice and she did. So I think I am beginning to trust her more... it's a slow process.
for example i have my issues with my ex and when she gets really low, although we don’t ever talk anymore she always calls me and comes over although all her friends say she’s unstable and I’m "just an ex" so from their point of view she’s just doing this cuz she’s used to doing this not because she really wants to,
so if that’s the case in ur situation ur friend might have thought u had feelings for the guy after u broke up only cuz u dated him for so long but this wasn’t really what u wanted, more like acting on impulse rather than desire.. i dono if that makes sense
at the same time, u guys did break up so one could argue he’s free game :P
but in all seriousness i dono how girls do that, heck even some guys
i would personally not date anyone that’s been with any of my friends that would just be sooo damn awkward i think
even if my friends ok'ed it i still wouldn’t do it lol
This guy looks honest:
so does this guy:
...get my point? quoted for honesty
If people arent nice to me, i see no reason to be nice to them. Some people dont realize what they do really hurts others, and this is something i have realized and is prolly why i am the way i am today. I look out for me (and my family of course). Thats it.