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Attraction
So I think I kind of like this person but I'm not sure, this doesn't happen to me often
I think he is an attractive person but I'm not entirely sure I'm into him, I think I may have known him too long (as in I'd hit it, but I don't know if I would want to on a regular basis)
Has anyone ever been not sure about someone and then found they were interested?
Isnt it the true point of dating to find out if you like someone?
I'm just not sure, and for me it's normally an obvious thing when I'm into someone
I think he is an attractive person but I'm not entirely sure I'm into him, I think I may have known him too long (as in I'd hit it, but I don't know if I would want to on a regular basis)
Has anyone ever been not sure about someone and then found they were interested?
Isnt it the true point of dating to find out if you like someone?
I'm just not sure, and for me it's normally an obvious thing when I'm into someone
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Dating is very different among various ppl...for some, it is like u've said..to figure out if u like someone...for others, it's going out with someone u know u already like...
I dont go out with randoms...so i'm more of the latter...but if u "sorta" like him and he "sorta" likes you...dating for you, can be to "figure it out".
But like i said, i think it comes down to...does he reciprocate feelings of more than "just friends"?
Yes, dating is about finding out about a person, but I typically find that if you don't have "the feeling", you can't create it or replicate it.
what do u lose if u do date this person and eventually find out he’s not right for u? Probably nothing
but what if u don’t and then down the road realize u shoulda then ud be in a real pickle esp if his status changed lol
and believe me its a shitty feeling knowing u could of done something but didn’t :P
I'm the kind of person who tries and tries and tries, and after a while you just realize that you really didn't have any sort of connection.
It's better to just end things ASAP rather than waiting and hoping you'll feel something.
huh? i argued just what u said, instead of not "trying" give it a shot if after a short period of time of nothing comes out of it cut it off.. i never said try and try or keep trying... ya that would be shitty advice ;)
the main thing that puts doubt in my mind is he is too nice, he has a nice body more masculine than most guys ive known but his personality is too how you would say as non dominant, so i dont know what to think
when is too nice, too nice
just go for it!
from what you've described.
milk him for what it's worth.
on a serious note.. is it because of his personality being not so dominant (running contrary to his masculine characteristics) irking you or are you worried about being the one wearing the pants once you get into the relationship?
@IVT: umm.. i don't think illicit was referring to monetary terms.. =) though yes it can come in handy..
How about this - one date. That way you have tried, but if the spark just isn't there, it isn't there. I mean, I do agree that you can't know everything about a person unless you at least give them some kind of a chance, and you can't know if you feel the spark completely until you're really in a date scenario with them.
I tried dating my best friend, and it lasted one date, because at the end of it I thought, "This would pretty much just be the same as what we're doing now - just with kissing". But I don't regret having at least given that a chance.
sometimes guys just need to shut up and do what women say, just not all the time
i think its the fine ass body i cant get over, the body screams "im an alpha male choose me", but the personality says otherwise
how exactly do you ask someone out you know well, should you just like make out with them as indicating interest and testing out the water?
the way i structure my friendships with males i kind of have them all on hold, flirt with them all whether its serious flirting or not and they pretty much all do what you want most of the time, even if theres just the slightest, remote chance of getting something out of it like .001%, im not using them cause i like them, but guys are always on their 'A' game, when flirting is in the picture
im sounding like a player but in this world its normally play or get played
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and I’m sure if he’s as nice as u says he is he would already spend what he makes on u so win win... lol...so go n get it out of ur system then :P I’m sure the opportunity will arise, if I were u I wouldn’t ask him out but instead do something to make it 120% obvious beyond any doubt ur interested
haha dont flatter urself too much :P
eventually a guy will come along that will work u like warm Play-Doh
ive seen it far too often amongst my female friends when they think they got guys all figured out lol
my problem is want what i cant have, so when guys play hard to get thats my weakness, but i dont much chasing so it doesnt often come up
@bufli: way to put it.. warm play-doh.. XD i guess you haven't played it before because *you're not supposed to warm it*.. =P
i have a question: do girls generally not "go for it" when they like a guy? Do they want the guy to make the first move?
@ IVT
hell ya man! it’s even better when they pull that hard to get shit and then u got the whole deal of realizing no means yes and maybe means no and yes means ur screwed etc. :p
i need someone who can make up their own mind at times not me all the time, theres a fine balance between a guy being a jerk and being the woman in the relationship
ive never really gone for the nice guy though so maybe it could be a good thing
as for you: just go for it! What do you have to lose?