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What do you think of someone who sleeps with..
You on the first date? I find that when it does happen with guys I lose all respect for them. Its just like "yeah I have to be up early tommorow morning...just press G to get to the main floor".
Ive never been able to get into relationships with guys I slept with on the first date, or even second even. Has anyone here ever had a relationship with someone they slept with right away?
Ive never been able to get into relationships with guys I slept with on the first date, or even second even. Has anyone here ever had a relationship with someone they slept with right away?
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Not to sound harsh but it just reminds me of a one night stand.
I lose all respect for guys that do this as well.
I just get so bored of them at that point, Im just curious as to whether it can work, like see them again and maybe youll see them as a decent person, Ive heard stories of some of my friends or friends of friends dating people they hooked up with too soon
edit: and by dating them like LTR a few year relationship
I've always been really uptight when it comes to sex early on in the relationship though. Most of the time guys understand.
It's also pretty fun to push the boundaries for a little while until someone breaks.
Have sex whenever you're comfortable doing it. If that's two days in, so be it. If it's three months in, so be it as well. It's only bad if you do it before you're comfortable, because you're pressured, or afraid he'll move on, or what-have-you.
it totally goes both ways its like that game foozball? or whatever it is, thats a better analogy for sex
don't forget the STDs!
i honestly think its pretty close minded to say its wrong to sleep with people on the first date too, i think weve moved into an age were falsities implanted into your minds by the catholic church and various other sources can be disregarded.
the only downside of sex too soon with people is of course the risk of STD's if you dont know them well, and not know their status, but thats totally up to two consenting individuals...and of course there is always protection
its not something i personally like to do but i wouldnt judge others who do it, again my original proposition was is it possible or probable that a LTR can develop out of a one night stand
That said, I do think that a certain double-standard is not only justified, but necessary to fairly and accurately evaluate people's mental condition. Girls are biologically wired to put more emphasis on sex than guys, and so a girl sleeping around is a better indicator of emotional problems than is a guy sleeping around. It may not fit with the super-PC worldview in which men and women are identical, but it's true nonetheless.
So, the problem with women who become sexual very quickly, aside of course from health concerns and pregnancy, is that it says a something about her emotional state. Most girls who jump into bed right away do so because they have low self-esteem. In these cases, I don't think labelling them as 'whores' is either compassionate, or accurate in its implications.
If I meet a girl, and they are out there, who mentally approaches sex as does a male, who simply likes sex and wants sex, and isn't rushing into sex in order to ensnare a man or anything similar, then it's all good. It seems rather primitive, to me, to think of the vagina as some perishable item. Too many uses, and it goes bad? I think the modern feminists are idiots, yet even I think that's an appalling way of looking at it.
Sex is a very important thing to me, and if the guy is just willing to sleep with me right away, it really makes me question his character.
don't do it. it sets expectations for the rest of the relationship, and your partner will emphasize the physical aspects of the relationship. this puts you on a bad footing for later on when the whole thing gets more serious, or when the physical side of things begins to subside.