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Why do we like who we like?
I have a theory love is the recognition and ignorance of another's faults.
I notice personally some guys who I would find sleazy may or do some of the same things as guys who I like, but I find the behaviours annoying/gross/retarded in the guys I dont like, and funny or bad boyish in the guys I do like.
Beyond physical we do we end up liking who we do? Is it because we choose to? Or is it actually them
I notice personally some guys who I would find sleazy may or do some of the same things as guys who I like, but I find the behaviours annoying/gross/retarded in the guys I dont like, and funny or bad boyish in the guys I do like.
Beyond physical we do we end up liking who we do? Is it because we choose to? Or is it actually them
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For me, I like to be around my BF because it feels safe. I think that's the way to put it... like, nothing can hurt me or whatever. Well, it's not just that, but that's something different than with other guys I've liked before.
I agree to a certain extent that it's in the recognition of their faults because for sure I wouldn't date like a guy who doesn't wash his hands coming out of the washroom or likes to mak on 50 girls in 1 night.
Anyways, I think it is more the connections than anything else.
Or if youve ever hyped someone up in your head and you just ignored all their faults which normally you would be turned away from.
I think connections between people are so subjective, for example
if someone is good looking youll ignore their personality more, hot chick makes a bad joke, guy laughs anyway
It the formula:
Looks minus annoyances equals tolerability?
For me it was hit or miss. I met the my bf twice VERY briefly (short intro) before I asked him out. I YES I ASKED. ahhaha. I never really saw any 'faults' when I jsut saw him be himself with his friends. Normal guy. I felt really comfortable with him on the first second I talked to him, and yes, I felt like I wanted to know him more. After I got to know him better, I can't say I see any big faults other than the fact he can seem a little arrogant sometimes, but you learn to deal lol, since you're in it for the whole pkg, not jsut a small part. The looks thing never really phased me at all (besides the initial HEY YOU'RE TALL! I'M TALL! COOL!)
Cheers.
Anyone?
Anyone?
Retaliation & Vengence
Dude I wouldn't date you! Hahaha
good communication = (potentially) good relationship etc etc
learning to like someone we didn't like initially or vice versa?
just throwing out random stuff..
my brain is pretty messed up right now..
Dumper retaliation & vengeance
Dumpee retaliation & vengeance
Well... what if they've never had a relationship before? Then they can't be based on those things :D