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When could you see yourself settling down?

randomuser
edited November 2007 in General
Like marriage or just a real long term commitment? I always thought I wanted to wait until my late twenties but before thirty, but I'm already thinking of marriage in my relationship of 3 years, I always worry maybe I'm too young.

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  • noname
    edited November 2007
    I would want to get married when I'm around 30 years old. I think it'll take a while for me to establish myself career wise. I think there is more to life then getting married. I doubt my gf would want to get married anytime soon anyhow.
  • baby e
    edited November 2007
    I can see myself doing it in a couple of years, and Im only 22. I dont want kids until Im around 27 to 30 tho cuz I really want to establish a career for myself first.

    I wouldnt worry about being too young. If you are in love, then thats good and you should go with it if it feels right. So if that means marriage and thats what you want (since you are already thinking of it) then there is nothing wrong with that.
  • randomuser
    edited November 2007
    Well I wonder if its a waste of time that Im paying all this money to get a degree if Ill end up at home raising a kid, or if he should do it, or who should be at the stay at home person
  • Broken Lizard
    edited November 2007
    i want kids by the time i'm 25, dun want to be one of those old ass dads, haha
  • illicit
    edited November 2007
    personally, until i can sustain myself, which includes a prime career and well-made assets will i consider even "searching" for a girlfriend/companion.

    don't get me wrong, i make friends no problem, i'm not a non-sociable person nor will i say no if the right girl happens to meet me but i won't search for a girlfriend. better to do without than to do whoever, especially when i put money and career before this type of relationship.

    so 30+ to answer your question, hopefully sooner, which will imply i attain my goals earlier which is definitely better.
  • random
    edited November 2007
    since people are talking about this topic...

    when do you think you're going to get married? and does it vary with guys and girls??
  • Kevin M.Kevin M.
    edited November 2007
    Good question man, I find myself entertaining the thought of marriage at times. My intentions are similar to illicit's in that I want to be stable in my career and wealth before I take on the added responsibility of raising a family. I've seen so many families go through rough times that I don't want the same issues affecting my kids or my home life. At the very least, I want to finish my Bachelor's degree...at the very latest, I want to be 30 and well off so that I can focus a majority of my time raising my family rather than attempting to make money by working. Speaking of which, work sucks...if I could figure out a way to go to school for the rest of my life and get paid for it, thats what I'd do
  • noname
    edited November 2007
    ^ yeah work does suck. I've been working for a year and a half now and it is so friggin boring. Hopefully, I'll pass my CFA exam this December so I can do something different in 2008.
  • baby e
    edited November 2007
    randomuser: why does anyone have to be the "stay at home" person? Why dont you both work? Thats what Im planning on doing. We'll both work, but when and if a kid comes around, I'll take maternity leave for a year, and then go back to work. I dont want to be a stay at home mom.
  • randomuser
    edited November 2007
    Well in my scenario my parents arent around so having relatives help watch the kid while we both work so that isnt something I ran through my head.

    I guess I personally just don't believe in hiring a sitter to watch my kids 5 days a week.

    I didnt consider daycare though, and Im assuming we'd both be working mon-fri 9-5.
  • baby e
    edited November 2007
    Daycare would be a good option when they're old enough. I personally have no problem hiring someone who is qualified to watch my kids....however, I think it will be quite the challenge to find someone to trust enough to watch them.

    I hadnt really thought of getting my parents to watch the kids. I was just gonna hire someone.

    Anyways, you've got time to think about tho (and so do i!), so you dont much need to worry about this sort of thing right now. But you could always work for a little bit while your wife stays home and watches the kids and then she could work for a little bit and you could stay home. There are different paths to take. I just personally think that a dual income is better than just one (since we do live in Vancouver and we all know what the prices are like here). All the money you can get will be beneficial i think.

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