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Once a cheater, always a cheater?

Krazy_Konrad
edited November 2007 in General
I have been having this conversation with a few of my friends, both guys and gals. It seems to me that most people believe that a person who cheats on their girlfriend/boyfriend/husband/wife will pretty much always cheat again in future relationships.

So the questions are:

1) Once a cheater, always a cheater?

2) Would you ever start a relationship with someone you know has cheated on their 'other' in the past?

Comments

  • Kevin M.Kevin M.
    edited November 2007
    Personally, cheating shows a certain lack of morals and respect for your partner. Although there are people that will cheat on their partner, the ironic thing is that cheating is so unnecessary in today's culture. People are pretty comfortable sharing their current and past relationships in the search to find that one person that they are most compatible with. So as a guy or girl, if you are not satisfied with your partner, why not tell them that and move on? It takes a certain amount of emotional detachment in order to cheat, so why not have some integrity and apply that to do the right thing and tell your partner that you are interested in other people..

    Anyways, that said, I wouldn't want to go into a relationship with a girl who's cheated in the past because all it takes is "one mistake" for it to happen again...and I wouldn't want to live with even a 1% uncertainty in my relationship. No matter what anybody says, for a healthy and productive relationship, there has to be 100% trust so whether or not the girl is still a cheater is irrelevant to me.

    I think of relationships like looking at someones resume. Would you want to work with someone who's screwed over their company in the past? What does that tell you about their morals and level of control? I feel like such a hypocrit saying all this but it's true...there are however some cases where the person learns from their mistakes, moves on and matures (maturity is the key). This person would be very unlikely to cheat in the future.
  • Morro
    edited November 2007
    It depends on what happens after the cheating. If they eventually get into a relationship with the person they cheated with, it's a bit different than if they just cheat with someone they have no feelings for. If you cheat with someone, then end your current relationship to be with that person, it's still a little harsh, but it's not the same thing as cheating just for the sex, and trying to continue the current relationship. One is a bad decision, the other is a bad moral action.
  • siuying
    edited November 2007
    1) no.. i don't believe that someone who's cheated will always been a cheater.. just that it looks bad on credibility and you'll have to work extra hard to prove otherwise.. but hey.. no one told you to cheat in the first place.. =P

    2) i don't really try to question ppl's past.. unless they're willing to share or that there's something i need to know.. but i really go by this when it comes to relationships.. don't expect your partner to be faithful when you're cheating behind their backs.. if you're gonna cheat.. so is your partner.. but i believe everyone should be given a second chance to redeem themselves.. after all.. even first impressions aren't always correct.. =)

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