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noname
edited October 2007 in General
I've been seeing this girl for a couple of weeks now. Anyways, today she wanted to go thru my cellphone to look thru my cellphone contacts and messages cuz I think she thinks I'm a player but I'm not. Anyhow, I hate it when girls go thru my private stuff. She ended up arguing with me and seem to be upset. How do you guys handle this? Do you guys just not bring your cellphone with you?

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  • Broken Lizard
    edited September 2007
    wtf what a bitch
    tell her to screw off, its your personal stuff and you've only been dating for a few weeks, jeez
  • toast
    edited September 2007
    well, if you have nothing to hide or anything... who really cares
  • Morro
    edited September 2007
    Tell her that she can go through your cell phone when you can go through her purse and read her diary.

    And if she calls your bluff, then point over her shoulder and say "Oh my God, is that that guy from the Hills?!?" and then when she turns around, you run away.

    But seriously, that's not cool. Don't set a precedent where she is the queen of your life. Tell her no.
  • toast
    edited September 2007
    Morro;16378 said:
    Tell her that she can go through your cell phone when you can go through her purse and read her diary.

    And if she calls your bluff, then point over her shoulder and say "Oh my God, is that that guy from the Hills?!?" and then when she turns around, you run away.

    But seriously, that's not cool. Don't set a precedent where she is the queen of your life. Tell her no.
    Then make yourself King of her life then :D
  • Insatiable
    edited September 2007
    Everyone requires some personal space. Don't get up in my space and I swear I'll leave you alone. You tell you sweetheart that her getting all up in your space is not conducive to your level of comfort. Just say that you don't feel right about someone getting into your personal space. No one has the right to be the king or ueen of someone else. She should know that and if she doesn't, then perhaps it's time for you to part ways with her.
  • baby e
    edited October 2007
    This is such a touchy topic. Its hard to say cuz you guys have only been dating for a few weeks, but us girls get suspicious when a guy constantly gets text messages all the time. I think she has a right to ask who is texting you (if she is your gf), but you also have the right to ask her too when she is texting someone.

    I think it has to go both ways. If you have nothing to hide, there is no reason to be upset about it, but going through someone's phone is a little weird, ive never done that. But if you're constantly texting people all the time, why shouldnt she wonder who it is? And if you're not playing her, then you shouldnt have a problem with saying "oh its so and so".
  • illicit
    edited October 2007
    folder lock on your textmessages that you need private. just say you've had experiences of other people running through them.
  • gawdawaful
    edited October 2007
    So if cellphone is fair game, how about emails?
    I can understand that it should be both ways, "but us girls get suspicious when a guy constantly gets text messages all the time" is not a good enough reason. Learn to trust or you'll just both be wasting your time anyways. I realize this is easier said than done, but this is for both the guys and the girls who are suspicious: Deal with it.
  • baby e
    edited October 2007
    ^Well, im speaking from experience in this department. My ex was so suspicious of me and my text messages, but i would show him them if he wanted cuz i had nothing to hide. Then one day, i was like, "well you always look through my phone, so lets see yours" and he was like, "i was sure one day you would say that". I looked at his phone (in front of him) and he had erased all of his text messages and his call history. When i asked him about it, he said it was none of my business what text messages he was receiving....but yet he ALWAYS looked through mine and said that he should be "allowed" to do that because that was "the way it should be"....but yet i wasnt allowed to look at his and he felt the need to erase them??

    I agree 100% that you need to trust the other person, but if you have nothing to hide, then whats the big deal?
  • siuying
    edited October 2007
    i personally won't go looking into people's cellphone because i value people's privacy and unless they give me permission or offer me to do so.. i'm staying away from it... consequently.. i don't discuss any touchy subjects on sms with my friends and i periodically clear my inbox (once it gets full).. my point is that if you've got something to hide or don't want ppl to know about.. don't call/sms.. there are better ways to discuss stuff like this than to talk it over text msgs... like a cup of coffee.. =)
  • Smiles
    edited October 2007
    I agree with baby e. Trust is definately earned. Its really up to the other person to make you feel secure in your relationship. Perfect example would be what baby e said. She had no problem telling her boyfriend who she was texting, etc... therefore that makes him feel secure, because she has nothing to hide. Flipside... her boyfriend erased everything, what is he hiding... how is that suppose to make her feel?

    Anyways, girls should not be asking to go through your phone after 2 weeks. I have been together with my b/f for 6 years and I have never went through his phone. However, if I wanted to, I'm sure he would not care.
  • 中国&#30
    edited October 2007
    I didn't want to touch this subject but I have to say that it's usually the guy that makes the initial outgoing call/e-mail and not the girl. A guy has numbers/e-mails to hide if he has a girlfriend and is calling/e-mailing another girl. A girl rarely calls/e-mails a guy first unless he is her boyfriend. As for girls, they are on the receiving end of the call/e-mail. So, girls could either answer or not if the call/e-mail is from another guy besides the boyfriend.

    I think a phone should be off limits but others may think it is valid to go through each other's phone. It all depends on the relationship.
  • Kevin M.Kevin M.
    edited October 2007
    So basically, f you look at things rationally. The guy has nothing to hide, so he is annoyed that she doesn't trust him. She doesn't seem to have any real reason to be so surspicious, so maybe she is paranoid because she has something to hide herself.
  • illicit
    edited October 2007
    INSECURITY.

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