Real depression is unmistakable - you can't get up, you can't do anything. In fact, bouts of real depression are so bad that people don't even commit suicide during them - they commit suicide between them, because during them, they are literally too depressed to get up and jump off the building.
If someone is sad all the time, they're probably just sad. Depression is marked by unreasonable sadness. If you're sad for a reason, it's not depression, it's sadness. If you're sad when you have no particular reason to be sad, it might be depression. Depression is marked by the fact that no change in your circumstances could make you feel better.
I agree with Morro. Depression affects people both mentally and physically, often making it difficult for them to function normally in daily activities. not only is a depressed person feeling enduring bouts of sadness, but they can also feel aches and pains in their bodies, thoughts of suicide, anxiety, too much/little sleep, etc. they lose interest in everything, including things they were once passionate about and there is little one can do to change that. however, it's common that depressed people don't experience ALL of these symptoms, so it's best to talk to a professional or a counsellor to help determine the severity of the condition.
But i can get up in the morning and do my daily things. So....i guess im not depressed then....?
You see, back in May, both of my cats got horribly sick (they were both 19) and we had to put them down within a really short time of eachother. When we put the first one down, i was really sad, even though she was "technically" my brother's cat. I cried for days straight and cuddled my other cat thinking that i would have her for a few more years of course. Then she suddenly got sick, wouldnt eat, stuff like that. The vet said it was kidney failure and that there was nothing they could really do for her and that her age just caught up with her, much like what they said for my other cat.
Now, the second cat that we had to put down, she was my best friend, i mean, my BEST friend. Ive had her since i was 3. When we put her down, i didnt cry as much as i did when we put down my brothers cat. I just kinda stared at her lifeless body and shed a few tears.
I thought something was wrong with me cuz i wasnt really horribly upset like i was when we put down our first cat. Then about a month later, i just started crying all the time. Things got iffy in my family life too and all ive wanted is to do is to move out, but cant because of certain things that i wont bore you with.
But seriously, i just start crying at random times during the day. And i think about my cats constantly. I dont know whats wrong with me. And it just seems to be getting worse. I pretty much cry everyday.
Do you think talking to a professional would really help? I mean, what could they possibly tell me....that im sad over my cats deaths? Wow, im gonna pay them money to tell me something that i pretty much already know?
I just want to stop crying and being sad and i know it takes time, but time has gone by right? I hate being sad cuz ive always been a really happy person. When im with my bf, im happy, like unbelievably so. And i know that being back at school will prolly make me a bit happier cuz i like going back to school. So, im not sad all the time.
I just miss them so much and dont know how to get over this. :(
baby_e, I sympathize with you--it sucks to lose your pets. I cried when my dog had knee surgery, so i can't even imagine what u were going through.
you might think it's ridiculous that you're sad over your cats deaths but personally I think it may have the last straw on the camel's back. maybe things were building up inside until finally you just had to let it all out.
I feel so dumb crying over my cats. I think its other things too....well actually i KNOW its other things too. But thats the main thing. But its a lot to do with my parents too lately. Its all having an effect on me. Its gotten to the point where i just wanna run away, you know? Just kinda leave it all behind. Obviously thats not an option.
Yah, maybe i'll go to a SFU counsellor. I dunno. It just seems to be getting worse and i find myself being sad all day long. I even find myself hating Vancouver now when i once used to love it.
Maybe a counsellor or therapist is the best option for me. I dont want to go to one, but its just getting worse everyday.
we call him limpy-poo because he walks with his three legs now but otherwise my dog is ok, thanks :) but pets are like family too and i understand how it can be very painful to watch them suffer or pass away, on top of other stressful things that occur in our daily lives.
i agree with meesh.. the cats were probably the last straw for you upon all the family issues.. i guess the deaths of your cats sort of gave you an outlet to do so.. and it's not neccessarily a bad thing to let things out the way you are.. you gotta let some out once the bottle gets full... but definitely try and talk with someone abt it.. i didn't do that thinking i could keep everything under control when in reality i was a complete mess.. don't learn it the hard way dear.. =)
....yah ok, i'll run and try some herion right now
:/
Thanks siuying, i might do that. I dunno, the last 4 nites i have spent at my bf's and have been pretty happy the last few days. But i just got home tonite and i already feel my mood just going down a bit. Its so strange. I honestly think i just need to move out. Im too stiffled here and this house just reminds me of my cats to be honest. I really wish i could just pack my stuff right now and move out.
try moving the furniture around your house? it does give you something to occupy your mind and gives your house a new look.. =) maybe it could take away the "stifle-ness" you're feeling.. or just spend more time at your bf's place.. =D
Yah I cant really move the furniture around since i live with my parents and they like things the way they are, but that is a good idea nonetheless.
Ive been spending tons more time at my bf's house and really love being there with him. Im just gonna concentrate on school i think and try to keep my mind off of other things.
But seriously, i honestly think this house is just making me so sad, cuz today i walked down the stairs and thought i saw the shadow of where my cat used to sit (when coming down the stairs, she always used to sit at the bottom and would cast a little shadow at the bottom)....it was so heart-wrenching :(
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If someone is sad all the time, they're probably just sad. Depression is marked by unreasonable sadness. If you're sad for a reason, it's not depression, it's sadness. If you're sad when you have no particular reason to be sad, it might be depression. Depression is marked by the fact that no change in your circumstances could make you feel better.
I agree with Morro. Depression affects people both mentally and physically, often making it difficult for them to function normally in daily activities. not only is a depressed person feeling enduring bouts of sadness, but they can also feel aches and pains in their bodies, thoughts of suicide, anxiety, too much/little sleep, etc. they lose interest in everything, including things they were once passionate about and there is little one can do to change that. however, it's common that depressed people don't experience ALL of these symptoms, so it's best to talk to a professional or a counsellor to help determine the severity of the condition.
Well, im sad, sometimes.
But i can get up in the morning and do my daily things. So....i guess im not depressed then....?
You see, back in May, both of my cats got horribly sick (they were both 19) and we had to put them down within a really short time of eachother. When we put the first one down, i was really sad, even though she was "technically" my brother's cat. I cried for days straight and cuddled my other cat thinking that i would have her for a few more years of course. Then she suddenly got sick, wouldnt eat, stuff like that. The vet said it was kidney failure and that there was nothing they could really do for her and that her age just caught up with her, much like what they said for my other cat.
Now, the second cat that we had to put down, she was my best friend, i mean, my BEST friend. Ive had her since i was 3. When we put her down, i didnt cry as much as i did when we put down my brothers cat. I just kinda stared at her lifeless body and shed a few tears.
I thought something was wrong with me cuz i wasnt really horribly upset like i was when we put down our first cat. Then about a month later, i just started crying all the time. Things got iffy in my family life too and all ive wanted is to do is to move out, but cant because of certain things that i wont bore you with.
But seriously, i just start crying at random times during the day. And i think about my cats constantly. I dont know whats wrong with me. And it just seems to be getting worse. I pretty much cry everyday.
Do you think talking to a professional would really help? I mean, what could they possibly tell me....that im sad over my cats deaths? Wow, im gonna pay them money to tell me something that i pretty much already know?
I just want to stop crying and being sad and i know it takes time, but time has gone by right? I hate being sad cuz ive always been a really happy person. When im with my bf, im happy, like unbelievably so. And i know that being back at school will prolly make me a bit happier cuz i like going back to school. So, im not sad all the time.
I just miss them so much and dont know how to get over this. :(
you might think it's ridiculous that you're sad over your cats deaths but personally I think it may have the last straw on the camel's back. maybe things were building up inside until finally you just had to let it all out.
i wouldn't say to go to a professional right away. SFU has counselors that will help students at no cost (http://students.sfu.ca/health/counselling/index.html
hope things get better for u!
I feel so dumb crying over my cats. I think its other things too....well actually i KNOW its other things too. But thats the main thing. But its a lot to do with my parents too lately. Its all having an effect on me. Its gotten to the point where i just wanna run away, you know? Just kinda leave it all behind. Obviously thats not an option.
Yah, maybe i'll go to a SFU counsellor. I dunno. It just seems to be getting worse and i find myself being sad all day long. I even find myself hating Vancouver now when i once used to love it.
Maybe a counsellor or therapist is the best option for me. I dont want to go to one, but its just getting worse everyday.
i sent u a pm, btw.
e makes u feel good too
lol
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Thanks siuying, i might do that. I dunno, the last 4 nites i have spent at my bf's and have been pretty happy the last few days. But i just got home tonite and i already feel my mood just going down a bit. Its so strange. I honestly think i just need to move out. Im too stiffled here and this house just reminds me of my cats to be honest. I really wish i could just pack my stuff right now and move out.
Ive been spending tons more time at my bf's house and really love being there with him. Im just gonna concentrate on school i think and try to keep my mind off of other things.
But seriously, i honestly think this house is just making me so sad, cuz today i walked down the stairs and thought i saw the shadow of where my cat used to sit (when coming down the stairs, she always used to sit at the bottom and would cast a little shadow at the bottom)....it was so heart-wrenching :(